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CapTenn
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Posted by ElusiveSoul
Posted by gyuf

Make it clear to him that he needs to come to a compromise. Perhaps just ask him to withhold judgment until having met with them more. He'll warm up.



Warm up?!

No offense, gyup, but in my personal experience those afflicted by racial prejudice do not just wake up one day and "worm up". Granted, we all have our preferences when it comes to dating/relationships, but that is just it..personal preference. Whereas, Mr. Cap's opinion, on the other hand, extends beyond his own.
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If racism is a learned behavior, as we are told, and I personally believe, than it can be "unlearned".

And, my experience differs from yours, in that, I have seen bigots just "wake up" one day. That's usually how it happens, through a significant personal experience.

Just my 2 cents .... (which is worth 37 dollars and change 😉)

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Posted by ElusiveSoul
Posted by CapTenn

If racism is a learned behavior, as we are told, and I personally believe, than it can be "unlearned".

And, my experience differs from yours, in that, I have seen bigots just "wake up" one day. That's usually how it happens, through a significant personal experience.

Just my 2 cents .... (which is worth 37 dollars and change 😉)




If racism was a learned behavior, by todays standards, I would only hope it was eraticated by now!

Our experiences do not differ as much as you might like it to believe, as there were indeed exceptions to the rule I, myself have witnessed. That being said, personally, I would not advise a mother of two children to embark on a journey to enlighten a man having all the other responsibilities pressing down upon her shoulders!


PS: Your two cents is meaningless to me unless is invested wisely! Just my 2 cents 😉



I've yet to see a racist baby, toddler, or small child. Racism is most definitely a learned behavior.

It is certainly her decision to fish or cut bait, and there are no wrong decisions for her. The man clearly sounds like a fool based on the picture painted here, and hardly worth anyone's time. But I would say, if the enlightened pass up the opportunity to educate the ignorant, then don't fault the ignorant for continuing to be ignorant. There's the investment opportunity you desire. 😉 (I'll wave the fee this one time)

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Posted by ElusiveSoul
Posted by CapTennThere's the investment opportunity you desire. 😉 (I'll wave the fee this one time)



*coughs* It may behoove you to learn how to flawlessly "quote" first, prior to making any propositions concerning your portfolio....

It paints a bad picture, you know! Just sayin' 😉
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Yep, this format isn't very user friendly. I saw that I had accidentally erased the 'blockquote', but was too lazy to go back and re-do it. Please excuse my informality, madam.
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Posted by truecap
Do you live in the south?

I'm just wondering if this cap has never had a friend of another race and is just ignorant.



Yes, we live in the south. But, that is no excuse for ignorance or lack of respecting other humans. He says he has "ni---- friends"....SMH. The killer here for me is that he has a gay roommate....but that is fine with him. Don't get me wrong, I have absolutely no problem with someone being. He calls him a "fag" behind his back, but will hug his neck when he's in front of him. I asked him how he can speak so negatively about roommate. He says roommate knows he's a fag so it shouldn't come as a surprise. I wonder if he ever takes an honest look in the mirror at himself. My guess is no.
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Posted by tiki33
Misslibra I'm surprised you stuck it out with a man who talks about people behind their back.

Any man that uses the term n***a, fag is a loser. RED FLAG

Next time you encounter a man like this please don't waste 3 months on human waste.

I read where you wrote you were moving on and that's a very smart decision on your part.



It bothered me and I told him it did. Telling him didn't seem to phase him one bit. I was giving him an opportunity to modify.

I am not looking back...definitely moving on. I've done plenty of thinking about all the little things I let slide. Add those to the big things and it's just horrible.

Thank you for your opinions and observations. I'm grateful.
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Posted by MissLibra
Posted by truecap
Do you live in the south?

I'm just wondering if this cap has never had a friend of another race and is just ignorant.



Yes, we live in the south. But, that is no excuse for ignorance or lack of respecting other humans. He says he has "ni---- friends"....SMH. The killer here for me is that he has a gay roommate....but that is fine with him. Don't get me wrong, I have absolutely no problem with someone being. He calls him a "fag" behind his back, but will hug his neck when he's in front of him. I asked him how he can speak so negatively about roommate. He says roommate knows he's a fag so it shouldn't come as a surprise. I wonder if he ever takes an honest look in the mirror at himself. My guess is no.
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It could be that redneck mentality. Some of them are raised to think way. Those are the ones who have to re-learn and re-program themselves. I find that classier and more evolved people accept others for their character rather than based on the color of their skin. The ones who are unwilling to look at a person's heart and character have very little character themselves, which is a big turn off.
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Posted by MissLibra
Posted by truecap
Do you live in the south?

I'm just wondering if this cap has never had a friend of another race and is just ignorant.



Yes, we live in the south. But, that is no excuse for ignorance or lack of respecting other humans. He says he has "ni---- friends"....SMH. The killer here for me is that he has a gay roommate....but that is fine with him. Don't get me wrong, I have absolutely no problem with someone being. He calls him a "fag" behind his back, but will hug his neck when he's in front of him. I asked him how he can speak so negatively about roommate. He says roommate knows he's a fag so it shouldn't come as a surprise. I wonder if he ever takes an honest look in the mirror at himself. My guess is no.



It could be that redneck mentality. Some of them are raised to think way. Those are the ones who have to re-learn and re-program themselves. I find that classier and more evolved people accept others for their character rather than based on the color of their skin. The ones who are unwilling to look at a person's heart and character have very little character themselves, which is a big turn off.
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It is a huge turn off. On a happier note....my beautiful daughter and her sweet boyfriend just brought flowers and chocolate covered cherries to me at work....just because. 🙂
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UPDATE: I talked to both of my kids yesterday about what happened. My son said that Cap wanted to purchase some tires and rims my son is selling. Cap told him he'd pay in installments. Son said that'd be fine but he wouldn't take the tires and rims until he's paid for them in full. Cap told him he'd give his word that he'd get his money and would just go ahead and take them that day. Son said no, that they would be paid for first.

This was my "aha" moment. THIS is why Cap thinks my son is disrespectful...LOL. My son is smart and isn't going to get screwed over by someone not paying him. Why should he take someone's word that he's only met twice.

Further, I called my brother yesterday to chat. Cap is brothers friend, so in light of what has transpired, I wanted to make sure things are good with brother and me. Apparently, anything that was said between Cap and myself has been twisted around and he put his spin on it. Brother was accusing me of saying things I never said, based on what Cap told him. Nope, he wouldn't listen to reason, nor did he stop to think that he knows me and knows I wouldn't say things like that. So, he's taking his word over mine. He had me on speaker phone. Cap and brothers wife were there listening to the conversation but never spoke up.

Brother is very materialistic and can use Cap to get product and services from Cap's business for free. I don't have that to offer him.

There are many other family dynamics between brother and myself. He's done this before so his behavior is not really surprising. Doesn't seem like I've lost much.