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Cappys please translate...
Posted by cheekyfaerieHe then asked if id been asking girls if they had been with him, no way in hell the statement actually made me cringe i told him please don't flatter yourself. To which he sent "hahahahahahaha go hard or go home" then blocked me! Lol! What on earth! Now I know why im out of it. Continuously left me baffled by odd comments and actions.
Excuse to message. Tryin to get his foot back in the door.
Posted by LibraLovesHimHe's going through some butter that he cannot explain. I've heard Cappies are having a hard time with relationships right now. Maybe he used up all his FLIRTATION cards and it's not working....LOL! HA! Just read your next post (you're fast girl!). I told ya! He's going to the club and the girls are turning him down for a dance, etc. KARMA!
Ex msgd me last week asking if id "done black magic on him"
Last time I got a msg from him prior to that was about 6 weeks.
Whats this all about? Karma biting him and he cant accept that its prob a result of his own doing...as usual. Or excuse to msg?
🤗 cyber hug!
Love,
Eva
PS: No man asks that question to get his foot back in. Nope. He's going thru a rough spot and easily has access to ask you. For me, I've dissed my ex bf, FB, phone, etc. I do hear a motorcycle speed down my street, but do I run to the window to see who it is? Heck no! I'm Piscean!!! 😄
Posted by ShadowcatDefinately, way too many head games and manipulating. Got too much to handle.Posted by LibraLovesHimLol sounds like you're better without himPosted by cheekyfaerieHe then asked if id been asking girls if they had been with him, no way in hell the statement actually made me cringe i told him please don't flatter yourself. To which he sent "hahahahahahaha go hard or go home" then blocked me! Lol! What on earth! Now I know why im out of it. Continuously left me baffled by odd comments and actions.
Excuse to message. Tryin to get his foot back in the door.
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Posted by cheekyfaerieIMO "treat em mean keep em keen" worked for him very well in past relationships, and now his current. I wasn't putting up with that shit for very long and I gave plenty warning, defo glad I pulled the plug there was literally no win-win in that relationship. Starting to wonder if he was/is fighting with his own demons of some sort or if its just how he operates.Posted by LibraLovesHimSuper weird. Testing the waters maybe? It's not to his advantage to look miserable, if he actually is. To appear miserable, as part of a long con, is another story. Either way, sounds like good riddance.Posted by cheekyfaerieHe then asked if id been asking girls if they had been with him, no way in hell the statement actually made me cringe i told him please don't flatter yourself. To which he sent "hahahahahahaha go hard or go home" then blocked me! Lol! What on earth! Now I know why im out of it. Continuously left me baffled by odd comments and actions.
Excuse to message. Tryin to get his foot back in the door.
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Maybe another girl is asking other females if they had been with him. He was just trying to find out if it was you or someone else
Posted by pinkbird03Possibly, I just never understood his approach at getting to that and then his accusatory manner. God knows.
Maybe another girl is asking other females if they had been with him. He was just trying to find out if it was you or someone else
I guess he really wants to test if he still can pull something with u. Wack try
Yea. Well why does anyone message an ex? I think it's usually because they miss them. However, sometimes they regret they made that decision and run away quickly.
Ugh the Bipolar behavior is impalatable. Beyond immature. He seems off actually b/c normal healthy minded men don't behave this way.
He's hoovering, it goes in stages.
First he's idealizing you by seeking you reaching out to you, once he gets a reaction/response then the dumping/discarding you by blocking you to devalue your worth and importance and the eery thing is that this behavior WORKS, it makes the person being dumped and devalued feel like shit, in some cases feel suicidal, feel ugly and unwanted. Hoovering is a form of mental and emotional abuse.
Do yourself a huge favor. The next time he's hoovering around in your life IGNORE him, don't answer him and you will never have to deal with his dumping and devaluing behavior ever again.
https://silverboundary.wordpress.com/2013/01/13/beat-the-narcissist-this-year/
I am not saying he's a Narcissist but all too often normal men are picking up the Narcs behavior and using it to have an edge/advantage over the other person these days.
He's hoovering, it goes in stages.
First he's idealizing you by seeking you reaching out to you, once he gets a reaction/response then the dumping/discarding you by blocking you to devalue your worth and importance and the eery thing is that this behavior WORKS, it makes the person being dumped and devalued feel like shit, in some cases feel suicidal, feel ugly and unwanted. Hoovering is a form of mental and emotional abuse.
