Am I too harsh?

I have little to no tolerance or patience for game playing. For folks my age or younger, I don't expect anything cause a large portion is flaky and inconsistent, insecure, etc. I expect more from older folks, but yeah...some never stop playing.

Seems like "mindgames" and "push pull, etc are more common than I'd like to hear. I'm Aries Rising, I just like to cut straight to the point and again, no patience for games. Either you're in or you're out. My Cap parts remind me as well that gaming playing is disrespectful, in a sense, since it pisses time away from my life to bother with.

Is this just the crap that comes with the territory and should I just deal with it? Any advice how to deal with this type or any ways to repel/shut them down as soon as they try it? Just...I could laze about enjoying nap time over having to play the game.

Posted by Android
Hurt feelings or hurt feelings.

Neither. Just honest distaste for it. It wastes my time and I can do very well on my own.

Posted by RainDancer88
Yup.
It's a good question, why dive in head first if it's not reciprocated?

"A way to shut them down when they start playing games?" haha. I'm a sag with aries mars - I bluntly call it as I see it. I lay all the cards out on the table which disarms them.

Like, you need to know that I cut straight to the chase. I expect you to do the same kapeeeesch? :-)

Truth is - the game doesn't exist. Throw the theory out the window. We only see what we look for so look for logic, Spock! If you feel like you're getting played with, directly question your suspicion.. can't hurt. Better than wondering and trying to decipher it behind the scenes... You'll either like their answer or not. right?

True, though that action might get seen as too intense. Which is why I asked if there was any other options.

Posted by tiziani
Usually it's just a case of pressing on with what you have to do, the right people will jump on board anyway.

Speaking from experience?

The second we see situations as game to be won I think we are instantly made losers..

Bruce lee said that we have to be bamboo unlike a branch in the wind it bends because its flexible the rigid branch snaps.

When we see the world as a game we are only seeing that platform.

The trick to dealing with a game player is transparency and its something to look forward to exercising every time the opportunity arises because it lets people know what you want and you should't be afraid to utilise it ??_..its a complete game changer because it completely eradicates the playing field leaving only you and the other person??_..Think what ghandi or bhudda or any other really wise man would react to someone trying to get the better of them??_

Its kind of like the way a person with asbergers doesnt understand jokes??_.People who exercise transparency are the wisest people and the thing is that theres always an opportunity for us to be transparent..

if your not sure what it means then look it up.

Posted by HeavySky
I don't think so. If you don't tolerate any games, period, that sucks for you.. learn to have some fun! There are times when you'll feel like tagging along and sometimes when you wont and that's natural.

Playing games is this context is not fun. It's immature and pathetic and says more about the game player than the one "being played".

This isn't just innocent ribbing here; game players should be told it's not going to fly and if they carry on then do it with someone else.

Their issues not yours

You can deal with it by not trusting people and treating them with indifference until they prove in many ways that they can be trusted.

Also by not being easy. You put a little effort into making someone happy ? Wait until they do the same. Then put a little more effort.. and so on. That way you can see how much you value each other, and where it ends.

Nah man. I'm the same way. It takes one to know one. I'll quickly shut someone down if they're trying to play games with me. It's a waste of time if someone can't get straight to the point with me. Just keep doing what you doing man because it's worth it and it's very much like you.

I call people out on their shit. They get taken aback. . I make it clear I recognize their game and it will not be tlerated.They're either on board or they're not. Its up to them

Posted by PVandJellay
Gosh your personality is so refreshing. Too harsh...hell no. I'm the same way. I hate wasting time. It's like let's quit all this foolishness, either you want me it you don't. And if you don't, please move it along. If a person's interest seems ambiguous or uncertain, I don't waste my time playing guessing games, cause I got options.

Exactly. Plenty out there, so it makes no sense to let anyone waste your time with games, right?

Posted by truecap
I call people out on their shit. They get taken aback. . I make it clear I recognize their game and it will not be tlerated.They're either on board or they're not. Its up to them

Same. Amazing how many flakes and crazies it keeps away from you, right?

Posted by Android

I'm saying that when people approach with that kind of mindset.. you can either hurt their feelings or hurt their feelings. They may be offended by you walking away or calling them out. It doesn't matter what you do sometimes.

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Then no matter what, they were too scared to approach me normally and too weak to deal with my reaction. No violence or emotion, just intolerance for the "game". Not worth wasting my time dealing with. My Pluto in 7th would murder them metaphorically.