Capricorn man says he doesn't feel the sparkle for Gemeni woman

Dear all,

I have terribly fallen in love with a Cap guy about 4-5 months ago. He is 38, from another town, but willing to relocate, divorced and with 2 beautiful girls who live with their mother. I am 37 never been married, no obligations, I am well financially speaking. We had sex from the first night and I thought it would be just a one night stand. But than he said that he is not that kind of person and wanted to get to know each other because he is looking for a long term relationship... this is when I fell in love. We see each other as often as possible considering both busy schedules. He does pay for restaurants and shopping, takes care of me, but does not bring me flowers or say smth. sweet. Sex is ok, not mind blowing.

Last weekend he began a conversation about my expectations in this relationship, saying that he feels like I want him to marry me, but he feels that we should wait for it, that I should be patient with him because he trusts me and feels my love, but he is not there yet, he feels only a little sparkle, not the flame. He also said that he does not see us together for the long run due to this little sparkle, which he hopes that it would turn into a flame for him also. The third bad news is that he said that he does not feel sexually attracted to me, only spiritually because we are strongly mind connected.

my questions for all caps are:

1. should I wait for him or just leave him even if it hurts like hell? he said he does not want us to break up, nor to see other people

2. is it really hope that the sparkle turns into a flame? the night after he said that, he made mind blowing slow candle light love to me... so.. I don't know

3. how should I act to him in the future? is there anything I can do/say to make him love me?

Thank you all for your answers, any advice is highly appreciated

PS: I truly madly deeply love him... pls consider this in your answers and that he is sure I love him..

confused Gemwoman

Hello Lady.

1. I would suggest wait. Good things with Capricorn always come a bit late.

2. Yes there is a lot of hope that the spark can turn into a full fledged flame. It might be your cap is busy with work since he is 35+. So don't expect a boyish romance from him. He might have other things on his plate which require his focus and attention. He has 2 girls who do require a lot of love and attention from him. So just be there for him. With time it will definitely happen.

I thought Gems are more mind oriented being an Air sign. It is good that you share a good mind connection. Other things will happen over time.

It is a very difficult pairing so think twice you might get hurt. All the best.

Why is he not sexually attracted to you but you guys are still having sex? How is THAT possible?

Posted by saggurl88
Why is he not sexually attracted to you but you guys are still having sex? How is THAT possible?

Sapiosexual I guess lol.

If a man told me he wasn't sexually attracted to me I'm done, I don't care what sign u are

He's not sexually attracted to you. What more is there to say...

Your 37, how many years are you willing to throw away on this dude?

Well what he says doesn't exactly match his actions but in a good way. Despite saying no sexual attraction you guys are still having decent sex. Also, think long term... most relationships definitely turn from hot flame to a warm glow if they're lucky to maintain a mind a connection. That hot flame doesn't last but a mind connection does because all life changes will be paired with quality conversation. IMO that lasts longer than any sizzling sex life.

If you're happy with the company wait it out. With Caps things get so much better in time than initially if you can ride our the beginning awkwardness, lack of expression and what not.