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Capricorn man disappeared...any advice?
He want something casual, like he said. That means he wants sex from time to time.Period.
It's clear that you want something more so you better stop here.
It's clear that you want something more so you better stop here.
Cap Sun.. Aqua Venus..
Posted by justlikeheavenok but I didn't protest what he wanted and clearly was ok with saying yes to vegas after 2 days when he called to invite me. He also told me while we messed around that he is looking to dinner 1-2 week and occasionally going out of town thing....im yet to see both lol he just disappeared without even me contacting him or anything.
He want something casual, like he said. That means he wants sex from time to time.Period.
It's clear that you want something more so you better stop here.
Posted by RooSagicorn
He already told you what he wanted. Casual. Do not think it’s more. My ex bf is a Cap sun, Virgo Moon. They tell the truth.. just saying. If he wanted to talk to you, he would. They are very good with being silent btw. It is not good to assume what it means, because most likely you will be wrong.
as i had mentioned...i didnt protest what he wanted nor did I talk about relationships, plus i agreed to go to vegas with him the after two days when he called me. he told me he is looking for 1-2 times dinner per week and occasionally going out of towns. Im yet to see both and it's been 2 weeks since i have seen him and a week an a half since he called to invite then canceled the trip. can u give me an idea how your ex acted a little please with the same placements because its my 1st time dealing with these placements? IM ok with casual but i figured he can just text a simple hi how r u....men who are casual do put at least the minimal effort so i didnt expect a no contact thing at all and thats why i feel like he changed his mind for some reason and it might not even be because of me specifically or at least i hope not since he seemed to really like me, my company and wouldn't compliment me to his guy friend the day after the date like that.
Posted by kitten_omg lol WHY!? i have never dealth with this combo or the placements either so im clueless why it is so bad?
Cap sun alone is already bad enough add to that virgo moon, there you go: a Batman
Posted by NostalgicCappyyis this bad? lol never been with this placements can u explain why? spare me the headache lol
Cap Sun.. Aqua Venus..
IN his head he’s like “”she just got done seeing someone” i promise you he’s thinking about it, they think about everything
Posted by fem_fem_femPosted by justlikeheavenok but I didn't protest what he wanted and clearly was ok with saying yes to vegas after 2 days when he called to invite me. He also told me while we messed around that he is looking to dinner 1-2 week and occasionally going out of town thing....im yet to see both lol he just disappeared without even me contacting him or anything.
He want something casual, like he said. That means he wants sex from time to time.Period.
It's clear that you want something more so you better stop here.
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I am a cap sun, leo moon, cap venus and I had a thing with a cap man, with cancer moon and sagittarius venus..so clearly not the same placements as your cap.
The thing with cap men is that they're honest, everything he SAY and everything he DOES it represent the truth.So, yeah, he wants something casual, he likes you, he wanna spend (some) time with you, but that's all, don't expect him to try more (like texting "hi,how are you").If my intuition is good, and along with my experience, I think he will contact you when he will want to see you (you know, being practical).
You are waaay to involved already, if you weren't you didn't come here with all these worried questions.Be cautious with all this, 'cause in the end you might break your own heart.
Posted by MoonshineLeosorry what do u mean lol i dont know anything about how these creatures operate lol
IN his head he’s like “”she just got done seeing someone” i promise you he’s thinking about it, they think about everything
Posted by justlikeheavenPosted by fem_fem_femPosted by justlikeheavenok but I didn't protest what he wanted and clearly was ok with saying yes to vegas after 2 days when he called to invite me. He also told me while we messed around that he is looking to dinner 1-2 week and occasionally going out of town thing....im yet to see both lol he just disappeared without even me contacting him or anything.
He want something casual, like he said. That means he wants sex from time to time.Period.
It's clear that you want something more so you better stop here.
I am a cap sun, leo moon, cap venus and I had a thing with a cap man, with cancer moon and sagittarius venus..so clearly not the same placements as your cap.
The thing with cap men is that they're honest, everything he SAY and everything he DOES it represent the truth.So, yeah, he wants something casual, he likes you, he wanna spend (some) time with you, but that's all, don't expect him to try more (like texting "hi,how are you").If my intuition is good, and along with my experience, I think he will contact you when he will want to see you (you know, being practical).
You are waaay to involved already, if you weren't you didn't come here with all these worried questions.Be cautious with all this, 'cause in the end you might break your own heart.
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yeah i understand what u mean it's just even casually all men text hi at least to me so thats why this one i wasn't sure what to think i figured he is involved with someone lol but anyways i'd love to be casual if we could at least go to that dinner he mentioned once a week and the occasional trips together but whatever...he seemed to have issues in life and in debt too lol he was stressed and he told his friend that i was a pleasant girl to be around and full of life and fun...not in a bad way fun but just fun person to be with. he seemed to feel at ease and comfortable and like he was himself with me. so u understand why im not sure what to think now and even with the casual talk, i was expecting him to drop a simple hi....im losing interest now quite honestly since i was hoping to hear a hi or some type of acknowledgment by now
and even if he wants me for sex he can at least say a hi in my optinion..it doesn't take much from him so that's why i can get the casual thing from another man who can still take me out, hang out and check in with me to say a simple hello.
Posted by Smil3
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
oh noooo im staying aloof in case he has changed his mind, i dont want to be chasing him nor dialing his #...i haven't contacted him nor am i planning to to at least save face and stay aloof.
At least you got out of your cap what he wanted! LOL be thankful he actual told you its casual.
Now if my Cap would only tell it. haha.
Casual sex buds call when they want it so dont expect to hear from him until hes horny. No more no less. Actions speak louder than words, pay no mind what he says to friends. This is for any sign.
Now if my Cap would only tell it. haha.
Casual sex buds call when they want it so dont expect to hear from him until hes horny. No more no less. Actions speak louder than words, pay no mind what he says to friends. This is for any sign.
he also has venus rx in aqua....im not sure but isn't venus rx says his venus is debilitated?
Posted by Smil3Posted by fem_fem_femPosted by Smil3
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
oh noooo im staying aloof in case he has changed his mind, i dont want to be chasing him nor dialing his #...i haven't contacted him nor am i planning to to at least save face and stay aloof.
What's your sign?
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im pisces sun, leo moon, taurus rising, venus & mars conj in aries chick...any thoughts on me lol? 🙂)
Wall of text, I read most of it .. as soon as the word casual comes up & u don’t want that, next! No need to question anything cuz he was honest with u
I think RooSagicorn pretty much nailed it. She knows us Caps very well.
He's either totally into you and self conscious for some reason, while at the same time assessing things, or he really is just looking to have some fun with no strings attached.
I would just reach out, and show that you're still there. That's not chasing, it's showing you're into him. Let him decide how to proceed from there. If you don't hear from him again, then that's obvious that's he's not interested. We can be really shy though too, and we overthink things way too much. We need the other person to show their cards first..
Well, that's how I am anyway. As a fellow Cap Sun, Aqua Venus
He's either totally into you and self conscious for some reason, while at the same time assessing things, or he really is just looking to have some fun with no strings attached.
