Avoidance or ...cowardice?

This is a trait I noticed many cappies posses, namely, avoiding arguments.
Unlike a lot of other signs, particularly the most argumentative water signs, but also Fire signs, we cappies, usually duck 'out' when there is an argument, especially if it gets 'out of propotion' instead of trying to see it through to the very end. Do we lack constructive energy ?
I may see a particular argument as being 'unworthy' of my time, and effort but others may see it/me otherwise. They may not think I am reliable, or have any opinion to be heard.....😢
How can we confront others and situations without 'withdrawing', or getting overly aggressive, and dominant? How can we better assert ourselves, and make it clear that we are here to be 'heard'?

Hi Kiwigirl,

I would say the best and most honest way is to just express yourself with love and compassion. Your feelings coming from your heart. Those whose ears that need to listen, will.

We all are here to be heard and we all are here to listen. Listening is the hardest for us as we try so hard to constantly talk, to make ourselves "known". Silence can sometimes make a stronger point. I also feel that it is HOW we communicate our feelings that matter the most.

Cappies are great problem solvers...at least the ones that I know are. (they don't think they are though which I don't understand and that is another topic).

Good luck...just know that being YOU is enough 🙂

I think you were right on at the last sentence you said. Know that being you is enough! How someone communicates their feelings is a matter of individuality. No one can be or should be expected to burden themselves to fit the approval of those who don't like what they have to say or how they say it. That is resticting someones basic freedoms and it should never be allowed!

If you have something to say, say it by all means. Once you have and the other side want to try and change your mind, then I would just let it go and avoid it for the sake of peace.

Good luck to you!

It's actually neither. Not avoidance, being a coward, etc. In my opinion I think it stems from the fact that a Cappy fears that he/she will not be understood? And that is why they avoid arguments. They are logical. And unless THEY other party(ies) are understanding of that a cap will always back away before saying anything. And let's face it...most people ARE NOT understanding. Granted most would like to thing they are BUT THEY REALLY AREN'T. And a Cap can sense this.

I don't think it has to do with "energy" like you said. Caps are a "common sense" people and you no doubt are one of them. LOVE yourself for that trait - as it is very rare!

If you feel strongly about something voice your opinion with assertiveness. In other words speak your say, and wait for a reaction. If all is "calm" continue and voice yourself and what you think on the matter. If you sense it may not be so than walk away cuz it'll be like you said....not worth your time cuz you'll know you're dealing with people "who don't understand". And they are the worse types IMO!

Give them a run for their $ $ $ first before you walk away though! You can do it and you'll be surprised at the results! It's believing in yourself! If others sense this, and they will, then you should never have a problem again...with anyone!