Do yourself a huge favor. The next time he's hoovering around in your life IGNORE him, don't answer him and you will never have to deal with his dumping and devaluing behavior ever again.
https://silverboundary.wordpress.com/2013/01/13/beat-the-narcissist-this-year/
I am not saying he's a Narcissist but all too often normal men are picking up the Narcs behavior and using it to have an edge/advantage over the other person these days.
Posted by tiki33Totally agree with this, after dealing with him he made me even more intrigued about going into psychology! Is this behaviour learned? Anything to do with upbringing I wonder?
Ugh the Bipolar behavior is impalatable. Beyond immature. He seems off actually b/c normal healthy minded men don't behave this way.
He's hoovering, it goes in stages.
First he's idealizing you by seeking you reaching out to you, once he gets a reaction/response then the dumping/discarding you by blocking you to devalue your worth and importance and the eery thing is that this behavior WORKS, it makes the person being dumped and devalued feel like shit, in some cases feel suicidal, feel ugly and unwanted. Hoovering is a form of mental and emotional abuse.
Do yourself a huge favor. The next time he's hoovering around in your life IGNORE him, don't answer him and you will never have to deal with his dumping and devaluing behavior ever again.
https://silverboundary.wordpress.com/2013/01/13/beat-the-narcissist-this-year/
I am not saying he's a Narcissist but all too often normal men are picking up the Narcs behavior and using it to have an edge/advantage over the other person these days.
Posted by tiki33Laughing at them also works 😈
Ugh the Bipolar behavior is impalatable. Beyond immature. He seems off actually b/c normal healthy minded men don't behave this way.
He's hoovering, it goes in stages.
First he's idealizing you by seeking you reaching out to you, once he gets a reaction/response then the dumping/discarding you by blocking you to devalue your worth and importance and the eery thing is that this behavior WORKS, it makes the person being dumped and devalued feel like shit, in some cases feel suicidal, feel ugly and unwanted. Hoovering is a form of mental and emotional abuse.
Do yourself a huge favor. The next time he's hoovering around in your life IGNORE him, don't answer him and you will never have to deal with his dumping and devaluing behavior ever again.
https://silverboundary.wordpress.com/2013/01/13/beat-the-narcissist-this-year/
I am not saying he's a Narcissist but all too often normal men are picking up the Narcs behavior and using it to have an edge/advantage over the other person these days.
No explanation, no conversation. Just laughter.
"Is this behaviour learned? Anything to do with upbringing I wonder?"
That's a very good question with different answers depending on each individual. First thing is if he's been diagnosed with a personality disorder because that's a whole notha circus altogether because a lot of the behavior is defense mechanisms which are reactions and responses that are used to fend off the world or control the world and as they develop into an adult they just tweak and tune up the behavior and become experts. I'm sure upbringing plays a significant part in how the persons reacts and responds to the world. His relationship with his mother (whatever that relationship was) will be a big deciding factor as to how he's going to treat women when he grows up.
Women tend to be THREATS because women have these things called emotions that can't always be controlled and are elusive to a person who is deeply scared of emotions and/or devoid of emotions themselves. Since she's treated as a threat then she's always being hurt, or emotionally abused or treated like a threat and no longer treated like a woman he loves.
Some men have tendencies (females too of course), they are not full blown diagnosed but display behaviors that mimic personality disorders.
Otherwise if he's a normal healthy minded kind of guy but behaving in the way a Narc/Sociopath would think and behave or a Bipolar person would behave then it's learned behavior. He realize how this behavior is relatively unknown, most normal people do not know how to fend off and/or defend themselves with such cold callous behavior that most people can't get 2 steps ahead of so it gives him an advantage over the other person to use these tactics, he's the proverbial puppet master..
That's a very good question with different answers depending on each individual. First thing is if he's been diagnosed with a personality disorder because that's a whole notha circus altogether because a lot of the behavior is defense mechanisms which are reactions and responses that are used to fend off the world or control the world and as they develop into an adult they just tweak and tune up the behavior and become experts. I'm sure upbringing plays a significant part in how the persons reacts and responds to the world. His relationship with his mother (whatever that relationship was) will be a big deciding factor as to how he's going to treat women when he grows up.
