Cap girls & their mixed signals

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ocdrumco
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11 Years

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I'm head over heels for this cap. We met at a party & go to school together and I was instantly captivated by their demeanor and personality. Here comes the curve ball??_I'm a girl and she's a girl. I never asked her directly if she was into girls herself but i'm sure she implied it by saying "every girl has at least been interested in another girl one point in her life." (not word for word but i'm sure you catch my drift.) One day she asked me candidly if I liked her, & at first I lied but eventually confessed & from that point nothing was the same between us. From my understanding she was still heartbroken from a previous relationship. She turned me down very cold-heartedly & was found it disrespectful that I lied to her. Fast forward a couple months later, we start talking again.I was helping her through a tough time and immediately she let me in again. However this time my intention was just to be friends with her??_& heres where I catch the love bug again and all the mind games come into play (not to insult any of you caps but i'm sure you know what i'm talking about) anyway she starts flirting with me.For instance..touching me, letting me in on some personal secrets,cooking for me and letting me sleep over. I also notice she stares??_ALOT, and mimics much of what I say and do. She never treated me this way before, but I liked it 🙂. However, I didn't want to make the first move since I didn't want a repeat of what happened earlier between us. I simply played along and let her do much of the flirting. Just recently,however, she's been giving me the cold shoulder, ignoring my texts messages and phone calls. I know I didn't do anything wrong, but if I did I wouldn't know what it was I did to upset her. She just ignores me and acts like a jerk whenever she does respond to my messages. I may be reading into details wrong but thats why I'm here. I am interested in someone else at the moment & I told her. She looked unhappy and immediately mentioned all the guys she's hooked up with and how she wants to get back with her ex (of course this was when she wasn't ignoring me). I think she's playing games, or it could be the real deal.Should I just give up on this cap? Or try harder? I need some helpful cap advice. Much appreciated :3
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RedCoat
@RedCoat
12 Years500+ Posts

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She's using you for your attention, she knows you want her romantically so she's seeing how much of a benefit she can get without leaving her comfort zone. Her comfort zone seems to not include sex with other women, even if she may be "attracted" to them in certain ways.

Once she feels you may make a move towards true romance she takes off and pushes you away.

Don't let her do that to you.
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24capgal18
@24capgal18
14 Years500+ PostsCapricorn

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as stated above she is using you for the attention sinces she knows you thinks shes hot, so that she can gain her self confidence back, plus shes in her vulnerable stage where she is still feelin confused on weather or not she wants to give up relationshps with guys and be with a female or if she is just biCURIOUS and wants to have sexual acts with you or not. SHE knows how this could affect your friendship so she doesnt wanna act on it by impulse of hormones, but if shes being overly friendly, theres a huge chance she has recapped that same incident you spoke of, an is hoping you try her again, so she can do what shes been thinking about in her head .