For all the Cappy Men...i need your help!!!

OK so i am VERY confused. I like a cappy VERY much, BUT....his behavior i am not getting, so i want to know if this is a cappy thing or what?!? so here goes...

Ok i feel a total connection with him, but i can't help but feel like there is this thick wall around him, and he won't let me in 😢 i really want to be in a realtionship with him...i have been very, VERY patient with him, for a little over 2 months, but when will he let me in? he has made progress but at the speed of molasses. His behavior is this:
I won't hear from him for days at a time, I will text his phone a little smily face, and i get nuthin 😢 then the next day i get a text from him (He never calls me, it's always texts..it's like he is scared to call, he hasn't said he's scared, but it's only IM's online or cell phone texts, even when he asks me to go out or sumthin, he asks me in a text, or an IM online)...anyways as i was saying, the next day after i text him he texts me a little wink face. I was very excited, and text him, he text back, and i was at work so couldn't chat, but told him i would like to yak online later if he wants, he said ok...BUT he never signed on at the time we set 😢 i feel rejected, but he does this....he will be totally comfortable and the words just flow when we talk online, but then it's like he pulls away, and disapears for a few days, then i will hear from him when he is ready. It is very frustrating, but i feel he is worth all the effort, I never show him or tell him my frustrations, because i don't want to scare him away, when he does this i give him his space, and let him make the next contact when he is ready. I really want him to open up to me. When we are in eachothers company, he opens up but then i won't hear from him, then here comes cappy, a cute text or a sweet IM, then there goes cappy in his cave. I feel he has feelings towards me when we are around eachother, i feel a deep connection, an unspoken one....SOOOO... what i want to know from you cappy guys is what should i do? am i doing the right thing by giving him space when he clams up and crawls in his cave? is this the cycle cappy guys go through before they really want to commit to a girl? Also, when he does this to me and sort of stands me up, like he did with the online thing, i never bring it up, i will carry on like everything is fine when we talk next, is that the right thing? I have learned to be patient with him, because i feel it will be worth it in the end, i would never ever cheat on him or do anything to hurt him, i feel he is sort of precious. Even though he has this thick wall up around him, i can see through it and can see he is very sensitive. (I am very observant, so this is heloing me as well to understand him) I was wonderin' if you cappy's do this all the time when you like a girl? and will he ever surrender to the feelings he has in his heart for me, and let the fears subside? I want him to trust me in everything, and i want him to know i will be there for him....Does the texts from me, like smily face or just a "hi" help breakdown the walls? should i not take it personal if he doesn't text back right away? is that him guarding himself? i am so confused.....Anyone give me any thoughts oe advice.... It would be GREATLY appreciated....And also thanks for reading my extremely long post 🙂

Yours truly,
A patient gemini

Hi Gemini,

You almost described me to a T, and I'm a Cappy girl!!

Yes, we have walls. Yes, we get scared and "run away" temporarily, but if there's a connection we always go back.

The trust has to be earned, which takes time. (It takes Cappys longer than most.)

BE PATIENT. Cappys, especially Cappy males, can't be rushed. Find things to keep yourself busy so you won't break down and call him.

You're doin' just fine. Hang in there! 😉

Thnk you so much for your help....I text his cell today "happy thanksgiving" that's not a bad thing right? i don't want to pressure him in any way, but that's considered a friendly thing to do right?
ok thanks...
*****If anyone else wants to give me advice or your knowledge about Cappy males, Please do*****
thanks again
~a patient gemini

That was a nice sentiment. 🙂 There's nothing wrong with being nice!!

Try not to worry so much....

ya, i guess there was nuthing wrong with textin him...even though he didn't say it back, that's him just pulling away again...hopefully i will hear from him soon...and i do anaylize everything wich doesn't help but i'm getting better, thanks for your help.

If anyone can add your advice on dealing with a cappy man, please fill me in....thanks soooo much 🙂

NO it did help, thanks alot.

