Capricorns, do you avoid intimacy?

Quick back story, I've known this cap man for a few years and weve always been flirty with one another like highschool kids with a secret crush. Hes 43, I'm 29. We began hanging out and eventually it led to some of the best sex I've ever had. The passion in bed is unbelievable. However that is where it stops. Outside of the bedroom he has become noticably less intimate with me. He sends me text messages to check on me, basically if I dont show up at the gym when i normally would he wants to know where i am. We have continued to sleep together but yesterday he asked me to dinner for the first time and that is when i noticed he was extremely nervous. He had trouble speaking and was rubbing his hands back and forth on his knees, he looked as if on the verge of a medical anxiety attack.

We've already slept together, what could he possibly be nervous about?!

On the date he seemed very withdrawn, we sat down to dinner and he put his face into his phone. Are you kidding me?!

I felt like i was there by myself it was almost cold, though it also seemed like he couldnt talk. What is going on with this man ? He becomes so tender and then a switch goes off and he blocks and intimacy between us.

Posted by MoonyEYES88
Quick back story, I've known this cap man for a few years and weve always been flirty with one another like highschool kids with a secret crush. Hes 43, I'm 29. We began hanging out and eventually it led to some of the best sex I've ever had. The passion in bed is unbelievable. However that is where it stops. Outside of the bedroom he has become noticably less intimate with me. He sends me text messages to check on me, basically if I dont show up at the gym when i normally would he wants to know where i am. We have continued to sleep together but yesterday he asked me to dinner for the first time and that is when i noticed he was extremely nervous. He had trouble speaking and was rubbing his hands back and forth on his knees, he looked as if on the verge of a medical anxiety attack.

We've already slept together, what could he possibly be nervous about?!

On the date he seemed very withdrawn, we sat down to dinner and he put his face into his phone. Are you kidding me?!

I felt like i was there by myself it was almost cold, though it also seemed like he couldnt talk. What is going on with this man ? He becomes so tender and then a switch goes off and he blocks and intimacy between us.

Maybe that sex was a Swan Song for him and he doesn't know how to say 'that was IT! I can't afford more Viagra...'?

Awww he's nervous around you. That means he cares.

The sex is in his comfort zone. Wooing you isn't. Maybe step up and plan the next date? Be more vocal and lead the conversation? Ask him questions about his work, hobbies, goals etc.

Posted by MoonyEYES88
Quick back story, I've known this cap man for a few years and weve always been flirty with one another like highschool kids with a secret crush. Hes 43, I'm 29. We began hanging out and eventually it led to some of the best sex I've ever had. The passion in bed is unbelievable. However that is where it stops. Outside of the bedroom he has become noticably less intimate with me. He sends me text messages to check on me, basically if I dont show up at the gym when i normally would he wants to know where i am. We have continued to sleep together but yesterday he asked me to dinner for the first time and that is when i noticed he was extremely nervous. He had trouble speaking and was rubbing his hands back and forth on his knees, he looked as if on the verge of a medical anxiety attack.

We've already slept together, what could he possibly be nervous about?!

On the date he seemed very withdrawn, we sat down to dinner and he put his face into his phone. Are you kidding me?!

I felt like i was there by myself it was almost cold, though it also seemed like he couldnt talk. What is going on with this man ? He becomes so tender and then a switch goes off and he blocks and intimacy between us.

it could be any number of things - social anxiety disorder, wife and kids on the rim ... could you try to start talking to him gently and without pressure when you are done having sex and just cuddling

Posted by LadyNeptune
Awww he's nervous around you. That means he cares.

The sex is in his comfort zone. Wooing you isn't. Maybe step up and plan the next date? Be more vocal and lead the conversation? Ask him questions about his work, hobbies, goals etc.

Thank you for the quick response. This man is a challenge to conversate with. Ive been asking him questions because im curious about who he is. He doesnt typically asks questions back and inquire about me. I know caps are typically suspicious so I'd figure he would ask lots of questions. you called it though...He has no problem talking about work, when hes training, who hes working with, where they are going....I think he likes that I'm a good listener. however is there anything I can do to make conversation between the two of us flow more soothly. Although I like listening, being a soundboard can only last so long lol. I feel like a psychologist "how do you feel about that?"

