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Do Gem females take back a cheating bf?
Simply..... No. And, no. I've been cheated on quite a few times, and as I believe some ppl do change.... Some don't. Every guy I didn't take back, ended up cheating on the next woman... To me, cheating is cheating! No matter how few/many times they do it.
Posted by misslissa
Simply..... No. And, no. I've been cheated on quite a few times, and as I believe some ppl do change.... Some don't. Every guy I didn't take back, ended up cheating on the next woman... To me, cheating is cheating! No matter how few/many times they do it.
Have you been cheated on quite a few times by one man or once by a few different men?
Posted by misslissa
Simply..... No. And, no. I've been cheated on quite a few times, and as I believe some ppl do change.... Some don't. Every guy I didn't take back, ended up cheating on the next woman... To me, cheating is cheating! No matter how few/many times they do it.Have you been cheated on quite a few times by one man or once by a few different men?
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A few different men. I broke it off every time after the first time they cheated.
Posted by misslissa
Simply..... No. And, no. I've been cheated on quite a few times, and as I believe some ppl do change.... Some don't. Every guy I didn't take back, ended up cheating on the next woman... To me, cheating is cheating! No matter how few/many times they do it.Have you been cheated on quite a few times by one man or once by a few different men?
A few different men. I broke it off every time after the first time they cheated.
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You sound like a wise woman. Did these cheaters have brief flings or were they longterm affairs?
Is Gemini the sign of the woman that has been dating the guy you're "secretly" having an affair with?
Posted by misslissa
Simply..... No. And, no. I've been cheated on quite a few times, and as I believe some ppl do change.... Some don't. Every guy I didn't take back, ended up cheating on the next woman... To me, cheating is cheating! No matter how few/many times they do it.Have you been cheated on quite a few times by one man or once by a few different men?
A few different men. I broke it off every time after the first time they cheated.
You sound like a wise woman. Did these cheaters have brief flings or were they longterm affairs?
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Thanks, I try to be.... Once I found out, the rest just didn't matter, really. Cheating is cheating, no matter how short/long it went on.... If Scenic is right.... Then shame on you for involving yourself with another woman's man.... If not, then ignore that previous statement.
Posted by lotus
If your boyfriend cheats on you, would you give him another chance? Would you think of cheating differently if it was a one-night stand versus an affair of more than one year?
NO. Once a cheater always a cheater. There is no moral difference between a one night stand vs an affair. Both are cheating physically and emotionally.
It's one thing to forgive. I believe in forgiveness. However, you are selling yourself short if you settle for a man who can't be faithful to one woman, whether that be a committed relationship as a GF or marriage.
You are worth more than being second best. If you don't believe that now, you probably never will, and your so called boy friend will use this to his advantage every time he cheats on you until you get the cajones to tell him to get lost and move on.
@Scribble, have you seen her other posts? She's supposedly ended it with this pisces man before. I doubt that they're over with. She's probably worried that the woman he's been dating will come back since the other girl and him have been on and off for a while. Not to mention she lied about details of this situation, so who's to say if anything she's said is true? For all we know they could be happily together and she just makes up all this drama for attention.
Posted by lotus
If your boyfriend cheats on you, would you give him another chance? Would you think of cheating differently if it was a one-night stand versus an affair of more than one year?click to expandNO. Once a cheater always a cheater. There is no moral difference between a one night stand vs an affair. Both are cheating physically and emotionally. [/quote]
What if the guy was drunk and had a one night stand but felt sorry after the event? Would you forgive him?
Posted by Scenic
@Scribble, have you seen her other posts? She's supposedly ended it with this pisces man before. I doubt that they're over with. She's probably worried that the woman he's been dating will come back since the other girl and him have been on and off for a while. Not to mention she lied about details of this situation, so who's to say if anything she's said is true? For all we know they could be happily together and she just makes up all this drama for attention.Well her ending it/him ending it isn't always the same thing. Whatever. It's just funny to me though. :p
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I suppose so!
Haha, I'm glad you find it funny. She unfortunately usually posts on the pisces board so I'm so sick of seeing her post, but objectively, it would be really funny. Have you read any of her older posts? They're all about her art professor and how he "moans and groans" whenever he sees her and how he always has erections, etc. I wish her posts were as funny as they used to be.
What if the guy was drunk and had a one night stand but felt sorry after the event? Would you forgive him?
If he cheated while being intoxicated, does that give him a free pass? Most people when they get drunk, they let go of their inhibitions and do what they have been yearning to do or say. This is why people who get drunk open up and tell you their secrets normally they wouldn't dare. Your guy felt sorry because he knows YOU know what he did. It's not rocket science.
So once again, NO.
Yes, you can forgive. I do believe in forgiveness as NONE of us is perfect. With that said, you seem to be bending over backwards to rationalize his bad behavior. Look, if you want a crappy relationship with a man who can't control his sexual urges the minute he finds another chick who turns him on and puts you on hold, again; go for it. It's your life.
I've been married to a wonderful man for over 15 years. We have two 12 year old boys. And we got married in our early 30's, so we had reached a level of maturity most don't in their 20's. Because of that, when our relationship got serious, we both said, "if either one of us cheats, it's done." We both believe in forgiveness, so that could come in time. But it's the undermining of trust that is the issue. Once that trust has been broken, it's very difficult, if ever earn it back. And this is with a marriage. You're dealing with a man who has no binding commitment other than his word. He's already broken that once, at least one time you know about. Trust is a two way street. You seem to forget that rather easily.
Do Gem females take back a cheating bf?
My Gemini friend did.
She also had a one night stand of her own, then told me-- Now, we're even.
This does not compute in my LEO brain, but whatever. o.O
Huh? I'd like to hear from the Gem females.....
Posted by lotus
Huh? I'd like to hear from the Gem females.....
My question is who of ANY OF THE SIGNS would take back a cheating boyfriend? Common sense will tell you all you need to know, yet you still post threads about stuff like this. All. The. Time.
Posted by lotus
Huh? I'd like to hear from the Gem females.....My question is who of ANY OF THE SIGNS would take back a cheating boyfriend? Common sense will tell you all you need to know, yet you still post threads about stuff like this. All. The. Time.
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You're kidding, right? Do you know how many wives/girlfriends take back a cheating boyfriend? Some signs, like Scorpios, are less tolerant when it comes to cheating and others are more forgiving. There is no such thing as common sense in love.....it is irrational for the most part.
Posted by lotus
Huh? I'd like to hear from the Gem females.....My question is who of ANY OF THE SIGNS would take back a cheating boyfriend? Common sense will tell you all you need to know, yet you still post threads about stuff like this. All. The. Time.
You're kidding, right? Do you know how many wives/girlfriends take back a cheating boyfriend? Some signs, like Scorpios, are less tolerant when it comes to cheating and others are more forgiving. There is no such thing as common sense in love.....it is irrational for the most part.
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No. If you ask on all of the forums, the responses will be the same. Stereotypes like that don't play out in the real world. Anyone who has been emotionally involved with someone and has been cheated on and is secure in themselves is very unlikely to take a person back, regardless of their sign. And those who don't fit into that mold and would take them back are also spread throughout the signs. They're usually young people who aren't stable in their lives yet, or older people who have something to gain by staying with the person, IE financially or to keep families together. I don't know what you know about astrology but you don't seem to understand human behavior at all, especially with all the topics you make.
Posted by xcake
Lotus, it depends on the individual and circumstances.
Exactly.
Posted by lotus
Huh? I'd like to hear from the Gem females.....
I am a gemini female and gave you two solid posts. So have others.
After reading your replies and how much you are giving this guy who cheated on you a free pass, and continuing to try to rationalize his actions; it's obvious you don't want to hear the truth. you want gemini females on this board to corroborate your failed logic.
If you can't discern the truth after everyone's genuine words of wisdom to you by now, then why bother drilling people for more answer? the ANSWER has been given to you many times in the simply word, "NO".
It's one thing to ask for opinions. It's a totally different thing to be intellectually dishonest. And that's what you have become; intellectually dishonest.
Good luck with that.
Posted by lotus
Huh? I'd like to hear from the Gem females.....I am a gemini female and gave you two solid posts. So have others.
After reading your replies and how much you are giving this guy who cheated on you a free pass, and continuing to try to rationalize his actions; it's obvious you don't want to hear the truth. you want gemini females on this board to corroborate your failed logic.
If you can't discern the truth after everyone's genuine words of wisdom to you by now, then why bother drilling people for more answer? the ANSWER has been given to you many times in the simply word, "NO".
It's one thing to ask for opinions. It's a totally different thing to be intellectually dishonest. And that's what you have become; intellectually dishonest.
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Agreed! (Even though she was the one helping the cheating and not being cheated on).
Posted by xcake
Lotus, it depends on the individual and circumstances.Exactly.
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Oh, so you agree it has nothing to do with astrology signs, then? Because the 'individual' and 'circumstances' means not related to astrology since astrology refers to 'groups' and 'pre-determined traits'.
Posted by lotus
I would you give him another chance?
Nope, haven't done that yet
I wouldn't take him back unless I was cheating on him also. Then it's all fair.
I've taken one back. We were young and he was my first boyfriend. He kept on cheating, so I eventually left him over it.
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If your boyfriend cheats on you, would you give him another chance? Would you think of cheating differently if it was a one-night stand versus an affair of more than one year?