Posted by pinkbird03
You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
Posted by ladylibra21Gotcha. How's your relationship going? How long have you been dating? Are there any red flags? I know cap men can be confusing!Posted by pinkbird03
You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
That's kinda what I was thinking too was that he wanted to make space. But I said shut down again because those are the words he said after he talked about his mom because I said have you tried to tell her how you feel? And he said, "You are the only one I talk to about this stuff." "You know too much about how I feel I am going to shut down again." Because we were talking about him pushing feelings down and he said that's what I've been taught my whole life is to push it down and move forward. He sounded very tired and vulnerable when he said it.
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Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21Gotcha. How's your relationship going? How long have you been dating? Are there any red flags? I know cap men can be confusing!Posted by pinkbird03
You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
That's kinda what I was thinking too was that he wanted to make space. But I said shut down again because those are the words he said after he talked about his mom because I said have you tried to tell her how you feel? And he said, "You are the only one I talk to about this stuff." "You know too much about how I feel I am going to shut down again." Because we were talking about him pushing feelings down and he said that's what I've been taught my whole life is to push it down and move forward. He sounded very tired and vulnerable when he said it.
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You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
That's kinda what I was thinking too was that he wanted to make space. But I said shut down again because those are the words he said after he talked about his mom because I said have you tried to tell her how you feel? And he said, "You are the only one I talk to about this stuff." "You know too much about how I feel I am going to shut down again." Because we were talking about him pushing feelings down and he said that's what I've been taught my whole life is to push it down and move forward. He sounded very tired and vulnerable when he said it.
My mom or any other family member can drive me mad, irritate me, hurt me, disappoint me, or whatever. I won't talk to them about it. I just suck it up and deal with it. That sounds like what he meant. talking to them about it doesn't change anything so I just deal with it.
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Posted by ladylibra21They move slow... lots of girls, including myself have become impatient with them and it spirals down from there. Don't rush things is my advicePosted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21Gotcha. How's your relationship going? How long have you been dating? Are there any red flags? I know cap men can be confusing!Posted by pinkbird03
You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
That's kinda what I was thinking too was that he wanted to make space. But I said shut down again because those are the words he said after he talked about his mom because I said have you tried to tell her how you feel? And he said, "You are the only one I talk to about this stuff." "You know too much about how I feel I am going to shut down again." Because we were talking about him pushing feelings down and he said that's what I've been taught my whole life is to push it down and move forward. He sounded very tired and vulnerable when he said it.
That's the thing we are not saying we have just been flirting for a year but we work together. When he went to my show 2 weeks ago and asked me to lunch later that week was the first time we had ever hung out outside of work. 10 minutes before he asked me to go to lunch he told me his dating life was non existent and on the way back from lunch I picked his brain and found out he had been single for 3 years.
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Posted by Capri-sunPosted by ladylibra21Posted by Capri-sunPosted by ladylibra21Posted by pinkbird03
You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
That's kinda what I was thinking too was that he wanted to make space. But I said shut down again because those are the words he said after he talked about his mom because I said have you tried to tell her how you feel? And he said, "You are the only one I talk to about this stuff." "You know too much about how I feel I am going to shut down again." Because we were talking about him pushing feelings down and he said that's what I've been taught my whole life is to push it down and move forward. He sounded very tired and vulnerable when he said it.
My mom or any other family member can drive me mad, irritate me, hurt me, disappoint me, or whatever. I won't talk to them about it. I just suck it up and deal with it. That sounds like what he meant. talking to them about it doesn't change anything so I just deal with it.
That's what I figured he meant but then he made that comment about not telling me everything.
What do you mean?
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Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21They move slow... lots of girls, including myself have become impatient with them and it spirals down from there. Don't rush things is my advicePosted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21Gotcha. How's your relationship going? How long have you been dating? Are there any red flags? I know cap men can be confusing!Posted by pinkbird03
You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
That's kinda what I was thinking too was that he wanted to make space. But I said shut down again because those are the words he said after he talked about his mom because I said have you tried to tell her how you feel? And he said, "You are the only one I talk to about this stuff." "You know too much about how I feel I am going to shut down again." Because we were talking about him pushing feelings down and he said that's what I've been taught my whole life is to push it down and move forward. He sounded very tired and vulnerable when he said it.
That's the thing we are not saying we have just been flirting for a year but we work together. When he went to my show 2 weeks ago and asked me to lunch later that week was the first time we had ever hung out outside of work. 10 minutes before he asked me to go to lunch he told me his dating life was non existent and on the way back from lunch I picked his brain and found out he had been single for 3 years.
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Posted by ladylibra21Probably. I don't think he has decided yet. Just because you've known him for a very long time doesn't mean you've been dating that long. I'd definitely say he's interested because he gives you his time. You'll have to actually date for six months for him to decide. Or at least I think he's that type of cap to do so.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21They move slow... lots of girls, including myself have become impatient with them and it spirals down from there. Don't rush things is my advicePosted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21Gotcha. How's your relationship going? How long have you been dating? Are there any red flags? I know cap men can be confusing!Posted by pinkbird03
You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
That's kinda what I was thinking too was that he wanted to make space. But I said shut down again because those are the words he said after he talked about his mom because I said have you tried to tell her how you feel? And he said, "You are the only one I talk to about this stuff." "You know too much about how I feel I am going to shut down again." Because we were talking about him pushing feelings down and he said that's what I've been taught my whole life is to push it down and move forward. He sounded very tired and vulnerable when he said it.