I would just reach out, and show that you're still there. That's not chasing, it's showing you're into him. Let him decide how to proceed from there. If you don't hear from him again, then that's obvious that's he's not interested. We can be really shy though too, and we overthink things way too much. We need the other person to show their cards first..
Well, that's how I am anyway. As a fellow Cap Sun, Aqua Venus
Posted by Smil3Posted by fem_fem_femI'll tell you this - it's obvious you both like each other and I see nothing wrong with you reaching out to him.Posted by Smil3Posted by fem_fem_femPosted by Smil3
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
oh noooo im staying aloof in case he has changed his mind, i dont want to be chasing him nor dialing his #...i haven't contacted him nor am i planning to to at least save face and stay aloof.
What's your sign?
im pisces sun, leo moon, taurus rising, venus & mars conj in aries chick...any thoughts on me lol? 🙂)
I would at least once. lol
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thanks so much guys for your messages....im going to stay put i got burned once and i learned my lesson. I ahd an Aqua man with cappy moon really like me but he wanted someone of the same ethnicity to be serious with but he kept contacting me for over a year yet cancelling the dates because he didn't want to get attached on someone he didn't see a future with although he didn't even risk having sex with me....he just really liked me personalitywise and physically for which he couldn't elt go of me but couldn't get close either so i got burned as i kept hopes up etc so i learned my lesson....i dont want to chase any man dont want to go now through the same witht his man whom i really liked and he seemed to really like me too but since he is putting almost no effort and the effort he put got cancelled, i dont want to be going afer him with contacts myself....i dont mind having a casual thign with him after all i agreed to go to vegas, so there's not much i can do now but stay put. i seemed to have agreed to his 1-2 dinners per week and occasional out of town desire yet i see none of that. let him wonder why i am not bothered with him by not contacting at all. His loss...had a chance to be with a 35-year-old since he is 52 himself and I seemed to have knocked his socks off that night even without sex lol 🙂 and he said he found me beautiful too. so it is tiring to wonder why a guy can't say hi and make himself known like he hasn't forgotten about u lol regardless it's casual or not. so i will just go on with my life now and I dont think i will bother with him anymore in my mind or in actual life in case he remembers me one day 🙂
Posted by UnicornSag
Honestly-you're lying to yourself when you're saying you want casual thing with that guy. You wouldn't mind if he's calling or when he's calling at all if you were fine with casual. You wouldn't bother about his placements or to understand him more.
You lied to not say you don't want to sleep with him on 1st date too, so what's with the lying? Be true to yourself from the start. If you're honest about not wanting anything than casual then just stop overthinking and call him out and have sex with a guy if that's what you really want. But I don't think it is. His lack of attention bothers you meaning you care for him so don't get into it if you can't accept his terms. He's been pretty clear with you from the start about what he wants, can't blame him for lying or being dishonest in any way. You know how casual things work-you call each other when you wish to do it, don't bother texting or asking how was your day, it's a casual thing and has to be treated that way(if that's what it is)
You are becoming one of my favorites..
Posted by UnicornSagPosted by NostalgicCappyyPosted by UnicornSag
Honestly-you're lying to yourself when you're saying you want casual thing with that guy. You wouldn't mind if he's calling or when he's calling at all if you were fine with casual. You wouldn't bother about his placements or to understand him more.
You lied to not say you don't want to sleep with him on 1st date too, so what's with the lying? Be true to yourself from the start. If you're honest about not wanting anything than casual then just stop overthinking and call him out and have sex with a guy if that's what you really want. But I don't think it is. His lack of attention bothers you meaning you care for him so don't get into it if you can't accept his terms. He's been pretty clear with you from the start about what he wants, can't blame him for lying or being dishonest in any way. You know how casual things work-you call each other when you wish to do it, don't bother texting or asking how was your day, it's a casual thing and has to be treated that way(if that's what it is)
You are becoming one of my favorites..
Thank you 🙂 just trying to look at things objective
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That's why, sweetie. 🙂
Posted by UnicornSagI see what u are saying and agree but i am yet to hear a call regarding sex either lol
Honestly-you're lying to yourself when you're saying you want casual thing with that guy. You wouldn't mind if he's calling or when he's calling at all if you were fine with casual. You wouldn't bother about his placements or to understand him more.
You lied to not say you don't want to sleep with him on 1st date too, so what's with the lying? Be true to yourself from the start. If you're honest about not wanting anything than casual then just stop overthinking and call him out and have sex with a guy if that's what you really want. But I don't think it is. His lack of attention bothers you meaning you care for him so don't get into it if you can't accept his terms. He's been pretty clear with you from the start about what he wants, can't blame him for lying or being dishonest in any way. You know how casual things work-you call each other when you wish to do it, don't bother texting or asking how was your day, it's a casual thing and has to be treated that way(if that's what it is)
what im saying is that he can at least see if im alive...heck i could have met someone by now and yes i have a date tomorrow with a guy who is chasing me although i also not looking for anything serious now...just want someone in my life for sex, dinner once a week and a man who calls sometimes to say hey....we will see how that goes tomorrow....i do think that the cancelation was a bs to vegas because if he didn't decide to not see me again he could have called once so that i wouldn't think that he disappeared after the cancellaton. Also, he is the one who mentioned casual get-togethers sometimes out of town but also mentioned "and 1 and 2 time dinners" im still waiting for both lol
there's no doubt in my mind that he was into me and things were intense too, i feel like he really liked me just as the first time as he kept mentioning it to his friend, but i think he figured that he liked me a little too much beyond the casual interaction and he figured that since there's no future, then he should spare us both the headache of any future feelings pop in out so to speak and he decided to leave it and disappear so i dont see the casual thing happening either...if someone is looking for something casual then they stay away from anyone whom they liked a lot otherwise that just becomes dangerous and a headach plus he is older than me by 17 years so maybe he is smart and thought about leavign this as is. I did have a similar experience where a man was really into me, felt comfy with me but he was looking for someone from his ethnicity, so there was no future with us but he kept chasing me yet kept me at arms length and i was confused for a year why this man who keeps saying how much he would love to sleep with me, how wonderful I am etc, was keepign me a 5 mile away physivally from him.....once i directly told him that i'd like to give him a massage and he said that he would LOVE it but it's dangerous as he might like it too much....that explained his weird behavior of wanting me, not letting me close for a year, constantly wanting my attention, complimenting me, yet he made sure that nos ex ever happened between us and now he is amrried to a girl of his ethnicity 🙂 so im thinking that he did connect well with this man (im 35 he si 52) but he figured that it's best not to get together maybe not to hurt me later on. I dont care at this point if it's serious or casual but im totally fine with 1-2 dinners each week and a casual sex without marriage in the future as im not too crazy about getting married but i do want to date someone liek this when we both have our lives and get together hang out once a week or even once every two weeks. what im saying is that there was strong connection and pull on a mental level too besides the sexual tension being obvious....i didnt have sex because i wasn't ready that day it was our 1st official date, thigns turned out a little differently for me in that regard but what does it even matter if he had a chance for sex 2 days after when he invited me to vegas to go along and cancelled...so it's not like i rejected the sex cause that day i said let's do it next time on my period...i lied about epriod but he doesn't know it and i said next time for sure. Men want it casual then they back out of that too even so u just dont get them nowadays 🙂 I do feel rejected quite honestly but i also realize that it could easily bee that he liked me a little too much which he didnt' expect so that rejection wasn't because he found me great, then two days alter he thought to himself 'omg that ugly B***" lol it could be that he also is talking someone so he thought it's best to stick just to one who knows. Im just proud that i didn't contact him at all...in the past when my lack of experience i would have easily reached out to him but now no...i know u guys say that it's casual for him and he will reach out when it works for him but he won't reach out for sure...he would have done it by now his silence means that he ghosted me. he seems a bit hurt that his ex-wife left him...so he is also not immune to hurt. regardless....we had a strong mental connection and physical attraction too that's why i feel hurt and rejected of this ghosting.
