Feel hopeful?

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Sauceeey
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9 Years

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My Cap and I have been off and on since last Spring. He told me about a month ago he didn't want a relationship or to date anyone because he wants to focus on work and his children, but he wanted to be friends.

He's back saying he wishes things had gone differently. He keeps telling me I scare him. He finally said, "I don't want a relationship. You could change that. Change scares me." He's being overtly sexually flirtatious.

Should I just be patient, and see what happens?
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TrulyTaurusWoman
@TrulyTaurusWoman
9 Years

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Sauceeey,

Make it clear that you are relationship material and that you can be trusted. Remain steady and don't do moody or play head games. My Cap told me he didn't like relationships because he didn't like the drama. He didn't like worrying that the girl he was into was talking to other men or cheating. He told me that 5 times before I let him have his way with me. I made it clear that I was not a girl who could be used during those conversations, as I also described all the sexual things I wanted to do to his body. Then, I waited until we were naked, and he was convinced that heaven was 20 seconds away, before I put on the brakes and said, "Hold up now.... I am not interested in being a booty call. I don't share a man's cock with any other woman. Do you want a monogamous relationship with me or not?" He tried to avoid answering the question, as he is stubborn, but nobody can out stubborn a Taurus when she wants something, so I kissed his neck, his chest, and down his stomach and told him what a shame it was that he will never know how good a relationship with me would be. Then I asked him to hand me my pants....and so I got the commitment and relationship that he just didn't know he wanted. I don't do drama, like the girls he had known in the past. I don't play games with him, I just make sure I tell him everyday how I feel about him and how attracted to him that I am. In return, he has turned out to message me several times a day and we get together for crazy good sex at least once per week. The only thing I had to get used to is that he was not initially very verbal about how he felt. I don't think he was convinced that he wanted the relationship until maybe month 4. He does sweet things and never says no if I ask to get together, which I take as signs that things are going well. It took 6 months, but he is finally referring to me as his girlfriend. So, your guy may not want what he was exposed to in the past. If you can be different, then figure out an effective way to communicate your message, while letting him believe he is doing the chasing. Do not chase him. Capricorn men need to be the man. Good luck!!