That's the thing we are not saying we have just been flirting for a year but we work together. When he went to my show 2 weeks ago and asked me to lunch later that week was the first time we had ever hung out outside of work. 10 minutes before he asked me to go to lunch he told me his dating life was non existent and on the way back from lunch I picked his brain and found out he had been single for 3 years.
Very true he was in the office instead of the field again this week and I asked him if I was buying him lunch and he replied with that he had lunch but then later makes comments like I just need to be loved joking around. I think he probably thought I would push about the note I sent him, but I genuinely just wanted to but him lunch and hang out. Maybe he just feels like he isn't ready to give an answer?
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Posted by pinkbird03*Sigh* my poor lonely vagina lol no I know this is teaching me a lesson in patience I just don't want to ruin it before we get to a point of actually dating.Posted by ladylibra21Probably. I don't think he has decided yet. Just because you've known him for a very long time doesn't mean you've been dating that long. I'd definitely say he's interested because he gives you his time. You'll have to actually date for six months for him to decide. Or at least I think he's that type of cap to do so.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21They move slow... lots of girls, including myself have become impatient with them and it spirals down from there. Don't rush things is my advicePosted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21Gotcha. How's your relationship going? How long have you been dating? Are there any red flags? I know cap men can be confusing!Posted by pinkbird03
You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
That's kinda what I was thinking too was that he wanted to make space. But I said shut down again because those are the words he said after he talked about his mom because I said have you tried to tell her how you feel? And he said, "You are the only one I talk to about this stuff." "You know too much about how I feel I am going to shut down again." Because we were talking about him pushing feelings down and he said that's what I've been taught my whole life is to push it down and move forward. He sounded very tired and vulnerable when he said it.
That's the thing we are not saying we have just been flirting for a year but we work together. When he went to my show 2 weeks ago and asked me to lunch later that week was the first time we had ever hung out outside of work. 10 minutes before he asked me to go to lunch he told me his dating life was non existent and on the way back from lunch I picked his brain and found out he had been single for 3 years.
Very true he was in the office instead of the field again this week and I asked him if I was buying him lunch and he replied with that he had lunch but then later makes comments like I just need to be loved joking around. I think he probably thought I would push about the note I sent him, but I genuinely just wanted to but him lunch and hang out. Maybe he just feels like he isn't ready to give an answer?
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Posted by ladylibra21I know exactly what you mean. You should invite him out somewhere you think would be a good time.Posted by pinkbird03*Sigh* my poor lonely vagina lol no I know this is teaching me a lesson in patience I just don't want to ruin it before we get to a point of actually dating.Posted by ladylibra21Probably. I don't think he has decided yet. Just because you've known him for a very long time doesn't mean you've been dating that long. I'd definitely say he's interested because he gives you his time. You'll have to actually date for six months for him to decide. Or at least I think he's that type of cap to do so.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21They move slow... lots of girls, including myself have become impatient with them and it spirals down from there. Don't rush things is my advicePosted by pinkbird03Posted by ladylibra21Gotcha. How's your relationship going? How long have you been dating? Are there any red flags? I know cap men can be confusing!Posted by pinkbird03
You said "shut down again." Why did he shut down before? I hope he's not using this as an excuse on purpose to create distance between the two of you.
That's kinda what I was thinking too was that he wanted to make space. But I said shut down again because those are the words he said after he talked about his mom because I said have you tried to tell her how you feel? And he said, "You are the only one I talk to about this stuff." "You know too much about how I feel I am going to shut down again." Because we were talking about him pushing feelings down and he said that's what I've been taught my whole life is to push it down and move forward. He sounded very tired and vulnerable when he said it.
That's the thing we are not saying we have just been flirting for a year but we work together. When he went to my show 2 weeks ago and asked me to lunch later that week was the first time we had ever hung out outside of work. 10 minutes before he asked me to go to lunch he told me his dating life was non existent and on the way back from lunch I picked his brain and found out he had been single for 3 years.
Very true he was in the office instead of the field again this week and I asked him if I was buying him lunch and he replied with that he had lunch but then later makes comments like I just need to be loved joking around. I think he probably thought I would push about the note I sent him, but I genuinely just wanted to but him lunch and hang out. Maybe he just feels like he isn't ready to give an answer?
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Posted by ladylibra21I'm so sorry this is happening. I can't relate to him cause nothing slows down the pursuit of the woman I want, period. He should be able to separate what he is dealing with from what he wants to go after. Indeed, you should be viewed a pleasant escape from what is troubling him. So either he doesn't see you that way or he can't compartmentalize, neither of which is a good thing. I hope I'm wrong.
Ok Cap men this is from all the women who are in limbo lol
Posted by daron76I think her relationship is different because they see each other at work I'm assuming five days a week. I know she said he's not always in the office, but regardless they still see each other often. So it's not like he really needs to chase her because she is around him naturally.Posted by ladylibra21I'm so sorry this is happening. I can't relate to him cause nothing slows down the pursuit of the woman I want, period. He should be able to separate what he is dealing with from what he wants to go after. Indeed, you should be viewed a pleasant escape from what is troubling him. So either he doesn't see you that way or he can't compartmentalize, neither of which is a good thing. I hope I'm wrong.
Ok Cap men this is from all the women who are in limbo lol
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Posted by ladylibra21
Cap said I know too much about his emotions (not about me but just how he feels about his life, family, and what he wants in the future) and that he was going to shut down again because he normally pushes down his feelings and I said please don't do that it will hurt my feelings. Do you think I should give him so major space or try to get closer to let him know it's ok to confide in me?
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