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Posted by MoonyEYES88
Quick back story, I've known this cap man for a few years and weve always been flirty with one another like highschool kids with a secret crush. Hes 43, I'm 29. We began hanging out and eventually it led to some of the best sex I've ever had. The passion in bed is unbelievable. However that is where it stops. Outside of the bedroom he has become noticably less intimate with me. He sends me text messages to check on me, basically if I dont show up at the gym when i normally would he wants to know where i am. We have continued to sleep together but yesterday he asked me to dinner for the first time and that is when i noticed he was extremely nervous. He had trouble speaking and was rubbing his hands back and forth on his knees, he looked as if on the verge of a medical anxiety attack.

We've already slept together, what could he possibly be nervous about?!

On the date he seemed very withdrawn, we sat down to dinner and he put his face into his phone. Are you kidding me?!

I felt like i was there by myself it was almost cold, though it also seemed like he couldnt talk. What is going on with this man ? He becomes so tender and then a switch goes off and he blocks and intimacy between us.

Maybe that sex was a Swan Song for him and he doesn't know how to say 'that was IT! I can't afford more Viagra...'?

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lol geez i hope not, he said he was tired the other day and i holding back my old man cracks

Posted by tcta

Posted by MoonyEYES88
Quick back story, I've known this cap man for a few years and weve always been flirty with one another like highschool kids with a secret crush. Hes 43, I'm 29. We began hanging out and eventually it led to some of the best sex I've ever had. The passion in bed is unbelievable. However that is where it stops. Outside of the bedroom he has become noticably less intimate with me. He sends me text messages to check on me, basically if I dont show up at the gym when i normally would he wants to know where i am. We have continued to sleep together but yesterday he asked me to dinner for the first time and that is when i noticed he was extremely nervous. He had trouble speaking and was rubbing his hands back and forth on his knees, he looked as if on the verge of a medical anxiety attack.

We've already slept together, what could he possibly be nervous about?!

On the date he seemed very withdrawn, we sat down to dinner and he put his face into his phone. Are you kidding me?!

I felt like i was there by myself it was almost cold, though it also seemed like he couldnt talk. What is going on with this man ? He becomes so tender and then a switch goes off and he blocks and intimacy between us.

it could be any number of things - social anxiety disorder, wife and kids on the rim ... could you try to start talking to him gently and without pressure when you are done having sex and just cuddling

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I think sex is comforting for him actually, i mean hey i love it too but he's more receptive and open to me after. im more than ok with utilizing it as a tool for intimacy lol. he does suprise me though because his sexual style is not vanilla at all....hes way more open in that department then im accustomed to

Are you tryin to make us jelaous ?

Cause it's working...?

What's his moon, venus and mars?

whatever it is, it doesn't all have to do with being a Capricorn ...

he sounds extra anally anxious (EAA) I just made that up lol

hahaha maybe an advocate for sex therapy, who knew

Posted by Biboroon
What's his moon, venus and mars?

i havent gotten these yet, i know his birthday but i still have to find out the time and city he was born in without sounding like a complete stalker haha. im an aquarius moon and gemini venus, based on astrological theory its suprising that his lack of intimacy affects me this way.

Posted by tcta
whatever it is, it doesn't all have to do with being a Capricorn ...

he sounds extra anally anxious (EAA) I just made that up lol

lol well you may be right, i feel that theres a deep sensitivity in him. I just down know how to calm his demons. I want him to trust me and be open with me. I wonder if hes this way with anyone

Posted by MoonyEYES88

Posted by tcta
whatever it is, it doesn't all have to do with being a Capricorn ...

he sounds extra anally anxious (EAA) I just made that up lol

lol well you may be right, i feel that theres a deep sensitivity in him. I just down know how to calm his demons. I want him to trust me and be open with me. I wonder if hes this way with anyone

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you won't know unless you get him to open up a bit - ask him what would help him relax - say you seem a bit pre-occupied ...

how much do you really know about him ?

Do you actually have any idea where this will lead? Like, where do YOU want it to lead in a few months? Do you think about something serious or just casual dating and exploring new things.

I promise you, THATS on his mind and thats why he holds back. You have to feel him out more if he either wants something serious or is afraid that you want something serious while he is all about a good time. Caps love confident women, and next time call him out on the phone thing if it truly bothers you.