This is bad. Do you want to be used as a sex toy when it’s convenient for him? He wants to use you for sex. You keep talking about him liking you and validating your existence, why do you care? Why do you like him? You don’t even know him. Also you keep jumping when he says how high. Why?
Posted by fem_fem_femHe’s not obligated to call or text. You agreed to be his sex toy, no respect. If he really liked you, he wouldn’t dare suggest something casual. It’s the opposite. He doesn’t like you enough.Posted by RooSagicorn
He already told you what he wanted. Casual. Do not think it’s more. My ex bf is a Cap sun, Virgo Moon. They tell the truth.. just saying. If he wanted to talk to you, he would. They are very good with being silent btw. It is not good to assume what it means, because most likely you will be wrong.
as i had mentioned...i didnt protest what he wanted nor did I talk about relationships, plus i agreed to go to vegas with him the after two days when he called me. he told me he is looking for 1-2 times dinner per week and occasionally going out of towns. Im yet to see both and it's been 2 weeks since i have seen him and a week an a half since he called to invite then canceled the trip. can u give me an idea how your ex acted a little please with the same placements because its my 1st time dealing with these placements? IM ok with casual but i figured he can just text a simple hi how r u....men who are casual do put at least the minimal effort so i didnt expect a no contact thing at all and thats why i feel like he changed his mind for some reason and it might not even be because of me specifically or at least i hope not since he seemed to really like me, my company and wouldn't compliment me to his guy friend the day after the date like that.click to expand
And you’re out here sucking penis for someone who only wants you causally. He could be sticking it anywhere. This is a mess sis.
Posted by fem_fem_femYou’re not a girl. You’re a 35 year old woman.Posted by justlikeheavenPosted by fem_fem_femPosted by justlikeheavenok but I didn't protest what he wanted and clearly was ok with saying yes to vegas after 2 days when he called to invite me. He also told me while we messed around that he is looking to dinner 1-2 week and occasionally going out of town thing....im yet to see both lol he just disappeared without even me contacting him or anything.
He want something casual, like he said. That means he wants sex from time to time.Period.
It's clear that you want something more so you better stop here.
I am a cap sun, leo moon, cap venus and I had a thing with a cap man, with cancer moon and sagittarius venus..so clearly not the same placements as your cap.
The thing with cap men is that they're honest, everything he SAY and everything he DOES it represent the truth.So, yeah, he wants something casual, he likes you, he wanna spend (some) time with you, but that's all, don't expect him to try more (like texting "hi,how are you").If my intuition is good, and along with my experience, I think he will contact you when he will want to see you (you know, being practical).
You are waaay to involved already, if you weren't you didn't come here with all these worried questions.Be cautious with all this, 'cause in the end you might break your own heart.
yeah i understand what u mean it's just even casually all men text hi at least to me so thats why this one i wasn't sure what to think i figured he is involved with someone lol but anyways i'd love to be casual if we could at least go to that dinner he mentioned once a week and the occasional trips together but whatever...he seemed to have issues in life and in debt too lol he was stressed and he told his friend that i was a pleasant girl to be around and full of life and fun...not in a bad way fun but just fun person to be with. he seemed to feel at ease and comfortable and like he was himself with me. so u understand why im not sure what to think now and even with the casual talk, i was expecting him to drop a simple hi....im losing interest now quite honestly since i was hoping to hear a hi or some type of acknowledgment by now
and even if he wants me for sex he can at least say a hi in my optinion..it doesn't take much from him so that's why i can get the casual thing from another man who can still take me out, hang out and check in with me to say a simple hello.click to expand
Posted by Smil3ThAts not her place as a woman. she’s already served her body on a silver platter, she should chase him too??
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
Posted by Smil3No it’s not! And men are wired diff. If she starts chasing him, watch him run faster than Usain Bolt. But go ahead and chase sis I’m not stopping you.Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3ThAts not her place as a woman. she’s already served her body on a silver platter, she should chase him too??
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
LOL how sexist!
She's an adult and it's her choice to do whatever she wants with her body. She's already stated numerous times she's perfectly fine with casual sex. If that's what she wants then she should own it and be brave enough to call him and ask him out . So she should wait until he calls her whenever he's in the mood? Of course, she'll say yes. There's nothing wrong with her picking up the phone and saying hey I like you, let's hang out. That's not chasing, it's called being a grown up. lol
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guys...i dont mind calling BUT if we had met again after the vegas cancellation by him (real or not) .. doesn't matter if he wants casual or not because he hasn't reached out to me...had he reached out once or twice after the date excluding his call regarding his invite to vegas then the cancellation next day, i wouldn't be wondering.....i dont want to call cause i dont even know if he wants the casual now because it's been 2 weeks of no contacts from him at all. Your suggestion now to contact him if i want casual isn't relevant now since his last contact with me was a cancelation lol so why should i be reaching for him serious or casual? the bottom line is to sum up his behavior towards me...he liked me the first time he saw me as he mentioned this to his friend...then on our double-date, we had very warm conversation throughout the night one-on-one.... by the way, since i mentioned that we all went to a casino, he kept putting his $ $ into the slot machines by $ 100 bills and was forcing me to play, but since it was his money, i kept saying no, then he was physically forcing me to play lol seeing that i told him that he will go bankrupt with me playing the slots since i never have luck with those, so he kept inisiting me to keep hitting the slots without any problem so that was nice of him.....although i then played a little then switched with him, but then after a little he would tell me to hit again so we ended up switching and he lost $ $ and didn't even care lol. My point is that he wasn't frugal and made sure that i play with his $ $ most of the time.
