After a breakup

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Cappedoff
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How are you Caps after a breakup or a letdown? Do you get over it easily and able to be on your way or internally really dying? Does it make it harder for you to look forward to another relationship and/or trust?

I've read in so many places how we Caps are supposed to be so tough and be able to go on with our lives during and after a breakup ... well for me it's not happening. Yeah; I can fake everything's ok just to get work and daily things done, but inside I'm really dying. All the emotion wreckage. Is this common or am I just some strange thing?
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truecap
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sure, I'm sad and depressed, but I'll find positive spins to convince myself the break up is a good thing. Thoughts such as I don't have to deal with ____ anymore, or remember all the bad things about the relationship - basically supressing the positive. It's all about perception and viewpoint, choosing to be happy. After a little bit, I'll start looking forward to the next adventure. It doesn't take long really.

I'd be more disappointed in myself for thinking that person had better qualities than they did. Like I should have seen it and irritated at myself because I didn't. See, it takes so much for me to trust and feel the person is worthy, then I just feel like my judgement skills were off.