I actualy found out that he was hurt VERY badly by a girl that sort of devistated him. So i figure he is healing from that right now.
But, i am going to hang in there, i will be his friend and build a friendship, but i want him sooo bad, and it is hard not being able to do sumthin that will push him right along into a relatiosnhip with me, but honestly, i think i can only hang on for a bout till the end of December. I'm sure he knows i am interested but i am becoming emotionly drained by this, and at times feel like i am being taken advantage of. But i really like him alot...in the end , or by the end of next month if he doesn't subside his fears of commitment or of being hurt again, then i can't do this any more, but will still be his friend of course. But he is so worth the wait and all i am going through emotionally even if it's draining me. But maybe thats not healthy for me, and i am giving to much of myself...hmmmmm
thank you again for your help

*****if anyone else has anything to say about my situation or about cappy males and how to dal with them, please let me know***** thanks every one

~immagemi

I do go out with other people, but the thing is, i have become friends with his friends haha so now he pops up when i am at his friends houses, and they call me over and he knows that soooo it doesn't make me look desparate so don't worry...his friends have said before that he wanted me over there, and kept asking when i was going to be there, but once i got there he clammed up and really didn't say anything to me, it was very strange, and his friends even said that he confuses them....i'm just sort of screwed here for the timebeing, i am sort of stalled, but good thing i still have a life too 🙂 thank you so much for your help and if you can think of anything else that would be helpful, just let me know 🙂

*****if anyone else has anything to say about my situation or about cappy males and how to dal with them, please let me know***** thanks every one

immagemi

I am a Libra (Sun in Libra and Moon in Libra) with Sag. rising who is dating a Cappy (he doesn't even know what time he was born! Geesh.) for about a month, but we have been friends since this February. Let me kind of clue you in on what I have learned about him... He is very serious, tenderhearted, sincere, extremely ambitious and loyal. However, it takes a lot of time to become that way.. Appartently, Caps close themselves off and/or take things VERY slow... Which irritates me because patience is not one of my finer points. The best thing to do is to take it slow.. In fact, talk to him about your relationship and be the one to mention that you "want to take it slow".. that would throw him for a loop.

But first, this guy needs to call you. I understand that he can be hurt from another girl and that he needs time to heal and while text messages are not bad and can be rather cute.. they can get rather annoying... If he cannot spend five minutes of his busy scheudle to call you then he should not be worth YOUR time.

Good luck,
LSR

LibraSagRising~

thank you so much for your input....Yep sounds like the guy i am talking to too. He seems very serious, and ambitous as well. however when we were hanging out this past friday night...YES HE DID ASK ME!!! (i was very excited) anywho...when were hanging out, i thought to myself "ok, i am going to be totally myself with no reserve AT ALL, or awkwardness becuase maybe it will help him to open up...AND, it did work, it was the first time i felt that he had opened up a tad bit more, he seemed less serious than usual, and i think he may getting more and more comfortable.....Which probly means he is starting to gain my trust RIGHT— what do you think? BUT....when he dropped me off, he said he would text me (haha, figures) when he gets up, but he didn't and i haven't heard from him since, but i have learned not to take it personal, becasue i know he had a great time, and that is his behavior right now, backing off, then coming back, and so on.

I have another question though....Did you tell your guy that you "want to take it slow" ? just to throw him for a loop like you said. I am wondering what he said to you when you said that? and if he moved a little faster. haha that is a good idea. I wanna know what he said before i say that too...i would probly say sumthin like "I really like the fact that we are taking this slow" or sumthin along those lines i dunno...i'll wait to hear back from you.

thanks for the feedbackon this,
immagemi

***anyone, give me any kind of feedback regarding my situation, and this stubborn cappy male.....whom i am head over heels with 🙂***

you know i feel a who lot better knowing that others are having problems just like me 🙂 well i wish i could say that me and Mr. Cappy have graduated to the cell phone, but not yet, just texts. haha. but we became somewhat interested in eachother in June, but in july he told me he didn't have time for a relationship 😢 but he had a very good reason though, so i know it wasn't me....and so in September he asked me to go to dinner...and so we had a fresh start....and he is just taking it VERY SLLLOOOOWWW. but like i said before i know he will be worth the wait totally, so i am going to stick it out. but thanks for your input, i want to tell him i won't hurt him, but the thing is i know that he has been hurt very badly in his last relationship, so it's like she probly said she would never hurt him...and she did...so i probly could tell him i won't hurt him till i'm blue in the face, but my actions will speak louder than my words, so he will have to learn that i would never hurt him ever, but i should tell him anyways exactly that huh? ok thanks again.

And i bet your cappy misses you sooo much right now, but knowing cappies, he probly keeps it all inside, but he will definately miss you cuz sunday night is sort of far off, so i know he will be excited to see you...just let him contact you while he's gone, that way he knows you have a life and things to do ect... even though if it was me i would probly be sittin' on the phone waiting...but he doesn't have to know that lol. ok thanks again
~ immagemi

aww, yes i went to europe over the summer, and i had met this cappy i am talking to now about 2 weeks before i left to germany and paris for 2 whole weeks....i emailed him while i was gone and in the last email i sent him i said that i would call him when i get back home at the airport....well, he ended up calling me right when my plane landed....so this sort of gives me a glimpse into how loyal he will be to me when we are in a serious relationship you know— which hopefully will be soon like within december or by january hopefully....i actually think that him and I will absolutely fall very hard in love for eachother...i feel it, i am like magnetically drawn to him, and i know he feels the same even though we haven't said it, it's unspoken, but i feel like he is for me, it's a wierd feeling i have never had before so i'm definately waiting for him...he is very special...but have you noticed with your cappy that when they like something they are excessive about it— this cappy i have noticed, (but haven't worried too much about) was alcohol...He drinks alot, i think i read somewhere that cappies can get excessive about that stuff...maybe when they are riding a depression wave like they sometimes do i think..hmmmmm i don't really know
ok thats all for now~
immagemi

We are a rock we are an island.

Immagemi:

No problem..I am glad to know that we both are experiencing similiar situations. I, too, feel that thick wall around him and am wondering how, I, the flirty, fun loving Libra with Sagittaurus rising can break down his walls?

I am glad that you guys are getting past the stage of just text messaging.. I think you did the right thing by acting like yourself with no reserve. Afterall, if he is going to like you-- he needs to like YOU, not what you are pretending to be..

I don't know if it is necessarily him gaining trust in you as it is that he is getting more comfortable around you... I think that you need to be comfortable before you can start trusting a person... So, I would take this as a good sign!! Just remember, to take it slow (I know, easier said than done!!) and go out of your way to make him comfortable (i.e. laughing, smiling etc.)

I don't think you should worry about him not text message you... YOU DIDNT TEXT MESSAGE HIM, DID YOU?! I know that it is hard-- especially after you had a good night, but you want him to come to you when he is ready to accept what you have to give..

Good for you, for not taking it personal!! I am still trying to learn that Cappy trick. 😉 Being a Libra, everything with me is personal-- so if I dont hear from him in a day (we normally talk every day.. but that might be due to us working together as well) then I start to think that something is wrong and want to call him. I need to stop taking everything so personal and chalk it up to his personality.. However, I don't want to be naive about the situation either-- so I am keeping both eyes wide open.

Anyhow-- Yes, I told him that I wanted to take it slow.. not to throw him for a loop (that was an added benefit. *wink*) but because I recently got out of an engagement with someone where I rushed into a relationship.. I was extremely crushed and dissapointed with my ex-fiance as well as myself and swore off relationships in general.. I have been friends with Mr. Cappy for a while now and then one night it dawned on me that while I always found him attractive, I would like to get to know him better.

Since him and I work together, I told him that I was concerned how this would affect our work relationship (we are both 24) and he asked me what I would like to do.. I paused (a dramatic pause, mind you. LOL) and told him that my mind was telling me to take things slow.. day by day. I could tell that he was relieved by that answer. Not that I think he would be cheating on me or anything.. he just didnt want the stress, drama and pressure of a relationship and trust me, that was the last thing that I wanted as well.

Now.. it is one thing to SAY that you want to take it slow and actually taking it slow. To get quite personal, I wouldn't sleep with him every time I saw him.. the only thing that we would do is kiss and cuddle. Being a Libra, this is fine with me! 🙂 I felt that, yes, things starting moving at a faster pace but at the same time.. I am trying not to rush into anything. But to answer your question, yes-- I noticed the pace started increasing (slowly but surely)with each passing day.

If you are going to talk to your Cappy about taking it slow.. then make it sound like it's your idea!! I dont recommend you saying "I really like the fact that we are taking this slow".. say it like.. "I have fun with you, but I don't want to rush into anything.. I want to take this slow." With him just breaking up from a relationship, I am sure he would appreciate it.

OKAY-- I thought you might benefit from hearing my conversation with Mr. Cappy last night.. He said a lot of things that you might be able to use to apply to your Cap man.

Last night, he (this blew my mind) said he wanted to take it slow and not rush into things.. Now, he has had said this to me after I have said it to him-- but never before, on his own. He said that he has been sin

WOW!!! thank you soooo much for that info. It did help alot. I did text him though the next day, saturday when he didn't text me like he said...but WAS NOT a "why didn't you text me?" text...it was a sexy one haha, continued from our visit from the night before, i don't think it was a bad thing i did, but i am definately not going to make the next move that's for sure, it's his turn. But i actually think that my cappy is doing what your cappy is doing in the sense that he is compraing me in his head to his other girlfriends, or the one that hurt him, to see if i am at all like that, but i am not, so sooner or later when he brings up the talk about where we are at ect...i am going to say that to him as well.
your cappy definately sounds alot like mine, especially when you said how he gave you a wild look that you couldn't figure out. Becuase mine looks at me at times when i say things, and the expression on his face i just don't know what it means...gosh, they can be so mysterious sometimes, but have you noticed that they do not take compliments very well? haha i told mine that he had a cute butt early on when we just met, and he gave me this look like he was almost turned off by what i said...but later i brought it up when i complimented him again about something else... i said "you don't take compliments very well do you?" and he laughed and looked up and was thinking for a sec, and said "no i guess i don't really" haha it was funny...i dunno just wondering if your cappy is the same about compliments.

But i have a question for you....when we me and my cappy were together the other night things got steamy *wink*(we didn't sleep together...infact i am waiting till i get married...or...well...try to anyways lol) but things went a little further than normal, but, since i haven't heard from him since, i feel sort of..well..used, but knowing cappies, do you think he is probly thinking things over in his head? and probly has know intention of hurting my feelings by not contacting me after the other night. but i normally do not take it personal, but every once in awhile like times like this i feel that it is just human, besides him being a capricorn, that he should know to take my feelings into consideration, but who knows, he is such a capricorn that mabey not i guess. I should definately hear from him before the weeks through though.

anyways, well stay strong and DON"T call him, YOU CAN DO IT!!! haha i'll be your cheerleader and you can be mine. WE CANNOT GIVE IN NO MATTER WHAT!!! 🙂

~immagemi

Oceanwanderer~
haha omg!!! so this whole time he was clueless— Well shoot maybe i should learn sumthin here....Gosh i have alot of thinking to do. BUT.... i definately think i should say sumthin about the disappearing acts, cuz they do drive me up the wall, all i want to know is that it is not me that is causing him to be distant, so i should just ask, in a non-clingy way.

So needless to say you are going to stay with him after your conversation right— he does sound rather sweet and innocent like my cappy.

Gosh if he only knew how much i wanted to be in a real realtionship, not just dating...but i'll see how our next visit goes, and guage wether or not it is the right timing to talk about "this" whole thing, but i can't make it serious though, cuz then he may very well retreat into his "cave" forever and never come out to see me agian you know??
gosh, thank you sooo much for your info, it is really helping me realize that it IS indeed him, and that i'm not doing anything wrong. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! keep it coming ya'll
~immagemi

Immagemmi:

No problem. I am glad that it helped. I am just sitting back and trying to figure him out. I read in a post somewhere that someone said that it takes away the element of surprise in a relationship.. Good! I am not too fond of surprises (unless they are shiny or they drive fast. *wink*) and the better prepared I am for a relationship, the more confidient I will be when the time comes. (Notice how I said when and not if. LOL)

As long as you act like you are not longing to be around him or that he is your only outlet for fun. I think that is what I am doing with my cappy. Since I love hanging out with him, I am always wanting to get together.. I need to take up a hobby, like tennis or something. LOL.. Even if I dont *really* play tennis-- that sounds cute and it gives my guy the mental image of me in a little white tennis skirt. Can't beat that. LOL.

I definitely think that he is comparing me to his ex girlfriends... maybe not consciously.. but he is thinking about. He is afraid to let his guard down, which I dont blame him but he will realize sooner, hopefully than later that I am not like every other girl..

They really can be so mysterious.. They are deep thinkers and sometimes I would like to tap into his brain to see what he is *really* thinking about. I ask him all the time, "What are you thinking about?" and he'll tell me but he really drives my curosity.

Yes! I noticed that they do not take compliments well at all.. I started off with the "I like your shirt, very snazzy." compliment and I am slowing working my way up.. He starts to blush and get all shy.. I think it is cute.. I don't want to overdo him with compliments though because then they won't mean that much to him when I say them.

Good for you! I am glad to hear that you are waiting until you get married! Keep that way! 🙂 I can understand why you may feel used and to be honest, I probably would feel the same way. I wouldn't worry about him not text messaging you the next day though... You might want to bring it up in side conversation though if it really is bothering you.. because if you want to have an open, honest relationship with this guy (how old is he btw?) then you need to be able to express your feelings to him.

I don't know if it is a trait of a Cappy to take people's feelings into consideration.. That sounds more like a Libra or Pisces trait.. If he is already sexual active and you did not engage in sexual activity but took it a step closer than you were comfortable with-- he may not realize that it was *that* big of a deal to you. The best thing for you to do is talk to him about it if it is really bothering you.. if not, then my advice would be to leave it alone and not bring up any negative sort of conversation when you are with him.

Definitely. We can be each other's sounding board. Every time you want to call him.. Just come on here and post why you want to call him and I will respond and we can talk about it. LOL.

~LSR

Atlantic;

I am in the same position as you.. I dont want to push anymore..I want him to be decisive on whether or not he wants to continue this relationship in the direction that it is heading.. Even though, he did not say it directly-- I know that he needs time and that is what I am trying to give him, but I just hope he reaches a conclusion soon... because I am extremely impatient. LOL. No, I don't really want to rush into a relationship either and the fact that he felt that we jumped into a new stage (I dont know if you read my post to Immagemmi or not) made me kind of startled (I thought I was just imagining it) and made me take a step or two back as well.. So I can definitely understand why he would need his time.

Whereabouts in Florida is he visiting? Has he called you since he has been there?

~LSR

LSR~
hi again, my cappy is almost 22. and i am 20 🙂 But i have a question, i posted it earlier, on the first page, but know one answered, maybe you know, so here goes:

Have you noticed with your cappy that when they like something they are excessive about it— this cappy i have noticed, (but haven't worried too much about...yet anyways) was alcohol...He drinks alot, i think i read somewhere that cappies can get excessive about that stuff...maybe when they are riding a depression wave like they sometimes do i think..hmmmmm i don't really know.

I'll have to gauge his mood the next time we are with eacother to bring up anything negative...such as me feeling used, because that may mane him step back alittle, and since we would be with eacother, it will be ok, then i know that he didn't use me and he was just thinking things over, or he wouldn't have text me to hang out again....i should just make a point to not do "stuff" everytime we are together, so we can build the emotional bond as well as the intimacy bond. But that was only the second time doing "stuff" anyways...And you know i was reading today that they, like you know, show how they feel in their actions in the beginning, instead of verbaly sayinng it. So that is what was probly going on. well hopefully i will hear from him soon.

I definatley think you should take up tennis lol...then he will want to go play with you so he can see you in your skirt haha. that'll work like a charm lol....

Atlantic myst~
aww well you two sound like you really care for eachother though....I think it will all work out, but yess you should work on your jelousy problem haha it's ok, it's normal to some extent...if you don't mind me asking ....what do you get jelous about exactly—

hi every one~

Well yes have met his family once on the 4th of july. But that was a week before he told me he did not have time for a relationship, becuase he was not happy with his life at the time, i told him i understood, and that was that 😢 i was upset, but obviously now...well since september we have started over YAY!!!🙂 but he also met my family last summer as well, but now it is not to the point yet where we hang with our parents yet...my parents remember meeting him once or twice, but have no opinion of him cuz they don't know him....but i sure do talk bout him alot to them, and when we are together, his daf, or mom would call, and ask where he is at...and he would say "with maria" so they know that he is talking to me, so thats good. I have met his little sister though, she's 18, and really nice though, i don't know her sign, but she is close to my cappy, so i am glad she likes me.... But anywho....i know that his last girlfrind was a slut also...she slept with his friend while they were together....sheesh....well Atlantic Myst, i am glad that you said that cappy men are turned off by skanky women, cuz since i am a virgin, i guess that's a plus...he knows i am, and he hasn't slept with too many people, i think 2 actually, and he was in a relationship with them. not like one night stands you know, well i guess it wouldn't be cuz cappies aren't like that...anyways i'm blabbibg on haha.

I agree: WHERE ARE YOU CAPPY MALES!!! WE NEED YOUR INPUT HERE ALSO 😉 pleeeaaassseee 🙂 ok thats all for now
~immagemi

Immagemmi:

Cappy's being excessive?? Um... not too much. I know that he drinks frequently on the weekends, but isn't that what weekends are for? I will have to keep a closer eye on it and let you know.. I dont know, he is really starting to irritate me.

I like him a lot and I dont mind giving him his space, but being a typical Libra-- I like to be showered with praise, especially from someone I care for and he used to be so attentive and now I feel like I am pursuing HIM. We have to work together, so I went over to his desk yesterday and I had to talk to him today and I got a weird vibe...

I think I am going to lay low and if I have to talk to him, only make it work related.

In the meantime, get my other guys in order and prepare a back up plan. Libra's like to be in relationships.

Don't get me wrong-- I am not going to sleep with any other guy or anything to that extent, but there is no reason why I should not be considering my other options.. He can just get so frusterating sometimes.

~LSR

OMG!!! when i first met my cappy last summer, he always called me at the same exact time everyday to see if i wanted to hang out....i wasn't obbsessed with him then becuase i did'nt know him very well, so wasn't very involved emotionaly, so maybe that is why he totally persued me, becuase he felt i wasn't "hooked" yet....goodness i would give anything to go back to those days when we first met, now that i actually care for him VERY much...

but now i agree with atlantic myst when you said that once they actually feel themselves getting emotionaly involved and are actually thinking that they may REALLY like someone and have feelings for them they close off...(hints moving from actual phonecalls to texts)....

but LSR, my cappy drinks like every night, and on the weekends...yes he gets drunk, but he is a calm drunk, not obnoxious...actually when he is drunk i cannot even tell that he is....i'll have to keep an eye on it...but won't say anything to him for a loooooong time, until we are together oficially. Sometimes i will joke and say "you drink too much" then laugh, just to see his reaction or see what he would say. He just chuckels too. He has this thing with drinking by himself haha. I dunno, his sister said "it runs in the family" lol they just go into a room, and do whatever they need to do and drink by themselves...except on the weekend when he is with friends, or me. wierd huh?? yeah i think it may develop into a problem down the road....sheesh hope not, but i'll deffinatley keep an eye on it, for his safety i guess.

~immagemi

Atlantic:

Exactly! I think that he started realizing that he developed stronger feelings for me because he stated that he felt that we "skipped a step" in our relationship. Even though, he didn't say it in a bad way-- that still doesn't sound very positive. I told him that I am comfortable with everything and that I would never hurt him. I told him that I didnt want the stress and drama that came with a relationship but it was nice knowning that there is someone that you are able to come home to and know that they are not out with another woman.. He didn't say anything to that, so I don't know how to read it. I want to bring it back up in conversation because I do not want to be the one limiting my options and where he can go out and do whatever he pleases and feel no remorse whatsoever. How long do you think I should wait?

I wish they would just grow some nerve and throw caution to the wind. Geesh.

~LSR

Immagemmi:

We are in very similiar situations. I think the reason why my Cappy was pursuing me was because he was not positive that I was interested.. I was more of a "catch".. NOW that he KNOWS that I am interested, he is no longer aggressive- because he feels that he doesn't have to be.

I agree with both of you that when a Cappy feels that they are growing too close to someone, they cut themselves off. My Cappy said "I am very analytical, I like to think things through.."

While he says this, most of his actions prove otherwise. I am getting to the point where I feel like I am almost obsessing over him because I am trying to figure him out. (Wow, I guess I am). But he is just so darn mysterious- that he is like many pieces of a puzzle, just waiting to be put together. 😉

~LSR

You guys are clueless; he is either seeing someone else, cares for someone else or talking to someone else.
He has not mad up his mind about what he really wants, he is probably analyzing every little thing.

Fire&Ice~

Well i know for a fact that my cappy is interested, he is not seeing anyone else, believe me, we have the same circle of friends, so it would definately get back to me....And his close guy friends tell me he is really interested in me, but that he is also inexperienced as well. Oh, and he doesn't care for anyone else either....well he is in love with his dog, but that doesn't count 🙂....Yes i agree with you that he is definately analyzing, and going through all the steps in is head before making a move....that's a cappy for ya.


~immagemi

I have a life thank you very much 🙂 actually, i work alot, and when i am on my breaks is when i post. i do agree with you though....for those people who sit and revolve their life around a guy...i was raised well, and was taught otherwise. But hey, some people need support from other people sometimes, even if you don't know these people, it helps knowing that others are going through the same thing as you are, no matter what the situation is ya know? at least Sooooo that's all for now. Oh and if i had never met my cappy i would never have learned patience either. No other guy i has taught me something before we were in a relationship....oh the possibilities, i love learning from others.I had not one drop of patience before i met him. He is very different from any guy I had ever met 🙂
~immagemi

Fire and Ice walks the walk and talks the talk. She knows the true nature of the situation .

Old Jake we know us Cappy's best dont we🙂

hmmmmm, well shoot, i guess i'll just call on "OLD JAKE" and "Fire&Ice" from now on, since they seem to know everything.
Don't assume anything you two.Especialy the "true nature of the situation" i am in now. You have no clue about anyone involved.....If your going to put in your two-cents, please make it worth reading.
~immagemi

Fire & ice what happen to the people on the boards who had at least some skin. all I read for the most part is whinney ass self pitty postings. they are right I should not bother to post my two P worth I reaily don't give a rats ass what happens to them or there love life.

Ah Jakey, Jakey, Jakey.....come on.....keep posting as only you can!!!! Immag. doesn't know you like we do!!!

Immag. don't be too quick to dismiss Fire & Ice and Old Jake's' short and snappy answers....they are usually spot on lots of times.

A x

Actually ya'll, old jake and fire&ice weren't spot on this time....Last night my cappy confessed everything to me...he said the reason he has been so distant at times and putting up his walls is because he was trying to figure out a way of telling me how he feels...and last night he did. So that goes to show you to trust your intuition, instead of "snappy answers....that are usually spot on"
~immagemi

thank you soooo much for those of you that helped me understand what was going on, i really appreciate it🙂
~immagemi
but i did agree with fire&ice when you said that "he is probly analyzing everything"....cuz he was.
and now i am a very happy camper...he could very well become the love of my life.

