Ex starts contacting me after I told him I....

So i haven't spoken to my capricorn Venus in cap ex for 3 months after he broke up with me because I was pressuring him for commitment ,bought him a very expensive gift and he's a commitmentphobe.last week I texted him and told him that I'm finally over him and that we should be friends and he shouldn't worry cause I've moved on and I'm seeing someone and it feels great.he said he's happy to hear that and he asked if the guy is treating me well and I said he is.and then I said I hope you're doing well.and he didn't respond. A week later I post pics of me out and having fun and he texts me out of the blue and asks me to contact one of my friends who owns a company to help him get a job.When we were together I tried to help my ex find a job and I kept doing everything for my ex.I basically smothered him with tons of love and attention. So when he texted me that I just said ok I'll contact him and he said thanks dude....It really bugged me that he called me dude so I said no problem dudette. When we were together I was always very romantic and called him love and cutesy stuff like that.So then he contacts me the next day and sends me a funny gif and then says but no it would really help me out if you helped me.I responded and said my friend said he doesn't need workers and then my ex said oh ok thanks for trying to help and I responded and just said no problem.I kept responding and being very distant.When we were together I always responded with enthusiasm and love and care so I have a feeling that he's wondering why I'm not acting the way I used to act.Guys I'm trying to figure out why he's suddenly contacting me after I told him I'm seeing someone and moved on?My ex never asked me to do anything for him in the past but I always did and I remember when I tried to help him find a job, it sorta bugged him and he said focus on yourself and your life and now he's asking me for help?why?Is it really cause he wants a job? Or is he testing me to see if he still has me?

Its weird cause in the past he kept saying we can't be friends.But when i told him i'm seeing someone and moved on he said yes,lets slowly be friends.

well i told him it's not serious just casually dating.But he always kept telling me we can't be friends.

Posted by CluelessCancer
CLINGY=Run Away

Space=Comes back

nature of the beast. Stop coddling men.

I understand 😢 You're right 😢 My ex has issues with commitment,it literally gives him panic attacks

You texted him to say you were over him and have moved on and were seeing someone else, and wanted to be friends

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So he's called you out by asking you for help, as a friend, and now you're asking why he's contacting you?

Posted by RichCap
You texted him to say you were over him and have moved on and were seeing someone else, and wanted to be friends

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So he's called you out by asking you for help, as a friend, and now you're asking why he's contacting you?

The thing is I always asked him to be friends in the past and he would never agree.But this time he did.It's just weird of him asking me for help.He has tons of friends who can help him.

Yeah, because he thinks you've moved on, so won't spend your time deconstructing his every move. He'll probably be pretty annoyed when he finds out thats nonsense.

Why don't you just, move on.

Posted by caliber
as a cap venus-er (ha) umm.. he wanted nothing but that favor. he didn't get what he needed from you (work-wise) so he poofed.

he's definitely moved on. friendship is a possibility (that's it!!) but don't expect to hear much more from him besides once in a blue moon.

I'm also a venus in cap and I know what you mean.But he seriously does have commitment issues,it stems from his parents relationship.He even went to a psychologist for it.He thinks he's not good enough and in his mind every girl will leave him.

Posted by Chance15
good advice ppls. he wanted an ego stroke cause the other girl he's bugging didn't text back lol.. and he wanted to use you for a job? tell him to fuck off in a playful text next time he buzzes you

what we're still curious about? what was that gift again and did you get it back? you left us hanging in that last thread 🙂

It was a 2000 drum set 😢 And once i told him i'm in love with him and he didn't talk to me for 3 months.

Posted by Lucciferi
He's a puss, let it be.

ok thanks for the advice 😢 it's hard😢

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good advice ppls. he wanted an ego stroke cause the other girl he's bugging didn't text back lol.. and he wanted to use you for a job? tell him to fuck off in a playful text next time he buzzes you

what we're still curious about? what was that gift again and did you get it back? you left us hanging in that last thread 🙂

It was a 2000 drum set 😢 And once i told him i'm in love with him and he didn't talk to me for 3 months.

ah that was a nice, thoughtful gift..not a reflection on you. I hope when he's pounding on the symbols, the drum stick shoots out of his hand and pokes him in the eye..or the microphone falls on his stupid head. 🙂

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HAHAHAHHA! yea its also pretty rude of him to ask him to help him find a job.It's like he's using me.

What is your sun sign :?

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Posted by Chance15
good advice ppls. he wanted an ego stroke cause the other girl he's bugging didn't text back lol.. and he wanted to use you for a job? tell him to fuck off in a playful text next time he buzzes you

what we're still curious about? what was that gift again and did you get it back? you left us hanging in that last thread 🙂

It was a 2000 drum set 😢 And once i told him i'm in love with him and he didn't talk to me for 3 months.

ah that was a nice, thoughtful gift..not a reflection on you. I hope when he's pounding on the symbols, the drum stick shoots out of his hand and pokes him in the eye..or the microphone falls on his stupid head. 🙂

HAHAHAHHA! yea its also pretty rude of him to ask him to help him find a job.It's like he's using me.

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You do know taurus's key phrase / key words is " I have " right :?

and Aquarius's is " I know [knowledge, inellect ] "

And caps is —?

Posted by HomePillowHome
Is it really cause he wants a job? Or is he testing me to see if he still has me?

Here is question # 3

The man you're currently dating? Does he know he's a rebound?

Posted by HomePillowHome

HAHAHAHHA! yea its also pretty rude of him to ask him to help him find a job.It's like he's using me.

He knows you're still soft on him.
He's milking you for free employment.

...And this alleged " I have moved on....."