Women tend to be THREATS because women have these things called emotions that can't always be controlled and are elusive to a person who is deeply scared of emotions and/or devoid of emotions themselves. Since she's treated as a threat then she's always being hurt, or emotionally abused or treated like a threat and no longer treated like a woman he loves.
Some men have tendencies (females too of course), they are not full blown diagnosed but display behaviors that mimic personality disorders.
Otherwise if he's a normal healthy minded kind of guy but behaving in the way a Narc/Sociopath would think and behave or a Bipolar person would behave then it's learned behavior. He realize how this behavior is relatively unknown, most normal people do not know how to fend off and/or defend themselves with such cold callous behavior that most people can't get 2 steps ahead of so it gives him an advantage over the other person to use these tactics, he's the proverbial puppet master..
Posted by tiki33Very interesting thanks. Your post led me into remembering how it all felt again. It was like a control thing I think. Exactly as you almost described, it was like most people were a threat to him-had more money/more love/more intelligent etc. It was like he had a constant chip on his shoulder and was came across as very insecure to me. The "friends" he kept around him were like little runarounds to him, admired him, etc etc. It was ridic. Ive worked for highly successful men like this. He seemed to have many of their traits-besides the ability to yet become financial successful.
"Is this behaviour learned? Anything to do with upbringing I wonder?"
That's a very good question with different answers depending on each individual. First thing is if he's been diagnosed with a personality disorder because that's a whole notha circus altogether because a lot of the behavior is defense mechanisms which are reactions and responses that are used to fend off the world or control the world and as they develop into an adult they just tweak and tune up the behavior and become experts. I'm sure upbringing plays a significant part in how the persons reacts and responds to the world. His relationship with his mother (whatever that relationship was) will be a big deciding factor as to how he's going to treat women when he grows up.
Women tend to be THREATS because women have these things called emotions that can't always be controlled and are elusive to a person who is deeply scared of emotions and/or devoid of emotions themselves. Since she's treated as a threat then she's always being hurt, or emotionally abused or treated like a threat and no longer treated like a woman he loves.
Some men have tendencies (females too of course), they are not full blown diagnosed but display behaviors that mimic personality disorders.
Otherwise if he's a normal healthy minded kind of guy but behaving in the way a Narc/Sociopath would think and behave or a Bipolar person would behave then it's learned behavior. He realize how this behavior is relatively unknown, most normal people do not know how to fend off and/or defend themselves with such cold callous behavior that most people can't get 2 steps ahead of so it gives him an advantage over the other person to use these tactics, he's the proverbial puppet master..
I definately think his behaviour was as you said a means to have one over on people since they have no idea how to fend off or deal with it. I remember not even knowing how to put into words what it was he was doing. It was HIGHLY frustrating, he definitely lead me to become more interested in the human psyche.
Posted by busyeyes88Grow up little girlPosted by LibraLovesHimStupid Q
Ex msgd me last week asking if id "done black magic on him"
Last time I got a msg from him prior to that was about 6 weeks.
Whats this all about? Karma biting him and he cant accept that its prob a result of his own doing...as usual. Or excuse to msg?click to expand
Libraloveshim
He sounds like a very young and conflicted cap ( i am a cap sun). None of this is normal behavior because it doesnt help him achieve some larger goal. It does help him achieve a small goal- getting one over on you. But he knows this is small minded. Most of the things you said he does to others seems small minded as well. And he knows this crap isnt getting him where he wants to be. It is providing him instant gratification tho. And that right there is a red flag for a cappy. Because giving in to short term gains and sacrificing large goals (believe me he has some) means he is lost. And lost capps need to be alone. They need this so the only thing in front of them is their issues and the only way forward is to get over them. I hate saying you should leave someone alone, but in this case it is prob best. He will eventually tackle all this stuff. But having easy distractions aint gonna help.
He sounds like a very young and conflicted cap ( i am a cap sun). None of this is normal behavior because it doesnt help him achieve some larger goal. It does help him achieve a small goal- getting one over on you. But he knows this is small minded. Most of the things you said he does to others seems small minded as well. And he knows this crap isnt getting him where he wants to be. It is providing him instant gratification tho. And that right there is a red flag for a cappy. Because giving in to short term gains and sacrificing large goals (believe me he has some) means he is lost. And lost capps need to be alone. They need this so the only thing in front of them is their issues and the only way forward is to get over them. I hate saying you should leave someone alone, but in this case it is prob best. He will eventually tackle all this stuff. But having easy distractions aint gonna help.
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