Am I friendzoning myself

By not making a move with the Capman??

I feel that taking it slow is right but my Libra friend keeps saying things like if you dont kiss him he will kiss someone else, or If I were him I would dump you, and You are friendzoning/cockblocking yourself.

Is it dumb for us to be dating this long and not have kissed yet? Weve talked about life views, kids, owning a house, marriage, religion, we have common interests but I feel we are going at a right pace. I just got out of a relationship and I made it clear to him that I wanted to take things slow. He said he respected me and was grateful that I said something...

Am I just ruining everything by not making a move? He did say he wants to kiss but I am not ready yet and I don't want to lose him, and I wont, because we have a good relationship. We are building a friendship first and I like that. Im not worried about losing him because what we have is awesome and I know he will stay bcause so far he has gone to lengths to appease me.. I just hope he doesnt think hes doing too much and gets tired of not getting any action.

I mean I do want to kiss him eventually I dont know.. Cap men help!!!!! Am I moving exageratedly slow?? Is it just me or would you guys be ok with this?!

UGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHH ther I go with the Virgo over thinking again.

xox

woops excuse the typos... typing from a tiny phone

So,actually you dont want to kiss him??

If there are 5 weeks and no kiss ,is friend zone,i think..
Try holding his hand ,or touch him on arm or shoulder and he will get the hint..

Posted by Peanutbutter

...My Libra friend keeps saying things like if you dont kiss him he will kiss someone else....

I'd say exactly the same thing! 😆
He likes you. You like him. Probably he's dying to kiss you. Why not?
I understand you dont want to hurry things up. But things won't evolve naturally if you don't show him he's the one...

It's just a kiss.... it's not like your marrying the guy...

The longer you wait, the harder it's going to be. Just do it already!!!

It's just a kiss afterall.

If someone already expressed they want to kiss you and you don't...that means you aren't flowing with this person so it's not a good relationship.

I remember your posts on this site and you always got yourself into situations like these..it can really be seen as manipulation via controlling your expression of feelings. Just a thing to keep in the back of your mind.

Nothing wrong with taking it slow if that's the vibe between you. But you need to be aware that if you feel like kissing him but don't do it..that is not ok because he can pick up on that.

So basically just kiss him. Imagine you're back in kindergarden..boy was that easy back then 😄

My first response:
Ugh, Libras giving advice about Caps... My experience is that they have problems understanding Caps and tend to project their own ideas on others.

That being said, he/she is probably right. He will be patient if you keep him updated, but there is a limit.
Give him a kiss and enjoy your time with him. Sex is not the immediate step within a day after that. 😉

Posted by TigerCap

Ugh, Libras giving advice about Caps... My experience is that they have problems understanding Caps and tend to project their own ideas on others.

I have to disagree on that. I can't see things like a Cap would, that's true, but I fully undestand and respect the Capricorn way of doing things. Generalization is hideous, anyway. I'm not supposed to get well with earth signs, but my group of friends is full of caps and virgos and we have perfect chemistry. Give us a chance, Tiger!

Rebounds can certainly turn into something more 😛. Idk.. I am hurt by my past (not that I am not over the ex, he can go f himself, its more the situation) and scared to move forward because in my mind I will be putting myself out there to be hurt again. That is why... I know I know, different situation..different guy.. But thats just how my mind works until I can be reassured that it is safe for me to open up and getting to know him is giving me that sense of safety. .

Anyway, so I went over last night for two hours and he called me his gf to the pple that were there... Cute. As I was leaving and we hugged goodbye he was sweet and gentle like always. He did want a kiss but of course I turned sideways and he was a total gentlemen.

After I left I met up with my girl and our friends at a bar and they all told me the same... to kiss him lol.

TC. You're right... its just a kiss... We have a date today and seeing how he has made me feel safe and his temper and patience have remained calm I will most likely kiss him...

Yeah I dont want to think n plan it its just everyone around me is pressuring me into doing it so it has become a topic of discussion because I am conflicted :/

Also we didnt kiss on our date tonight 😭

I like him and I want to just throw myself into mindless love again but I'm scared 😭

Maybe you are not ready for a relationship,yet.
I think is not fair for him either to feel rejected.Dont use him as band aid.Sorry to be a bit harsh,but you have unresolved emotions on the other guy.Did you had a closure?i moved on only when i had a meany discussion with ex-).
Maybe after some time when you ready to date again,he will come back to you,you never know.
After my previous relationship,also with a Cap,i couldnt date for few months.I talked with friends,taking out my sorrow and after 6 months(more or less) i started to date again.Onether Cap-)

:/

Guys he's my bestie. We had a breAkthrough last night wherr we both realized we're best friends. We can tell anything to one another..

We kissed too lol. It feels good to be falling for my best friend 🙂

Im so glad we didnt rush things cus its aaaaall good! Idk why I was so worried... well I do know, it's because I'm a Virgo lol

Ps. The kisses were... Nice. Lol. 😄

Well done!Congrats!-)

New issue guys.

We kissed Sunday night while out drinking after he was like "I wish you would just kiss me already, I keep putting myself out there being affectionate and vulnerable and nothing" (I went in for a peck some time after that some slight lip action on my part, he went in full monty and frenched me several times lol. It was a surprise.), spent the night and cuddled, Monday night spent the night and cuddled again..

Still no kiss on the lips since Sunday evening hmm.. I have noticed hes a germaphobe (annoyingly so) but really?! That cant be it. He kisses me on the cheeks and neck and I let my eyes linger to see if he'll catch the hint but nope. We hug and hold hands out in public and at his place..

Im going over tonight to see whats up... Maybe he thinks my breath stank? Lollol

Maybe he changed his mind and wants to remain pals...? Hmm

He is attracted to you ,but waits for you to be emotionally available?
Also,when my bf gets to much into frenching and other stuff(no sex yet) he becomes quiet for 1 or 2 days and after that comes back very strong-i see him like a 'wave'.
Be patient if you have feelings for him,but if you see him just to validate you as a person,to raise your self esteem ,he will see that and will go away(sorry to be blunt,but you are a Virgo ,just like me and also seeing a Cap just like me-).
The previous Cap was also a germaphobe(by some strange reason i got few times mouth herpes,when kissing him- maybe because was winter and i have a problem with low immunity?).That made me quite worried..
The actual Cap has no problems with germs and i started dating him also in winter and i didnt have any mouth herpes-).
Cap men are very kissable,when they kiss ,it feels like they want to eat up your mouth-🙂

Nevermind...... spoke too soon lol.

Let me scooch on outta here *nervous laugh*

And......*exits stage right*

😄