capricorn man....? help!

I'm an Aries and im interested in a Capricorn man. I met this cap 20 years ago because we was in the same elementary school. Years later we met again but couldn't talk on the romance level because we both or one person would be in a relationship. We decided to talking but he dissappeared on me cause he was stress and then try and come back I was talking to someone else during that time and decided I'm gonna continue talking to the other person cause the capricorn man left me last time so his lost. It didn't work out between me and other person and the capricorn man reached out to me again. We started talking n taking each other seriously. After 2 months out of no where he only started talking to me on the phone and no plans to see me. I would invite him places but plans wouldn't follow through. I confronted him about it...Nothing change So I back off...he comes back after 2 weeks saying he dont understand why we stopped talking then he didn't ask me out but would say things like it seems like Im doubting him that's why we aren't a couple but we can be....not wanting him to dissappear again I have been hesitant on a relationship with him plus the fact that he hasn't ask me out on a date (he says he need to fix his life financially before we can go on dates even tho I told him just seeing him is enough for me. Then I made a joke about being friends with benefits (we never had sex) and immediately told him I was just joking...he said he can't take me serious cause I play around too much. I just thought it was a haha joke just to make conversation despite his cold distant demeanor. He claim he wasn't upset....but he sound upset...I didn't feel like I did anything wrong and we haven't spoke for a week...Can someone diagnose this cap for me...is he playing games—

He doesn't take those jokes well...but atleast u know that he is not messing around...he just thinks u don't believe him...give him time to settle financially...don't start pressuring about dates...

If he hasn't spoken this week, u make an extra effort to speak with him coz u upset him clearly...call him text him anything...just say sorry again and be genuine about it

Posted by Foreverloveme
Ok just my opinion Aries + Cap = NO!

To answer your particular questions

1. He's serious about you

2. He's trying to get straight financially. No man, especially a cap man wants to lack in this area. They want to be able to provide. Even though you say it doesn't matter, it matters to him.

3. He took fwb comment personally & was serious in his response. He's feeling somewhat down now & all you can see is "he's not spending time with me". All he wants you yo do is understand, be patient, & be supportive

This. But @ bold 😢

Poor guy was/is serious OP. You said FWB, he probably felt embarrassed and confused about you.. It's.... insulting to hear something like that OP, even if its a joke and especially because he's serious.

Aries are too toxic for Caps!

Posted by ParisianCappy

Posted by Jalent99
Aries are too toxic for Caps!

why ?

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Ohh wow, quite a few other posts asked abt aries and caps r/s previously.

In a nutshell after 2 r/s, one of which was 4.5yrs and we were living together, they never ever work out.....

Aries are not responsible, not even for their own lives, they expect someone to look after them. Which is fine, but for caps they will feel unappreciated, cause aries are all about themselves (90% of the aries i know) and our seriousness about life, need for love and less optimistic streak will create a lot of disappointment in the relationship.

Thanks guys got all the advice!

Our conversations are usually serious and sometimes joke but I've notice I have more of a sense of humor then he does. He sometimes find my humor not funny (twice)

Aries are responsible and we take care of out self and im in my career in going well. @Jalent99

Aries and Caps can work but it probably depends on other factors too - level of maturity; other placements in the chart; stage in life, chance, etc.

So why haven't I seen him for over 2 months but he seems to not mind starting a relationship with me?

Posted by Ariesbabey
So why haven't I seen him for over 2 months but he seems to not mind starting a relationship with me?

You already wrote, he said he wanted to fix his financial situation before he took you on dates.

He seems like he's trying very hard to be with you! Don't push him away because you're being impatient.

Posted by Ariesbabey
Aries are responsible and we take care of out self and im in my career in going well. @Jalent99

Problem with the Aries men i dated. They are responsible for themselves to a certain extend, do not care abt their partners. Initialy maybe but over time u know they are selfish. When I fell sick, he will verbally ask if I m ok, but no action, he actually forgets to help me buy meds after I ask. Caps are extremely tolerant and they take advantage of that all the time.

Their careers going well in terms of day to day? Well the ones I dated have big ambition but no actual and practical plans to achieve that. I had to sit down and plan with my ex who was older than me, gave him the encouragement and advice. Never happens the other way around.

I have nothing against Aries, just not the kind that Caps can take in the long run. My mum is a typical Aries, emotions run high and low, its always about how she feels. She doesnt sit down to be considerate for others. My bro is another classic example, fortunately he has a lot of Caps and Scorpio placements, thus we get along alright. They are family and I m fine with that, managed through the years.

Aries men and Cap women doomed for failure. The women has to wear the pants. Cap men and Aries women, maybe if the man is blindly in love.

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/cap-woman-aries-man-marriage-divorce-6614400/

Thanks jalent99 for the advice and yes I'm a School Principal so im doing well day to day included.

Aries men and Aries women are very different despite our similarities.

i'm not helping you

The thing abt the Aries / Cap relationship. My Aries ex is too chill about everything, when I see a potential difference between us and tried to talk about it, look for a compromise, he looks the other way and pretends/genuinely feel that everything is alright....

Aries are too insensitive towards Caps, for a Cap to voice out something, it means we are alrdy hanging by the thread....

Posted by Ariesbabey
Thanks jalent99 for the advice and yes I'm a School Principal so im doing well day to day included.

You're a principal and you're name is ariesbabey..

Your op sounds very immature for a principal. I'm not believing it. Principals are extremely busy and do not have time for petty bs like this. I bet if anything you're a supervisor for a small private school. Sorry to call you out, but again I just don't believe you.

Basically he told you he can't treat you the way he would like to. Dating means going out on dates, he's financially strapped right now...then you jokingly suggest a fwb. You made him feel like that's all he has to offer you.

Seriously, We don't like that.

Posted by Jalent99
Aries are too insensitive towards Caps, for a Cap to voice out something, it means we are alrdy hanging by the thread....

I agree with this, and I am all too aware, it isn't just with caps but any sign that is more reserved in their expression. That is why I am making it a conscious point to allow him space to express himself.