Cap in contemplation

I posted this in the leo thread and need my fellow caps input



My partner Leo with

Venus cancer

Moon Taurus

Lend me your ears!. I have been in a relationship with this Leo female for 4.5 yrs we have had our ups and downs but this time feels different I feel different. Some hurtful things were said, and from then I have had a tightness in my throat that won't subside. We had a long talk after a series of blow-ups and just weird tension that either of us can handle.

We spoke on this weekend which was my birthday Jan 19th woot. She told me that the spark not their anymore and she been feeling like this for awhile, and she needs to work on herself and she just tired of the relationship, and she doesn't want to keep doing this to me. I was relieved at her speaking her mind seeing I'm constantly telling her to talk instead of blowing up cause it doesn't always need to be an argument ( yes, I mess up too) she was pulled a back that I wasn't mad. I told her how I felt that I still feel the spark for me and yes, I want to through in the towel many times but when I stare at her I don't know there is nowhere else I rather am ( i just need space at times). There were tears as our families have come to care for us both. After that talk, I was surprisingly sad and happy at the same time for the relief that we talked.

After we went to a bonfire cuddle fell asleep, spent the following day together and came to work together.

I do still have this tension in my thought as if I cant breathe but I feel that an accumulation of not talking. I do want us to spend more time apart have other hobbies she spends time on her etc. But i wonder can i suggest that after what she said should I call it quits and if she wants to not be here why is she still here.

Hence my limbo.. any advice or views is greatly appreciated

Posted by littlenanobyte
The feeling you have is the dreadful feeling people get when their relationship is beginning to die. You hate the feeling and would do ANYTHING to make it go away, but deep down you know you can't fix it and you know the truth. Sometimes you'll even lie to yourself and "see" false hope in places where it doesn't exist, because that's better than feeling the pain of it ending. Do not let it drag on for a year like I did. Don't let it control you and drag you to the depths of hell. From my own experiences, and this has happened twice, that feeling is the end.

Your Leo was honest with you when she spoke to you that day. I know that it probably hurt her to tell you that and that it took a lot of courage for her to say. You should listen to her. I think it's best to go separate ways for now, do your own thing, try not to focus on it, and just see what happens from there.

Good luck and let the healing commence

sigh thank you your right as strongly as i feel best i let it go

Posted by Capri-sun
Sometimes it takes time for people to seperate, and sometimes people say things that tgey don't really mean.

I think your calmness and reaction threw her off & that is why she is still hanging around even though she doesn't want to be around. Ot maybe because you mentioned the spark is still there on your end and that gave her some sort of reassurance she was seeking.

I think it is okay for you to mention spending more time apart as she suggested it in the first place, and I would word it along those lines.

let the chips fall where they may