Help with my capricorn guy

those capricorn men!!!

Where is the problem? Sounds like he is into you.

Or I'm too needy? But I really want some words of affection.. Not just lust.

Or I'm too needy? But I really want some words of affection.. Not just lust.

Do you feel it's just lust?

If so, I would scale back on the physical -- as difficult as that might be. Get him to miss you.

I dont think its just lust.. I just think he has trouble communicating more than that. Its frustrating for me cuz I want to wear my heart on.my sleeve and be who I am.. But I dont want to scare the crap out of him.

Posted by Sagtastic1

Posted by PiscesLoves
The problem.. I need some feelings from him. I want "i love you". I want to be able to tell him "i love you" without him freaking out. I tested the water and told him "i'm crazy about you" and all communication stopped for over 24 hours. If I am falling hard, and if he thinks this is more casual.. I want to know so I can end it before I am too far gone. Everytime I try to have real conversation instead of just lighthearted banter, he freezes up and takes a little break.

You're barking up the wrong tree if that's what you need to feel validated. It takes time to get to that point so PLEASE be patient if you really care. When Caps pull back, it's likely that they are "thinking". They need time to be alone to "digest" the day/situation and think of a way to press on. When he goes away, go into your Pisces dreamland and think about making babies until he returns. Yes, he will come back.

Don't try and have those "uncomfortable" conversations unless HE brings it up. If it helps, write it all down and save it until he talks about being serious; he will appreciate MUCH more then. Most important As a Pisces, try not to get your feelings hurt when/if he seems cold. It's not that he doesn't care, it's just a realistic viewpoint that can be a bit abrasive. If he really didn't care, he wouldn't be around.

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Be patient. Caps are slow, slow, slow with sharing our feelings. First of all, we must trust you 100% and will need time to observe your character and every little detail about you before we will allow ourselves to feel anything. It's not that we're cold. We are cautious.

If you keep nagging him about saying I love you, you will lose him. Anything too fast or too overwhelming will cause us to back up and reconsider. We will wonder "how can you love me? You don't even know me. I haven't shown you my dark side yet". And, yes, there IS a dark side.

And yes, we are very, very uncomfortable with emotions.

It's likely he doesn't know how he feels about you yet. We have to observe, make sure you're the person worth those emotions (sorry if that sounds cold), then we have to analyze our thoughts and feelings to determine within ourselves what those feelings are. It takes time.

If you push us, we will run because we will think you're not sincere. Needy and clingy turns us off. We need independent, interesting, confident, trustworthy, loyal, intelligent, self sufficient people who are also self reliant.

So slow down. Give him time. It may also be overwhelming because this is his first relationship.

What are you ages? if I may ask.

Posted by djbuck1
I think you are getting sound advice, here. Earth signs seem to be excruciatingly slow in the Emotions and Feelings Department. My experience has been that this is also true of the women. There have been times when I have literally wanted to hold my head in my hands, look at the ground and say, "Dear God. Can we PLEASE get on with this. I'm not going to live forever, you know." But that would be a big mistake.

I feel that way with the Aqua with his cap venus and virgo moon.

Paybacks. 🙂

He is 21. I am 31. haha, I know it's alot. We've known each other for a couple years & he refered to me as "one of my best friends" before we turned this into something more. We've been intimate for 6 months. I say that I dont really mind the age difference. He says "i love it!" I think I have gotten alot of sound advice. I'll take the little things he says that hint at strong feelings and hold onto those until he feels ready... Or until I explode. Haha

You said your his first "everything", so be patient with the guy. Don't start bombarding him with heavy emotions, when he hasn't even had time to understand them at their full potential.

Hi PiscesLoves, I hope you don't mind if I chime in with my experience with a cap man as well.
I met him on online dating site. I have never been with any cap in my life. He is good looking guy and sounds stable. We live in different continent but fortunately the time diff is only 1 hour.

I know him for about 5 days. We only do chat on instant messenger. I'm really interested with this guy. But I find it's really hard to communicating with him. I'm a gemini with pisces ascendant(pretty accurate since I put my birth time) and he is cap with taurus moon (cannot see the ascendant since I don't know his birth time). In my life, when I were in a proses of getting to know a guy, we talked in everyday basis. But with this guy it seems really hard.

He is quite handsome with good earnings. Why he needs to go to a dating site?

Our first chat were ok, but honestly from my side it wasn't really fun as I feel he is too "dry". He even asked me if his behavior was unappealing. But I said it was ok.

The next day we didn't communicate the whole day. I was waiting if he would text me first but he didn't and I didn't want to make the first move after all.

