Cap mentioning exes?

My Cap's cousin showed up in town unannounced and threw him off. His cousin is a wild and crazy kinda guy.
The cousin came over to Cap's place for a catch up. We were hanging out with drinks and chatting. When we went outside to look at the view, Caps says "I used to live by the water with my other gf" Not sure if he said ex or other.

Then later on he said "remember that picture you gave me when you came to my wedding?"

It made me feel awkward. I mentioned it to him and he said it was just to refer to a point in time...

Any thoughts?

He does have a history and it is what it is. Just because he mentions it, doesn't mean he wants to go back there. But he does have memories and he does have life experiences that happened before you. Nothing either of you can change it so just accept it. He probably loved living by the water (I would) and he probably misses that, but it doesn't mean he misses his ex. He referenced the time the cousin gave him the picture because that way the cousin would know which picture he was talking about. It doesn't mean anything. He was married before and now he's not. It's just a fact. Don't put some much importance to someone's past.

You have a past, too. You have experiences, old boyfriends, memories that happened before him. Does that mean you want to go back to those?

It only makes you feel awkward because you're insecure.

It's not like he's talking about the stuff to make you jealous. Like he said, it's a point of reference. It's in the past and for caps what's in the past stays in the past. We move on, but that doesn't mean we erase those memories. Sure, he could have left out the "with my other gf" but it does put a add a time frame to the time line of his life.

My aqua mentions his ex wife in his stories from time to time. I mention my ex husband. We were both married before. Sure, it bothers me to think he used to be with her (and I'm sure it bothers him when I mention my ex). But, it is part of the past and we both know this. We know neither of us wants to go back. We realize those experiences with our exes make us who we are today. We realize we are both better people now and we're happier together than we ever were with the exes.

Don't fret the small stuff, is all I'm saying.

Thank you Truecap. He might have been trying to make me jealous as later that night he texted he wished he had a gf to come home to and said he loves me.

I'm conflicted because he is still dealing with his health issue and we are still fighting a lot. He is extremely moody and spiteful sometimes. Sigh, we still have a long way to go before I feel comfortable giving the bf title.