Then somehow 4 of us on the double-date lost each other in the crowd after we all went to the bathroom, so i caught up with my friends' boyfriend first so we decided to look for that cappy man and my friend but i was wearing heels so i asked my friends boyfriend if i can sit at this specific slot and he can look for them cause my feet were killing me with heels on for so many hours, so my friend's bf said sure, then he pulled a $ 100 and stuck it in that slot machine telling me to entertain myself while he finds them both lol so after arguing with my friend's bf to take that $ 100 back, since i felt uncomfy, he didn't, of course, so i pulled that $ 100 out after the boyfriend went looking for them, and when we finally found that cappy man and my friend, I slid that $ 100 into the cappys slot machine myself as a pay back for his lost $ $ and told him it's his friend's $ $ and that now it is his turn to play with 'my' money so he was laughing at me. Anyways, he kept hugging me sideways saying how sweet and darling I am....he kept also asking me about my sexual past WTF was that all about—? he wanted to know when i lost my V and how many partners i have had
why would he ask me such personal questions? in the hotel when we were laying next to each other, he said he really enjoyed the blowjob...btw i didn't even want to do that but it's like he kept insisting since i was on my 'period" so i did it although i didn't anticipate that night to end like that but i wasn't going to spend my night in the rain in front of the hotel...nor did i plan to sleep with him on the 1st date either...so i was put in a uncomfy situation having no $ $ to get a hotel myself and we all took 1 car and i didnt want to poop in everyone's party either by insisting that we head back home.....because i liked him. He told me in the hotel that im beautiful that i have a beautiful smile, great personality, that im fun to be around, that i seem like a happy person without any worries in life lol he even mentioned to me "im going to vegas mid week want to join me?" I said yes...so then as u guys know he called me after 2 days to give me time and day and i agreed again then the cancelation the very next morning. I have a feeling that he went and it was just a way for him to not pursue me in any way. After that date, he again told that friend that he liked u a lot and that I seem to be a very fun and pleasant woman" I dont doubt this cause thats how he was with me...he showed attraction the way he was looking at me too i could tell.
he told me he has problems and is in debt so he felt stressed out but i have a feeling that there's someone in his life too so he decided to back out right before the vegas trip. Anyways, im starting to lose my interest in dating by now cause it seems people are either inconsistent, they blow hot and cold just like this cappy and im too old for this shit....i don't care if its serious or casual but im all for consistency with a man....when i asked him if he felt down after the divorce, he made it seem that he did, but i know that 10 yrs ago eh filed for divorce, then they got back together, then the wife left him again 3 yrs ago and he said that she is an Aries and both were very stubborn and it was like 'if u did this, ill do that' so stubborness got them divorced. I asked him do u want to get back to your wife, he said "nowdays who knows what the future holds, u don't even know what will happen to u next week." so i took this as if he is not over the divorce? I thought it is easier with older men but oh noooo there's too much baggage with them lol I have a date with a 29 yrs old (im 35) and he is all voer me, calling me showing me attention, he is sooo sweet. oh and i told my friend who i know will her boyfriend that i have a date with 2 different guys....i hope the rumor gets to the cappy lol that he missed the train with his disapperance so this is it for me...i waited for the 2nd weekend to pass to see if he will reach out but no so i need to move on now.
Then somehow 4 of us on the double-date lost each other in the crowd after we all went to the bathroom, so i caught up with my friends' boyfriend first so we decided to look for that cappy man and my friend but i was wearing heels so i asked my friends boyfriend if i can sit at this specific slot and he can look for them cause my feet were killing me with heels on for so many hours, so my friend's bf said sure, then he pulled a $ 100 and stuck it in that slot machine telling me to entertain myself while he finds them both lol so after arguing with my friend's bf to take that $ 100 back, since i felt uncomfy, he didn't, of course, so i pulled that $ 100 out after the boyfriend went looking for them, and when we finally found that cappy man and my friend, I slid that $ 100 into the cappys slot machine myself as a pay back for his lost $ $ and told him it's his friend's $ $ and that now it is his turn to play with 'my' money so he was laughing at me. Anyways, he kept hugging me sideways saying how sweet and darling I am....he kept also asking me about my sexual past WTF was that all about—? he wanted to know when i lost my V and how many partners i have had
why would he ask me such personal questions? in the hotel when we were laying next to each other, he said he really enjoyed the blowjob...btw i didn't even want to do that but it's like he kept insisting since i was on my 'period" so i did it although i didn't anticipate that night to end like that but i wasn't going to spend my night in the rain in front of the hotel...nor did i plan to sleep with him on the 1st date either...so i was put in a uncomfy situation having no $ $ to get a hotel myself and we all took 1 car and i didnt want to poop in everyone's party either by insisting that we head back home.....because i liked him. He told me in the hotel that im beautiful that i have a beautiful smile, great personality, that im fun to be around, that i seem like a happy person without any worries in life lol he even mentioned to me "im going to vegas mid week want to join me?" I said yes...so then as u guys know he called me after 2 days to give me time and day and i agreed again then the cancelation the very next morning. I have a feeling that he went and it was just a way for him to not pursue me in any way. After that date, he again told that friend that he liked u a lot and that I seem to be a very fun and pleasant woman" I dont doubt this cause thats how he was with me...he showed attraction the way he was looking at me too i could tell.
he told me he has problems and is in debt so he felt stressed out but i have a feeling that there's someone in his life too so he decided to back out right before the vegas trip. Anyways, im starting to lose my interest in dating by now cause it seems people are either inconsistent, they blow hot and cold just like this cappy and im too old for this shit....i don't care if its serious or casual but im all for consistency with a man....when i asked him if he felt down after the divorce, he made it seem that he did, but i know that 10 yrs ago eh filed for divorce, then they got back together, then the wife left him again 3 yrs ago and he said that she is an Aries and both were very stubborn and it was like 'if u did this, ill do that' so stubborness got them divorced. I asked him do u want to get back to your wife, he said "nowdays who knows what the future holds, u don't even know what will happen to u next week." so i took this as if he is not over the divorce? I thought it is easier with older men but oh noooo there's too much baggage with them lol I have a date with a 29 yrs old (im 35) and he is all voer me, calling me showing me attention, he is sooo sweet. oh and i told my friend who i know will her boyfriend that i have a date with 2 different guys....i hope the rumor gets to the cappy lol that he missed the train with his disapperance so this is it for me...i waited for the 2nd weekend to pass to see if he will reach out but no so i need to move on now.
Posted by Smil3She can initiate. After all she can do anything she wants. It’s her life and her world. Doesn’t mean she will get the desired results. Her agreeing to be fwb already has soured this Union. Her further initiating anything is even more desperate.Posted by bkbella86I agree that men and women are wired differently, it doesn't mean she cannot initiate a 'date' lolPosted by Smil3No it’s not! And men are wired diff. If she starts chasing him, watch him run faster than Usain Bolt. But go ahead and chase sis I’m not stopping you.Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3ThAts not her place as a woman. she’s already served her body on a silver platter, she should chase him too??
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
LOL how sexist!
She's an adult and it's her choice to do whatever she wants with her body. She's already stated numerous times she's perfectly fine with casual sex. If that's what she wants then she should own it and be brave enough to call him and ask him out . So she should wait until he calls her whenever he's in the mood? Of course, she'll say yes. There's nothing wrong with her picking up the phone and saying hey I like you, let's hang out. That's not chasing, it's called being a grown up. lol
The reality is that FWB does happen, and I don't think in every instance a woman is waiting for the guy to call. The girls initiate as well lol Someone with fwb experience will tell you that.
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It’s clear as day that she wants more than to be a sex toy.