The day after he texted me and we chatted again. But his responds sometimes very slow. Maybe because i'm a gemini so I'm a bit impatient. The next day, I contacted him first coz I felt I wanted to hear from him. Then we chatted again and he sounded like he enjoyed the conversation until he told me that he wanted to take his sister out and asked me "But I would like to talk to you once I return. Would you mind?" and I said, sure.

Then after 4 hours waiting and it was around 2am, I texted him asking when will he return. Until I was getting tired of waiting, I texted again that I'm going to sleep.

Until around 5am which 6am his local time, he responded, only sent me pic of a cake said that he just took the cake. I was really pissed. It's like nothing happened!!

In the afternoon, I replied, "the cake looks nice, would like to know why did you promise while you couldn't make it". He replied, apologies, miss, bla bla (he was telling the story of what happened). Honestly, I didn't believe any piece of it or maybe I was just too paranoid. And I just replied, "I don't know hows life there in your country, but at that time most of people are in their sleep. Anyways". He then replied after a while, "forgiven?". I replied, "I don't have any reason to not forgive you. But, I have a reason for having trouble

to trust since I don't know hows your life. I believe you can understand that. Being friends need trust, doesn't it". He replied after a while, "Sure, trust is a must. And it takes time to build. We have only known each other for less than a week. We'll be alright." And I just replied "I hope so".

Today we didn't communicate the whole day. But I couldn't hold myself and I texted him, "have a good sleep". around 1am and he responded " you too, dear".

I would like to know if I need to wait for this guy or just leave him? I don't know if he is interested in me or not. Really hard to get to know someone without seeing in a person while the communication is lacking. I'm interested with this guy coz his personality and he was the one who was interested and emailed me on the dating site first.

Anyone could help please?

Good Golly. You've known the guy FIVE DAYS on-line ONLY and you're worried you can't trust him? Uhhhhh....I reckon not, you Don't Even KNOW him. Never met him. And you got upset because he didn't text you when you wanted him to?!?!

He owes you nothing and you owe him nothing. Until you meet in person, there is NO REAL RELATIONSHIP!!!!

Sorry about being so harsh, but Geesh! I wouldn't even have issues with someone I went out with IN PERSON if I only knew them FIVE days.

I don't call this is a relationship. We are trying to get to know each other while I'm living abroad at the moment to handle my resident. But my point is, how you can get to know someone if you don't put effort of knowing that person.

I'm sorry but I cannot agree with you to this point. I was in a long distance relationship (true relationship) with my ex. We had 5+ yrs relationship and we met online. He lived in Europe and I lived in Asia. Different time zone. We communicated everyday basis and I trusted him from the beginning. It took 3 months before I finally met him in person (he was a leo).

From my view, if you are really interested in a person, your actions will show how much you want the relationship works.

Why can't you find a guy locally you can actually spend face to face time with and develop chemistry together?

Where are these long distance relationships getting you?

In my humble opinion, long distance relationships are a waste of time and energy because they won't develop into anything further unless one of you is willing to move where the other is. But, eh, that's just me.

Go forth with your plans. In the heart of it, my opinions don't matter.

I'm open to any possibilities. We can make plans, but we don't know when and where we'll end up.
My last relationship ended not because we didn't want with each other. But it was my decision b/c we have diff faith.

I would like to ask opinion from any of you about the cap guy. About wasting time or not it is more to the personality of each person.

yuned,
What about his personality do you like? So far I see that he is good looking but you don't really like his sense of humor or his punctuality..he isnt paying you enough attention already. That isn't a dig at you because I also crave a lot of attention from a relationship. If you can list a few things you really like about him, then it is worth your time to see if it can develop into something real.. But be careful not to just hope he will turn into the man you are looking for.. Find out who he is! If I am learning anything about caps, they really take their sweet time warming up to a person and even after they really care about you, its like pulling teeth to get them to say it.

@yuned, this is just how he is. You cannot make him interested in you the way you want him to be, so take it or leave it.

Posted by PiscesLoves
yuned,
What about his personality do you like? So far I see that he is good looking but you don't really like his sense of humor or his punctuality..he isnt paying you enough attention already. That isn't a dig at you because I also crave a lot of attention from a relationship. If you can list a few things you really like about him, then it is worth your time to see if it can develop into something real.. But be careful not to just hope he will turn into the man you are looking for.. Find out who he is! If I am learning anything about caps, they really take their sweet time warming up to a person and even after they really care about you, its like pulling teeth to get them to say it.

I like emotionally stable guy, hardworking, calm and down to earth kinda guy.
My younger sister also a cap, I like how organized she is. I mean, you know I'm a gemini.
I'm not looking someone who is the same like me. I'm looking someone who can fit what I'm lacking.

But, maybe I'm not used to with a cap guy. This is the first time I met a cap guy in my life.

Well, he clearly does not fit what your lacking...so, you might have to chalk this up as he's not the guy for you.

Not all cap men are like this.