Your Cap is calling it bluff!

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HAHAHAHHA! yea its also pretty rude of him to ask him to help him find a job.It's like he's using me.

He knows you're still soft on him.
He's milking you for free employment.

...And this alleged " I have moved on....."

Your Cap is calling it bluff!

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Yeah, why need to txt him after 3 months? Bluff it is...

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You do know taurus's key phrase / key words is " I have " right :?

and Aquarius's is " I know [knowledge, inellect ] "

And caps is —?

"I use" I think ... because Caps are often very resourceful ...

Caps will use you only if you allow them ...

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— So you say they are resourceful AND opportunistic users?

Love the honesty :3 ... but just keep in mind some are sensitive .. even the ones that r the most guilty on this

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good advice ppls. he wanted an ego stroke cause the other girl he's bugging didn't text back lol.. and he wanted to use you for a job? tell him to fuck off in a playful text next time he buzzes you

what we're still curious about? what was that gift again and did you get it back? you left us hanging in that last thread 🙂

It was a 2000 drum set 😢 And once i told him i'm in love with him and he didn't talk to me for 3 months.

ah that was a nice, thoughtful gift..not a reflection on you. I hope when he's pounding on the symbols, the drum stick shoots out of his hand and pokes him in the eye..or the microphone falls on his stupid head. 🙂

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Your literally the closest to perfect example of " Evolved Capricorn "

and oh look at that...

pretty much JUST sun sign in capricorn

really now we just need to know jupiter and saturn and their aspects...

if jupiter is also in sag for example... hmm let me see

Posted by Chance15
good advice ppls. he wanted an ego stroke cause the other girl he's bugging didn't text back lol.. and he wanted to use you for a job? tell him to fuck off in a playful text next time he buzzes you

what we're still curious about? what was that gift again and did you get it back? you left us hanging in that last thread 🙂

what day were u born [ [of the 31 ] ]

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Posted by Chance15
good advice ppls. he wanted an ego stroke cause the other girl he's bugging didn't text back lol.. and he wanted to use you for a job? tell him to fuck off in a playful text next time he buzzes you

what we're still curious about? what was that gift again and did you get it back? you left us hanging in that last thread 🙂

It was a 2000 drum set 😢 And once i told him i'm in love with him and he didn't talk to me for 3 months.

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OK, that was an over the to gift. He didn't deserve that and you knew it. C'mon.

Anyway, now he's using you to get a job. He knows you would/could go to extremes to help him out...

Save your time, money and energy for someone else.

MOVE ON

Posted by HomePillowHome
So i haven't spoken to my capricorn Venus in cap ex for 3 months after he broke up with me because I was pressuring him for commitment ,bought him a very expensive gift and he's a commitmentphobe.last week I texted him and told him that I'm finally over him and that we should be friends and he shouldn't worry cause I've moved on and I'm seeing someone and it feels great.he said he's happy to hear that and he asked if the guy is treating me well and I said he is.and then I said I hope you're doing well.and he didn't respond. A week later I post pics of me out and having fun and he texts me out of the blue and asks me to contact one of my friends who owns a company to help him get a job.When we were together I tried to help my ex find a job and I kept doing everything for my ex.I basically smothered him with tons of love and attention. So when he texted me that I just said ok I'll contact him and he said thanks dude....It really bugged me that he called me dude so I said no problem dudette. When we were together I was always very romantic and called him love and cutesy stuff like that.So then he contacts me the next day and sends me a funny gif and then says but no it would really help me out if you helped me.I responded and said my friend said he doesn't need workers and then my ex said oh ok thanks for trying to help and I responded and just said no problem.I kept responding and being very distant.When we were together I always responded with enthusiasm and love and care so I have a feeling that he's wondering why I'm not acting the way I used to act.Guys I'm trying to figure out why he's suddenly contacting me after I told him I'm seeing someone and moved on?My ex never asked me to do anything for him in the past but I always did and I remember when I tried to help him find a job, it sorta bugged him and he said focus on yourself and your life and now he's asking me for help?why?Is it really cause he wants a job? Or is he testing me to see if he still has me?

You're full of shit. You're not over him. If you were over him, you wouldn't have contacted him. You wouldn't have cared. You would be dating your new guy and be spending your time being happy. Don't think for one minute that he believes what you say.

Why did you contact him? Who the hell contacts an ex and tells them they are over them? Who contacts an ex you're supposed to be o

Who contacts an ex you're supposed to be over JUST to say lets be friends? Who contacts an ex JUST to say you're seeing someone?

This just SCREAMS "I still love you. I still want you. I want you to be jealous because I'm with someone else".

If you were over him you wouldn't even have bothered to wonder why is he contacting me. You want us to tell you he still likes you.

Sorry. But that's the way I see it.

*over the TOP

Oh, and he STILL doesn't want to be with you. But, he will use you to advance his career. Friends do that for each other, right? And you want to be friends.

Riiiight....you just want to see if he's still interested.

Be his friend. Nothing wrong with that. But stop thinking you're going to get back together. Most of the time, when a cap moves on, they move on.

Thing is Truecap, these types of women don't get it. They really don't.

I think I understand now why P is the way she is with them. She's just trying to get through to them.

🙂

I would say it's because Caps don't really understand some human emotions but in the case of a break up, a lot of exes do this. Maybe they want sex, or attention, or just something. Noone gets over someone just like that, even if they didn't want to commit, not even when they found someone new.

Break ups suck. But they can be the beginning of something great, who knows 🙂

Posted by truecap
I think I understand now why P is the way she is with them. She's just trying to get through to them.

Makes sense 🙂