How many men have your chased and how did it end?
Posted by Smil3You didn’t answer my question tho. Also this man is not showing mutual interest and you’re suggesting she chase him. Setting her up for further failure. Calling and asking men out on dates is chasing. How did those relationships that you chased the man work out? Still with them? Married?Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3She can initiate. After all she can do anything she wants. It’s her life and her world. Doesn’t mean she will get the desired results. Her agreeing to be fwb already has soured this Union. Her further initiating anything is even more desperate.Posted by bkbella86I agree that men and women are wired differently, it doesn't mean she cannot initiate a 'date' lolPosted by Smil3No it’s not! And men are wired diff. If she starts chasing him, watch him run faster than Usain Bolt. But go ahead and chase sis I’m not stopping you.Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3ThAts not her place as a woman. she’s already served her body on a silver platter, she should chase him too??
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
LOL how sexist!
She's an adult and it's her choice to do whatever she wants with her body. She's already stated numerous times she's perfectly fine with casual sex. If that's what she wants then she should own it and be brave enough to call him and ask him out . So she should wait until he calls her whenever he's in the mood? Of course, she'll say yes. There's nothing wrong with her picking up the phone and saying hey I like you, let's hang out. That's not chasing, it's called being a grown up. lol
The reality is that FWB does happen, and I don't think in every instance a woman is waiting for the guy to call. The girls initiate as well lol Someone with fwb experience will tell you that.
It’s clear as day that she wants more than to be a sex toy.
How many men have your chased and how did it end?
I never said I chased men. There has to be a mutual interest of course.
If a guy shows interest in me and asks me out on a date and I like him, I'm confident enough to initiate phone conversations and even suggest future dates. It's called dating.
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Posted by bkbella86I do agree with this.Posted by Smil3You didn’t answer my question tho. Also this man is not showing mutual interest and you’re suggesting she chase him. Setting her up for further failure. Calling and asking men out on dates is chasing. How did those relationships that you chased the man work out? Still with them? Married?Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3She can initiate. After all she can do anything she wants. It’s her life and her world. Doesn’t mean she will get the desired results. Her agreeing to be fwb already has soured this Union. Her further initiating anything is even more desperate.Posted by bkbella86I agree that men and women are wired differently, it doesn't mean she cannot initiate a 'date' lolPosted by Smil3No it’s not! And men are wired diff. If she starts chasing him, watch him run faster than Usain Bolt. But go ahead and chase sis I’m not stopping you.Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3ThAts not her place as a woman. she’s already served her body on a silver platter, she should chase him too??
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
LOL how sexist!
She's an adult and it's her choice to do whatever she wants with her body. She's already stated numerous times she's perfectly fine with casual sex. If that's what she wants then she should own it and be brave enough to call him and ask him out . So she should wait until he calls her whenever he's in the mood? Of course, she'll say yes. There's nothing wrong with her picking up the phone and saying hey I like you, let's hang out. That's not chasing, it's called being a grown up. lol
The reality is that FWB does happen, and I don't think in every instance a woman is waiting for the guy to call. The girls initiate as well lol Someone with fwb experience will tell you that.
It’s clear as day that she wants more than to be a sex toy.
How many men have your chased and how did it end?
I never said I chased men. There has to be a mutual interest of course.
If a guy shows interest in me and asks me out on a date and I like him, I'm confident enough to initiate phone conversations and even suggest future dates. It's called dating.
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Op, he doesn't sound worth the headache.
Once a man sees you as casual, that rarely changes...especially when you give yourself to them the way you have. He gets bf privileges while giving you occasional crumbs.
That's not ok.
YOU should be the one doing the disappearing, who gives a damn what he's doing?
If he wants you, he'll pursue you.
Once a man sees you as casual, that rarely changes...especially when you give yourself to them the way you have. He gets bf privileges while giving you occasional crumbs.
That's not ok.
YOU should be the one doing the disappearing, who gives a damn what he's doing?
If he wants you, he'll pursue you.
Posted by Smil3I can’t read after you said “he said he liked her”Posted by bkbella86That's false. He's already stated he liked her.Posted by Smil3You didn’t answer my question tho. Also this man is not showing mutual interest and you’re suggesting she chase him. Setting her up for further failure. Calling and asking men out on dates is chasing. How did those relationships that you chased the man work out? Still with them? Married?Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3She can initiate. After all she can do anything she wants. It’s her life and her world. Doesn’t mean she will get the desired results. Her agreeing to be fwb already has soured this Union. Her further initiating anything is even more desperate.Posted by bkbella86I agree that men and women are wired differently, it doesn't mean she cannot initiate a 'date' lolPosted by Smil3No it’s not! And men are wired diff. If she starts chasing him, watch him run faster than Usain Bolt. But go ahead and chase sis I’m not stopping you.Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3ThAts not her place as a woman. she’s already served her body on a silver platter, she should chase him too??
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
LOL how sexist!
She's an adult and it's her choice to do whatever she wants with her body. She's already stated numerous times she's perfectly fine with casual sex. If that's what she wants then she should own it and be brave enough to call him and ask him out . So she should wait until he calls her whenever he's in the mood? Of course, she'll say yes. There's nothing wrong with her picking up the phone and saying hey I like you, let's hang out. That's not chasing, it's called being a grown up. lol
The reality is that FWB does happen, and I don't think in every instance a woman is waiting for the guy to call. The girls initiate as well lol Someone with fwb experience will tell you that.
It’s clear as day that she wants more than to be a sex toy.
How many men have your chased and how did it end?
I never said I chased men. There has to be a mutual interest of course.
If a guy shows interest in me and asks me out on a date and I like him, I'm confident enough to initiate phone conversations and even suggest future dates. It's called dating.
"He said that he was looking for something casual, but I didn't protest that."
"Cappy called me himself after 2 days after that date and told me that he is headed to Vegas for work the day after and invited me to join him for two days (one night), of course I said yes and obviously that time there would be sex between us at last, but then the next morning he called me to say that the person he has supposed to see in vegas, won't be there so he has to reschedule the trip, but that he goes to vegas for work often so next time and I said "ok."
He will call her again when he goes to Vegas and she will accept (correct me if I'm wrong OP).
So if they both want fwb (and she has stated that she's ok with it) I don't see why she has to wait for his call? That's my opinion and you don't have to agree.
Reread what I wrote. I specifically said-
I never said I chased men. There has to be a mutual interest of course.
If a guy shows interest in me and asks me out on a date and I like him, I'm confident enough to initiate phone conversations and even suggest future dates. It's called dating.
As far as my personal life, that's none of your business. I'm done talking to you. You have your opinion and I have mine.
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You whole statement after that is moot. Reason being, words mean nothing. Actions are everything.
Posted by TaurusFlower22Exactly!!
Op, he doesn't sound worth the headache.
Once a man sees you as casual, that rarely changes...especially when you give yourself to them the way you have. He gets bf privileges while giving you occasional crumbs.
That's not ok.
YOU should be the one doing the disappearing, who gives a damn what he's doing?
If he wants you, he'll pursue you.
well ladies and gents...i just went out with another cappy born end of december who is much younger than I am..he is 29 and im 35 and he is all over me..had a great date, it took my mind completely off that 52 year old cappy as i was feeling really down the past 2 weeks...came back home, this cappy started sending me texts saying what a wonderful time he had and all that jazz lol he si into me and has no problem showing it...so cappy or not cappy i guess men are different and this is how i like men to be..open direct and not ahving issues showign themselves then again this one is young and no baggage while the 52 year old ahs issues from what i see 🙂)) so im so glad i went on this date and looking forward seeing this guy again soon. he's already inviting me out but i told him that i dont want my studies to be affected so i told him that im available on the weekend instead since it will be a little problematic to hang out during the week due to my studies and school. So can I just say f*** that older cappy?! I dont care whether this 29 year old cuttie wants casual or serious (i would prefer casual) but at least the guy puts effort, plans a date, calls to check up on me, shows attention like a normal dude should if he is interested in someone. so i say we put that old cappy to rest now screw him 🙂
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well ladies and gents...i just went out with another cappy born end of december who is much younger than I am..he is 29 and im 35 and he is all over me..had a great date, it took my mind completely off that 52 year old cappy as i was feeling really down the past 2 weeks...came back home, this cappy started sending me texts saying what a wonderful time he had and all that jazz lol he si into me and has no problem showing it...so cappy or not cappy i guess men are different and this is how i like men to be..open direct and not ahving issues showign themselves then again this one is young and no baggage while the 52 year old ahs issues from what i see 🙂)) so im so glad i went on this date and looking forward seeing this guy again soon. he's already inviting me out but i told him that i dont want my studies to be affected so i told him that im available on the weekend instead since it will be a little problematic to hang out during the week due to my studies and school. So can I just say f*** that older cappy?! I dont care whether this 29 year old cuttie wants casual or serious (i would prefer casual) but at least the guy puts effort, plans a date, calls to check up on me, shows attention like a normal dude should if he is interested in someone. so i say we put that old cappy to rest now screw him 🙂
now screw him 🙂
You know you want to 😛 hahaha
Well, good luck!
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hahah well this one is much younger, nicer body, no hair...the other one was a beast lol and this younger one is chasing me..just woke up asking me how my day is going 🙂) sweet! the other one wont call im sure anymore i just hope that it's because his own issues not because he just woke up two days after and decided im butt ugly lol
Posted by Smil3Him suggesting that says he’s not that into her duh. Like I said I don’t put stock into what someone says especially when their words directly contradict the actions. No man whose feeling you would suggest fwb.Posted by bkbella86I can’t read after you said “he said he liked her”Posted by Smil3I can’t read after you said “he said he liked her”Posted by bkbella86That's false. He's already stated he liked her.Posted by Smil3You didn’t answer my question tho. Also this man is not showing mutual interest and you’re suggesting she chase him. Setting her up for further failure. Calling and asking men out on dates is chasing. How did those relationships that you chased the man work out? Still with them? Married?Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3She can initiate. After all she can do anything she wants. It’s her life and her world. Doesn’t mean she will get the desired results. Her agreeing to be fwb already has soured this Union. Her further initiating anything is even more desperate.Posted by bkbella86I agree that men and women are wired differently, it doesn't mean she cannot initiate a 'date' lolPosted by Smil3No it’s not! And men are wired diff. If she starts chasing him, watch him run faster than Usain Bolt. But go ahead and chase sis I’m not stopping you.Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3ThAts not her place as a woman. she’s already served her body on a silver platter, she should chase him too??
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
LOL how sexist!
She's an adult and it's her choice to do whatever she wants with her body. She's already stated numerous times she's perfectly fine with casual sex. If that's what she wants then she should own it and be brave enough to call him and ask him out . So she should wait until he calls her whenever he's in the mood? Of course, she'll say yes. There's nothing wrong with her picking up the phone and saying hey I like you, let's hang out. That's not chasing, it's called being a grown up. lol
The reality is that FWB does happen, and I don't think in every instance a woman is waiting for the guy to call. The girls initiate as well lol Someone with fwb experience will tell you that.
It’s clear as day that she wants more than to be a sex toy.
How many men have your chased and how did it end?
I never said I chased men. There has to be a mutual interest of course.
If a guy shows interest in me and asks me out on a date and I like him, I'm confident enough to initiate phone conversations and even suggest future dates. It's called dating.
"He said that he was looking for something casual, but I didn't protest that."
"Cappy called me himself after 2 days after that date and told me that he is headed to Vegas for work the day after and invited me to join him for two days (one night), of course I said yes and obviously that time there would be sex between us at last, but then the next morning he called me to say that the person he has supposed to see in vegas, won't be there so he has to reschedule the trip, but that he goes to vegas for work often so next time and I said "ok."
He will call her again when he goes to Vegas and she will accept (correct me if I'm wrong OP).
So if they both want fwb (and she has stated that she's ok with it) I don't see why she has to wait for his call? That's my opinion and you don't have to agree.
Reread what I wrote. I specifically said-
I never said I chased men. There has to be a mutual interest of course.
If a guy shows interest in me and asks me out on a date and I like him, I'm confident enough to initiate phone conversations and even suggest future dates. It's called dating.
As far as my personal life, that's none of your business. I'm done talking to you. You have your opinion and I have mine.
You whole statement after that is moot. Reason being, words mean nothing. Actions are everything.
Well, that's on you. lol
Reason being, words mean nothing. Actions are everything.
Sure
"Cappy called me himself after 2 days after that date and told me that he is headed to Vegas for work the day after and invited me to join him for two days (one night), of course I said yes and obviously that time there would be sex between us at last, but then the next morning he called me to say that the person he has supposed to see in vegas, won't be there so he has to reschedule the trip, but that he goes to vegas for work often so next time and I said "ok."
When he's ready to go to Vegas or dinner ( like he told the Op) he'll call. Two adults have agreed to a casual relationship.
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Posted by UnicornSagPosted by bkbella86Two of you are arguing for no reason cause you're looking at it from different perspectives. And you're both right actually. You're right that when someone's into you they call and Smile is right that it's completely normal for fwb relationship that both are perfectly normal to call one another for the booty call lol there's no rules who calls who in such relationship. But considering the op had different opinion about it it's best for her to stay away from that guy anyway and to not call him. Besides she already found someone else so no point in arguing anyway. Anyway, in hope you 2 don't fight too much about it felt like mentioning it that it's simply same thing seen from different angles that gives different view on it...Posted by Smil3Him suggesting that says he’s not that into her duh. Like I said I don’t put stock into what someone says especially when their words directly contradict the actions. No man whose feeling you would suggest fwb.Posted by bkbella86I can’t read after you said “he said he liked her”Posted by Smil3I can’t read after you said “he said he liked her”Posted by bkbella86That's false. He's already stated he liked her.Posted by Smil3You didn’t answer my question tho. Also this man is not showing mutual interest and you’re suggesting she chase him. Setting her up for further failure. Calling and asking men out on dates is chasing. How did those relationships that you chased the man work out? Still with them? Married?Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3She can initiate. After all she can do anything she wants. It’s her life and her world. Doesn’t mean she will get the desired results. Her agreeing to be fwb already has soured this Union. Her further initiating anything is even more desperate.Posted by bkbella86I agree that men and women are wired differently, it doesn't mean she cannot initiate a 'date' lolPosted by Smil3No it’s not! And men are wired diff. If she starts chasing him, watch him run faster than Usain Bolt. But go ahead and chase sis I’m not stopping you.Posted by bkbella86Posted by Smil3ThAts not her place as a woman. she’s already served her body on a silver platter, she should chase him too??
Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
LOL how sexist!
She's an adult and it's her choice to do whatever she wants with her body. She's already stated numerous times she's perfectly fine with casual sex. If that's what she wants then she should own it and be brave enough to call him and ask him out . So she should wait until he calls her whenever he's in the mood? Of course, she'll say yes. There's nothing wrong with her picking up the phone and saying hey I like you, let's hang out. That's not chasing, it's called being a grown up. lol
The reality is that FWB does happen, and I don't think in every instance a woman is waiting for the guy to call. The girls initiate as well lol Someone with fwb experience will tell you that.
It’s clear as day that she wants more than to be a sex toy.
How many men have your chased and how did it end?
I never said I chased men. There has to be a mutual interest of course.
If a guy shows interest in me and asks me out on a date and I like him, I'm confident enough to initiate phone conversations and even suggest future dates. It's called dating.
"He said that he was looking for something casual, but I didn't protest that."
"Cappy called me himself after 2 days after that date and told me that he is headed to Vegas for work the day after and invited me to join him for two days (one night), of course I said yes and obviously that time there would be sex between us at last, but then the next morning he called me to say that the person he has supposed to see in vegas, won't be there so he has to reschedule the trip, but that he goes to vegas for work often so next time and I said "ok."
He will call her again when he goes to Vegas and she will accept (correct me if I'm wrong OP).
So if they both want fwb (and she has stated that she's ok with it) I don't see why she has to wait for his call? That's my opinion and you don't have to agree.
Reread what I wrote. I specifically said-
I never said I chased men. There has to be a mutual interest of course.
If a guy shows interest in me and asks me out on a date and I like him, I'm confident enough to initiate phone conversations and even suggest future dates. It's called dating.
As far as my personal life, that's none of your business. I'm done talking to you. You have your opinion and I have mine.
You whole statement after that is moot. Reason being, words mean nothing. Actions are everything.
Well, that's on you. lol
Reason being, words mean nothing. Actions are everything.
Sure
"Cappy called me himself after 2 days after that date and told me that he is headed to Vegas for work the day after and invited me to join him for two days (one night), of course I said yes and obviously that time there would be sex between us at last, but then the next morning he called me to say that the person he has supposed to see in vegas, won't be there so he has to reschedule the trip, but that he goes to vegas for work often so next time and I said "ok."
When he's ready to go to Vegas or dinner ( like he told the Op) he'll call. Two adults have agreed to a casual relationship.
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Who said there is no rules with fwb? If
You have boundaries, there is always rules.
im surprised u guys think he will still call lol i think the vegas trip cancellation was a farce he ended up changing his mind i just dont get what could have happened within just one day that he canceled and disappeared like that. anyways, whatever happened i hope it's not cause he liked me less all of the sudden lol but rather the reason being his internal issues. im still getting a lot of attention from this younger cappy everyday...that older dude's bday is January 11th...i have been seeing tons of 1111ssss all around and now him 🙂
Posted by fem_fem_femPosted by NostalgicCappyy
Cap Sun.. Aqua Venus..
is this bad? lol never been with this placements can u explain why? spare me the headache lolclick to expand
This placement has commitment issues, they know how to string a woman along. They mastered the art of stringing women along. He Married twice to the same woman and it still didn't work.
Casual means I'll see you when I see you. Out of sight out of mind.
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He want something casual, like he said. That means he wants sex from time to time.Period.
It's clear that you want something more so you better stop here.
Spot on 👏
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Why are you not calling him and asking him out on a 'date' or whatever it is that you want to do?
oh noooo im staying aloof in case he has changed his mind, i dont want to be chasing him nor dialing his #...i haven't contacted him nor am i planning to to at least save face and stay aloof.
What's your sign?
im pisces sun, leo moon, taurus rising, venus & mars conj in aries chick...any thoughts on me lol? 🙂)click to expand
Aha, can’t cope with Pisces sun, far too emotional and sensitive, no wonder he is pulled away. Friends with benefits, most of men wanted anyways if you allow them too. But protection tho, physically and emotionally.
Why on Earth would you deeply involved at aged 35 without man investing you first? Are you horny or lonely? I’m impressed that your man who is almost 20 years senior than you played so cool! Have I missed something here?? 🙄🤷🏻♀️
Posted by fem_fem_femPosted by UnicornSag
Honestly-you're lying to yourself when you're saying you want casual thing with that guy. You wouldn't mind if he's calling or when he's calling at all if you were fine with casual. You wouldn't bother about his placements or to understand him more.
You lied to not say you don't want to sleep with him on 1st date too, so what's with the lying? Be true to yourself from the start. If you're honest about not wanting anything than casual then just stop overthinking and call him out and have sex with a guy if that's what you really want. But I don't think it is. His lack of attention bothers you meaning you care for him so don't get into it if you can't accept his terms. He's been pretty clear with you from the start about what he wants, can't blame him for lying or being dishonest in any way. You know how casual things work-you call each other when you wish to do it, don't bother texting or asking how was your day, it's a casual thing and has to be treated that way(if that's what it is)
I see what u are saying and agree but i am yet to hear a call regarding sex either lol
what im saying is that he can at least see if im alive...heck i could have met someone by now and yes i have a date tomorrow with a guy who is chasing me although i also not looking for anything serious now...just want someone in my life for sex, dinner once a week and a man who calls sometimes to say hey....we will see how that goes tomorrow....i do think that the cancelation was a bs to vegas because if he didn't decide to not see me again he could have called once so that i wouldn't think that he disappeared after the cancellaton. Also, he is the one who mentioned casual get-togethers sometimes out of town but also mentioned "and 1 and 2 time dinners" im still waiting for both lol
there's no doubt in my mind that he was into me and things were intense too, i feel like he really liked me just as the first time as he kept mentioning it to his friend, but i think he figured that he liked me a little too much beyond the casual interaction and he figured that since there's no future, then he should spare us both the headache of any future feelings pop in out so to speak and he decided to leave it and disappear so i dont see the casual thing happening either...if someone is looking for something casual then they stay away from anyone whom they liked a lot otherwise that just becomes dangerous and a headach plus he is older than me by 17 years so maybe he is smart and thought about leavign this as is. I did have a similar experience where a man was really into me, felt comfy with me but he was looking for someone from his ethnicity, so there was no future with us but he kept chasing me yet kept me at arms length and i was confused for a year why this man who keeps saying how much he would love to sleep with me, how wonderful I am etc, was keepign me a 5 mile away physivally from him.....once i directly told him that i'd like to give him a massage and he said that he would LOVE it but it's dangerous as he might like it too much....that explained his weird behavior of wanting me, not letting me close for a year, constantly wanting my attention, complimenting me, yet he made sure that nos ex ever happened between us and now he is amrried to a girl of his ethnicity 🙂 so im thinking that he did connect well with this man (im 35 he si 52) but he figured that it's best not to get together maybe not to hurt me later on. I dont care at this point if it's serious or casual but im totally fine with 1-2 dinners each week and a casual sex without marriage in the future as im not too crazy about getting married but i do want to date someone liek this when we both have our lives and get together hang out once a week or even once every two weeks. what im saying is that there was strong connection and pull on a mental level too besides the sexual tension being obvious....i didnt have sex because i wasn't ready that day it was our 1st official date, thigns turned out a little differently for me in that regard but what does it even matter if he had a chance for sex 2 days after when he invited me to vegas to go along and cancelled...so it's not like i rejected the sex cause that day i said let's do it next time on my period...i lied about epriod but he doesn't know it and i said next time for sure. Men want it casual then they back out of that too even so u just dont get them nowadays 🙂 I do feel rejected quite honestly but i also realize that it could easily bee that he liked me a little too much which he didnt' expect so that rejection wasn't because he found me great, then two days alter he thought to himself 'omg that ugly B***" lol it could be that he also is talking someone so he thought it's best to stick just to one who knows. Im just proud that i didn't contact him at all...in the past when my lack of experience i would have easily reached out to him but now no...i know u guys say that it's casual for him and he will reach out when it works for him but he won't reach out for sure...he would have done it by now his silence means that he ghosted me. he seems a bit hurt that his ex-wife left him...so he is also not immune to hurt. regardless....we had a strong mental connection and physical attraction too that's why i feel hurt and rejected of this ghosting.click to expand
Girl, you maybe fine with 1-2 dinners each week and a casual sex without marriage, but a man who does causal would not date you once or twice a week if I’m honest, too costly for friendships with benefits.
Are you sure the way you felt about him is the same way he feels about you?? Not fantasy imagination? I dated Cap men, they never have guts to cancel our dates, and they made obvious points that they wanted a decent relationships too. Doesn’t sound immature for a man who is 52 years to almost say I don’t want to settle down just yet?!
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guys...i dont mind calling BUT if we had met again after the vegas cancellation by him (real or not) .. doesn't matter if he wants casual or not because he hasn't reached out to me...had he reached out once or twice after the date excluding his call regarding his invite to vegas then the cancellation next day, i wouldn't be wondering.....i dont want to call cause i dont even know if he wants the casual now because it's been 2 weeks of no contacts from him at all. Your suggestion now to contact him if i want casual isn't relevant now since his last contact with me was a cancelation lol so why should i be reaching for him serious or casual? the bottom line is to sum up his behavior towards me...he liked me the first time he saw me as he mentioned this to his friend...then on our double-date, we had very warm conversation throughout the night one-on-one.... by the way, since i mentioned that we all went to a casino, he kept putting his $ $ into the slot machines by $ 100 bills and was forcing me to play, but since it was his money, i kept saying no, then he was physically forcing me to play lol seeing that i told him that he will go bankrupt with me playing the slots since i never have luck with those, so he kept inisiting me to keep hitting the slots without any problem so that was nice of him.....although i then played a little then switched with him, but then after a little he would tell me to hit again so we ended up switching and he lost $ $ and didn't even care lol. My point is that he wasn't frugal and made sure that i play with his $ $ most of the time.
Then somehow 4 of us on the double-date lost each other in the crowd after we all went to the bathroom, so i caught up with my friends' boyfriend first so we decided to look for that cappy man and my friend but i was wearing heels so i asked my friends boyfriend if i can sit at this specific slot and he can look for them cause my feet were killing me with heels on for so many hours, so my friend's bf said sure, then he pulled a $ 100 and stuck it in that slot machine telling me to entertain myself while he finds them both lol so after arguing with my friend's bf to take that $ 100 back, since i felt uncomfy, he didn't, of course, so i pulled that $ 100 out after the boyfriend went looking for them, and when we finally found that cappy man and my friend, I slid that $ 100 into the cappys slot machine myself as a pay back for his lost $ $ and told him it's his friend's $ $ and that now it is his turn to play with 'my' money so he was laughing at me. Anyways, he kept hugging me sideways saying how sweet and darling I am....he kept also asking me about my sexual past WTF was that all about—? he wanted to know when i lost my V and how many partners i have had
why would he ask me such personal questions? in the hotel when we were laying next to each other, he said he really enjoyed the blowjob...btw i didn't even want to do that but it's like he kept insisting since i was on my 'period" so i did it although i didn't anticipate that night to end like that but i wasn't going to spend my night in the rain in front of the hotel...nor did i plan to sleep with him on the 1st date either...so i was put in a uncomfy situation having no $ $ to get a hotel myself and we all took 1 car and i didnt want to poop in everyone's party either by insisting that we head back home.....because i liked him. He told me in the hotel that im beautiful that i have a beautiful smile, great personality, that im fun to be around, that i seem like a happy person without any worries in life lol he even mentioned to me "im going to vegas mid week want to join me?" I said yes...so then as u guys know he called me after 2 days to give me time and day and i agreed again then the cancelation the very next morning. I have a feeling that he went and it was just a way for him to not pursue me in any way. After that date, he again told that friend that he liked u a lot and that I seem to be a very fun and pleasant woman" I dont doubt this cause thats how he was with me...he showed attraction the way he was looking at me too i could tell.
he told me he has problems and is in debt so he felt stressed out but i have a feeling that there's someone in his life too so he decided to back out right before the vegas trip. Anyways, im starting to lose my interest in dating by now cause it seems people are either inconsistent, they blow hot and cold just like this cappy and im too old for this shit....i don't care if its serious or casual but im all for consistency with a man....when i asked him if he felt down after the divorce, he made it seem that he did, but i know that 10 yrs ago eh filed for divorce, then they got back together, then the wife left him again 3 yrs ago and he said that she is an Aries and both were very stubborn and it was like 'if u did this, ill do that' so stubborness got them divorced. I asked him do u want to get back to your wife, he said "nowdays who knows what the future holds, u don't even know what will happen to u next week." so i took this as if he is not over the divorce? I thought it is easier with older men but oh noooo there's too much baggage with them lol I have a date with a 29 yrs old (im 35) and he is all voer me, calling me showing me attention, he is sooo sweet. oh and i told my friend who i know will her boyfriend that i have a date with 2 different guys....i hope the rumor gets to the cappy lol that he missed the train with his disapperance so this is it for me...i waited for the 2nd weekend to pass to see if he will reach out but no so i need to move on now.
Now I sensed what went to wrong! You played your heart so hard without protecting it. You almost physically involved with your man, but then you wanted him to know you were popular to date someone else?! Yeah, you can do that but has to be smart way. You only convinced your man to be friends with benefits.
Show bit self growth and self worth. If you cannot look after yourself gracefully, no other can. Stay busy but not dating around physically.
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