Capricorn ex gf

Hey! I just came by to get some input if its possible to get my ex back. We've dated for about 6 months. So far I'm working and shes studying in college. Things were great initially, however, I think we took it things too fast and got official in about 4 months. I think as a Leo, I had some expectations on the r/s and thus it cause friction as she preferred more freedom and privacy. I would text her to ask for her whereabouts out of concern however, it gave her the impression that I am controlling. This caused her the pull away slightly judging from the texting and interactions. I noticed this and made the mistake of confrontation. We broke up and she says she doesn't see the value of commitment now and prefers the freedom. also she mentions that I was too needy.

Its been 3 weeks and I have tried contacting through text to setup a casual meeting but so far shes been giving me replies that shes unsure and busy. She mentions that she will call if shes free though. Final exams for her are up the coming 2 weeks so I wonder if I can do anything now? I plan to ask her out and see how good or bad our interactions are to proceed from there.

Let her come to you. I know you don’t mean to be disrespectful but by not allowing her her space and freedom you kind of are. I wouldn’t talk to her, she already knows what you want so if she decides to change her mind then let her on her own.

Posted by daweliii
Hey! I just came by to get some input if its possible to get my ex back. We've dated for about 6 months. So far I'm working and shes studying in college. Things were great initially, however, I think we took it things too fast and got official in about 4 months. I think as a Leo, I had some expectations on the r/s and thus it cause friction as she preferred more freedom and privacy. I would text her to ask for her whereabouts out of concern however, it gave her the impression that I am controlling. This caused her the pull away slightly judging from the texting and interactions. I noticed this and made the mistake of confrontation. We broke up and she says she doesn't see the value of commitment now and prefers the freedom. also she mentions that I was too needy.

Its been 3 weeks and I have tried contacting through text to setup a casual meeting but so far shes been giving me replies that shes unsure and busy. She mentions that she will call if shes free though. Final exams for her are up the coming 2 weeks so I wonder if I can do anything now? I plan to ask her out and see how good or bad our interactions are to proceed from there.

Good morning. You're putting too much guilt (pressure) on yourself. How? By indicating it was your fault and she may have thought "you" were "controlling" due to her responses. If she mentioned the latter then that was a thought on her mind; if not, then you cannot put words in her mouth (ALLOT of DXP members in here do that to me); nor can you go into her mind by doing the "thinking for her".

To me, you both were "mutual" when deciding your relationship was going too fast and parted ways. Now that you're more "free" in your work/school/relationship (none for the latter) world, you're ready to open the flood gates again. Sorry, your ex-gf has her finger on the dike. As mentioned by a DXP member, have her come to you by calling her (okay, if it goes to voice mail leave a message) and tell her, "Okay, the ball's on your court, whenever you're free call me back" (click; hang up phone).

When one says, "Ball's on your court" it's true. If and when she comes back, then she's free to see/talk to you. IF, if she continues to "ghost" you; then that is the nail on the coffin that will "seal it". Read the signs. She may have already moved on with someone else. Who knows? You and I don't have a crystal ball (although SOME DXP members THINK I do). Good luck.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva