Why did this Cancer man back off suddenly?

I sure hope I can get some help on this forum because I feel like I'm going crazy. At work, there's this Cancer guy I've had a crush on since the day I first saw him. We work in different departments, so I only see him occasionally, but for the first year whenever we would run into each other, he would always seem nervous around me. I've caught him looking at me when he thought I wasn't looking, and then when I'd look at him, he'd turn his head quickly. And anytime I'd say "hi" to him he'd always give a nervous "hi". A few times that first year I'd try to make small talk with him and he'd be polite, but I could never get a real conversation out of him because he always seemed nervous and would never say more than he had to. Yet I've seen him talk to other girls and he always seems at ease, so it makes me sad.

Then last fall, he did a total 180 and started being friendlier to me whenever he would see me and give me sexy mischievous smiles whenever he saw me. Finally earlier this year, we were making small talk one day and he asked me if I wanted to go out with him that weekend! I was so excited inside (but played it cool on the outside) and said sure, and he gave me his number. He seemed excited too. But then that weekend when I texted him to find out when we should meet up, he texted me back HOURS later telling me that it had been busy all day and he was sorry and some other time (no way did it take him hours to see my text because I always see him playing on his phone when we're at work). I was hurt, but I texted him back and acted like it was no big deal and said no problem, some other time.

Well, about a month goes by and I don't run into him at work or hear back from him, so I text him back asking him what he's been up to and why he never texted me back. He never says why he didn't text me back and just tells me he hasn't been up to much. I press further (in a friendly, not nagging way), and then once again he just doesn't bother responding.

So in the last few months, I've only seen him twice in passing: one time he said hi and asked me how I was doing and the other time he had to speak to a co-worker that sits next to me about something work related, but didn't even bother to say hi to me even though he was nearby. Now my heart is broken. What made him finally make a move after a year, and then back out just a few days later? Is this Cancer man playing hard to get? Was he catching feelings and got scared? Help!

Posted by Kodak375
He lost his interest. Move on for your own good.

That doesn't answer my original question: How does a guy go from taking over a year to work up the nerve to ask someone out, then finally does, and then "lost his interest" within two days of asking them out? And I should also add, why does this guy park his car right next to mine on a regular basis when we have a huge parking lot at work and he could park in plenty of other spaces?

Are a lot of Cancer men this weird?

He may have just asked you out to see if you were interested, you were and that's all that he wanted to know. Or he may have picked up on your eagerness even though you tried to play it cool. If someone is too eager at the start, it's a turn off for me. I never felt the need to chase someone if I already know where I stand with them.

I agree with crabbycrab, although eagerness does not turn me off. unfortunately if he is not responding to your text that's a bad sign and probably not interested anymore.