Capricorn Men & Privacy

Hey all! I'm new to this board but I've been a longtime lurker. I was wondering, how do capricorn men normally behave regarding privacy? I'm with a typical cappy guy and I pretty much have all the issues girls vent about on this board. 😢... but its ok! 🙂
Anyways, my cappy guy moves like a snail when it comes to relationships, but he tells me he'd be happy being alone anyway. Kinda sad, but life becomes exactly what you believe it is, so I can't really change his thinking. One thing I noticed is that anytime someone calls him, he puts the phone on speaker, especially if it's a girls voice so I can hear the conversation. Also, someone repeatedly texted him, so he showed me the text. He always tells me that no one really calls him and everyone on his facebook is mostly an "acquaintance" bc his real friends he actually hangs out with.

Also, whats up with Cappy guys deleting and re-adding friends on facebook? Before he met me, he did that alot, and I never knew if girls deleted him or he did it.

How are your cappys with phones, texts, facebook and email privacy? My other ex-bf was sooo possessive of his phone which was ridiculous, whereas this cappy will just leave it with me and I'm not even in a committed relationship with him.

It seems like he always reassuring me? Or is he trying to hard to convince me something other than the truth? It's nice, but I never asked, and I'm not one of those possessive girls. I laid out all of my cards in the beggining, told him I really cared about him, but I know that he cannot prioritize a woman right now bc of his career. I respected that, played no games, carried on my merry way, meeting him occassionally.

Btw, I'm an Aries, moon in scorpio. He's a Cappy, moon in Gemini

My Cap friend would do this to me when he was interested in a relationship. He would put all of his conversations on speakerphone, and even put me on the phone with his female friends. I'm not sure what it's about. It could be that he's showing you he has nothing to hide, and it could be that he's paranoid because there's a lot to hide. Who knows? Either way though, I'd take it that he likes you and this is effort on his part to show you he's open.

oh hello...

My CapGuy would do same... put his convos on speaker and all. Even these last times, he showed me who was calling.

you all pretty much know the end of the story.

Yeah, I guess its a nice gesture, but its not enough considering all the other cappy issues I have to deal with. His fbook deleting and re-adding hot girls is what really confuses me. He did it a few weeks ago actually, but I don't go on fbook much until I noticed now. You clearly had to talk to them, someone get mad, for them to delete them as a friend.

Either way, something doesn't smell right and I'm just gonna sprint outta this one like true Arien style !

Haha thanks CappyLuv, I need to try that! But I have a feeling he's been chatting up random fbook skankas, and at first I didn't try to care too much bc we aren't in a relationship, we were in LIMBO... They would write all these flirtatious posts on his wall. He would always tell me that they are just skankas, they do that to everyone.

But now I feel as though its disrespectful to me! Why? Because I do not want to be put in any category near those skankas! I'm in law school and I'm going places. So it's time to bow out. I'm not going to confront him on this because he made his choice. Rather, I will just vanish, because thats what I do best!

...but then a part of me always says "what if I have just a little more patience." gah!

@ Quietstorm, I dont think I was overreacting.. I didn't really give the full story. But basically he was hardcore flirting it up with a skank(s) on fbook. (wanna give me a massage? why didn't you call me last night?) It was MUTUAL on both sides. Until someone deleted someone. Bleh

LOL sorry for leaving out important info. I'm cursed (or blessed) with a short memory. After that whole thing effed up fbook crap, I just disappeared for awhile brooded over things, and came back a happy camper. Then he jumped back in my life and just confused me again with his emotional unavailability yet treats me like his girlfriend. It's a sick cycle that needs to end. I need to make that my New Years Resolution

Posted by kstarks2
i knew there was more drama going on. Facebook is the devil.

He is not taking anyone on there seriously. he's probably just bored.

agree!

Cap men are a special breed that I have been mesmerized & then infuriated by....It takes much patience dealing with them.

I think its their deep deep emotions that F with their way of thinking. I think an Aries is best off with another Aries IMO...

Interesting purplediamond, I get what you are saying. He always tells me that he has very few friends who know the "real" him, and that these skanks on his fbook are just people he knows, but doesn't seem to respect. Me on the other hand, I feel as though he tries to go out of his way to show that he really is just a down to earth, lonely person, who likes to sit at home and just hang out by himself. He says he's the happiest when he is at home, and not at a club where people are just so fake. I dunno why he seems to convince me so hard that he's done with partying. I honestly believe that he is done with the party scene because he really just works and is home all day. (He used to be a big partyer years back but did a 180 bc he got bored of it)

He wanted me to be with him on NYE and on his bday which is nice, considering I've only known him 3 months. Then again, I like how he is taking his time and doing his own thing, whereas I'm doing mine... bc jumping into a relationship so quickly can be damaging.
I've been so back and forth on this thing, never know when to let go or hang on, but I believe its best to just accept it for what it is and live my life. 🙂

just Soph, Aries-Aries for me is disaster! considering I have my moon in Scorpio I just am attracted to more grounded people. Although I attract Gemini's like a moth to a flame!

I'm venus in aries, mars in capricorn
moon in scorpio, ascendant in gemini
sun in aries,

i'm a walking contradiction 😉

The Cap I'm dating now admitted that he's introvert and a very private person. I guess it's Cap thing.

Im a cap and I wear my heart on my sleeve..but Im a woman..........cappy is solitary sometimes but when they Do talk to someone I think theyre very open. They are not private because they are shy theyre private because they are conserving, planning, they are just not putting energy into some things such as socialising. Once they focus on something theyre not like a snail an if they see anyone who can help them with their projects no matter who they will immediately share everything with total lack of inhibition. So they are not shy or embarrassed so much as disinterested. Once they see a mountain to climb or it as a project they will be very firey.

he sounds like hes trying to please you and prove something to you...maybe he believes he has to prove hes not cheating..this is not capricorn thing..it will be something he has concluded he needs to do to sort out an issue with you. he thinks you dont trust him. cos hes earth sign he will be going by your actions not your words...you can say you trust him till your blue in the face...you have to find out what actions your doing that he is interpreting as you being insecure. or maybe he saw you doing something like looking at his email and has felt like that ever since..cappys have a long memory and once they see a problem they will keep applying their chosen practical solution in a very repetitive boring manner

if you tell him being alone is not ambitious ie that its what people do ho cannot handle human contact and opt out of the more challenging and enriching missing out then this might appeal to his ambitious side..Tell him YOU are ambitious and certainly not going to live life by halfs...when you are old you are going to be with your soulmate ie you will die feeling a successful enriched not a failure and cop out

to be honest it feels like your asking if he is sensitive about privacy because your trying to guess how much it will upset him and damage the relationship if you check his emails texts etc. If thats whats going on you are being insecure and this will ruin any relationship