"And they all lived happily ever after"!!! Gud for you Immaagemi!!! Hope that's not too "snappy"ish! for you!
Ciao.
A x

hmmmmm, you guys are kinda rude here. Why is that?

we are true caps we were born that way. I take it he didn't tell you he was dumping you. could be a cover up keeping you on the line until something better comes along.

Old Jake, It seems we ruffled some feathers🙂
Never the less, the truth hurts doesn't guys!
First of all any one who uses the word retard is pretty ignorant, might I add naive as well. I am a Capricorn and proud to be one! I think we know us best, we are cunning, calculated and always find ways to make you think what you want... We know the truth. You wont be able to figure out your Male friend so don't even try, AND IF HE DID EXPRESS HE CARES THEN THATS GREAT, BUT I WILL TELL YOU ONE THING THERE IS MORE TO IT.... There always is. TA, TA for now🙂

Well, look back at what i wrote, i didn't use the word retard, i wrote rude, learn to read.
And second He totaly spilled out his heart to me, he said he didn't know why he was doing this because it is not what he does. But he said he has never felt this way for anyone...He came to pick me up, told me not to ask any questions. He took me to a creek near by, we sat in his car and he told me everything. Um i don't think that was "dumping me" Old Jake. And it's about time he said this to me becuase i have been talking to him since june. So i am proud of him for overcoming his fears. We planned a weekend to go away to a beatifull city about 4 hours away from where we live, so we have began our relationship. He told me he wants to include me in his life, and asked if we could date exclusevly. So, it seems you don't know your cappies after all....

Ummmmm, you're a Gemini right?? That would explain it. First of all I was not referring to you (if you could read) you would see that.. I really don't need to know your life story on what happened, like I said you can think what you want. What ever makes you feel better about your situation, and my dear I do know Capricorns🙂

I am sure I saw retard somewhere, it doesn't matter its like water off a ducks back. as for the rest of the story it may be a set up for the revrise (OF HUMAN BONDAGE ) great book fine movie.

sheesh, I'm glad my cappy isn't like you two, how depressing it is that you both only posess the negative traits of that of a cappy ;Rigid, pessimistic, inhibited, miserly, mean, austere. Hmmmm not one good trait, poor little things.

Anyways, on top of everything, and most important, you shouldn't be living your life by the stars. Just becuase i am a gemini, doesn't mean anything....You shouldn't worship the creation, only the creator. I was very wrong to come here, i was so desparate for answers,that i stooped so low that I thought all of this was going on maybe because he is a Capricorn?!? that's stupid, and I was very wrong to think that. The more i have come to know him, the more i realize he is not at all like a capricorn, especialy after last night.

I thought i would exchange chats with a few people who would be supportive, but nope. I met you two, and you are very rude, so I am done here. I have a life, and this is a waste of time to go back and forth.
~Maria

Your right this site is for support and input, your right to leave if you cant handle our input. You dont know a thing about anything, and yes my dear GET A LIFE...

listening to all of you here, i can see the true nature of a cap/gemini relationship. immagemi...this is how it will turn out.
now bugger off. you're very unpleasant.
capricorns can't stand anyone who doesn't have a sense of humor.

I did not know you were a profesinal woman fie and Ice I have far greater respect for you now, and thank you Maria for pointing out Fire $ ice and my finner points. It does a cappy good to come to this site now and agian, I have been a lucky man in my relationships I get deplomats in the living room, economist in the ketchin, and whores in the bedroom, most men get whores in the livingroom, deplomats in the ketchen, and econmist in the bedrooms.

by loves

Yep! At. Myst.....me and Jakey go back to the old days....all he's got to say is "legs a-kimbo":-)!!

A x

I am told by the mother of some of my childern that all brit women are whore's its just a matter of who's whore they are.

I know for certain that's there's a Madonna and a Whore in every woman.....it's just a matter of which way the pendulum swings:-)

I want to be somebodies whore also:-) hehehehehehe

I can see her setting there in her saten dress in a room where you do what you don't confess.