are all cappies fools like myself

I think I have a problem. I continue to go back into a relationship that I know is going nowhere.
I stayed single for 5 years up until the past two. On and off I have dated this one guy. It never lasts. 9 to 12 weeks together and he hides. I keep going back. I don't understand myself. Anyone else with this annoying problem?

Posted by ladycappi41
I think I have a problem. I continue to go back into a relationship that I know is going nowhere.
I stayed single for 5 years up until the past two. On and off I have dated this one guy. It never lasts. 9 to 12 weeks together and he hides. I keep going back. I don't understand myself. Anyone else with this annoying problem?

My cappie friend (was just speaking about her) has been seprated from her virgo ex for 3 years....(almost 6 years together and 2 years friends) and for the 3 years of not being together they talk, text, and sex. When they go cold turkey of not speaking she ends up RIGHT back.

Thats a long time. As a cancer I would prob loose intrest...BUT she is in hopes of marriage and Baby....

So perhaps youre not alone.

Yes I'm trying to get back into a dead end relationship. Also my mum says cappy chicks....We always hurt ourselfs

Posted by ladycappi41
I think I have a problem. I continue to go back into a relationship that I know is going nowhere.
I stayed single for 5 years up until the past two. On and off I have dated this one guy. It never lasts. 9 to 12 weeks together and he hides. I keep going back. I don't understand myself. Anyone else with this annoying problem?

We love to be in love. Let go of perception you need to be with this person and embrace the possibility of someone who wont stray after 2 months. I'm only 20 but have experienced this on a shorter scale (still v intense emotions) but u need to learn your lesson, and learn to let go.

I sometimes wonder if its part of deep commitment issues.

You obviously have no problems being alone, and to a certain extent, you still are alone. An occasional glimpse of a relationship and some affection is obviously good enough for you, which is why you go back because it's not demanding of your all. Do you want more? If so, then you are definitely wasting your time.

Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by ladycappi41
I think I have a problem. I continue to go back into a relationship that I know is going nowhere.
I stayed single for 5 years up until the past two. On and off I have dated this one guy. It never lasts. 9 to 12 weeks together and he hides. I keep going back. I don't understand myself. Anyone else with this annoying problem?

I've been there. It's cause we're so hardheaded. And you get to a point where you feel like you've invested SO much and you don't want it to all be for naught. But just how much more time do you wanna waste on a "what if"? Cut your losses and move on. You'll thank yourself in the long run.

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I agree with cheeky. There's also that element of not wanting to fail, so we keep working at a relationship that is a dead end.