@KekeB
9 Years
How does this work?!
Run he wants to have his cake and eat it. It's clear you couldn't do it as you have such strong feelings and it will completely mess with your head.
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beat me to it....
*and fixed. What's with all the typos?
Run. When you invest feelings into someone and you want to get rid of them due to a relationship not happening, you need time to heal and lick your wounds. I was sorta in the same situation years ago with an Aries man. I thought I could have a friendship but at the end of the day, I needed space for not only me but for him too. It became too toxic in the end. And I love me more than him.
This is so hard! I want to stay friends but like everyone say it will hurt to see him date if he do start. My heart is saying stay around because he's going to come around and that he's just testing me to see how loyal I am to him but my mind is saying walk away and never look back
We talked and I told him I didn't want to be friends because it would hurt. And he said that he will not date anyone and we don't have to have sex but he still wants to hang out and talk like we used to. I said I would think about it then he adds in that he doesn't want me to date anyone else either. So pretty much be in a sexless relationship with no commitment!!!
Posted by KekeB
This is so hard! I want to stay friends but like everyone say it will hurt to see him date if he do start. My heart is saying stay around because he's going to come around and that he's just testing me to see how loyal I am to him but my mind is saying walk away and never look back
You can always be friends, stop the sex and be strictly his friend. Maybe when it's time for him to be in a relationship he will come around.
What you can also do is wait, if he starts dating sometimes it doesn't hurt anymore bc you do see him as a friend.
Posted by KekeB
We talked and I told him I didn't want to be friends because it would hurt. And he said that he will not date anyone and we don't have to have sex but he still wants to hang out and talk like we used to. I said I would think about it then he adds in that he doesn't want me to date anyone else either. So pretty much be in a sexless relationship with no commitment!!!
How sure is he that he wont date anyone? What if someone came along who changes his mind. He could be seeing someone you don't even know about.
If you want to keep the friendship, reduce the time you spend with him. You cannot talk and hang like you used to.
In the extra time, go on with your life. Take care of yourself
Date other people who are available. You will forget about him when you occupy yourself with other stuff (interests, hobbies, people etc)
Posted by KekeB
We talked and I told him I didn't want to be friends because it would hurt. And he said that he will not date anyone and we don't have to have sex but he still wants to hang out and talk like we used to. I said I would think about it then he adds in that he doesn't want me to date anyone else either. So pretty much be in a sexless relationship with no commitment!!!How sure is he that he wont date anyone? What if someone came along who changes his mind. He could be seeing someone you don't even know about.
If you want to keep the friendship, reduce the time you spend with him. You cannot talk and hang like you used to.
In the extra time, go on with your life. Take care of yourself
Date other people who are available. You will forget about him when you occupy yourself with other stuff (interests, hobbies, people etc)
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He says he won't because he doesn't want to learn no one new. I asked what will he do when he wants sex and he said he hadn't figured that out yet. So I told him we will see what happens but I can't promise to stay his friends. I agree I will limit my time with him and try to focus on something else.
Posted by KekeB
We talked and I told him I didn't want to be friends because it would hurt. And he said that he will not date anyone and we don't have to have sex but he still wants to hang out and talk like we used to. I said I would think about it then he adds in that he doesn't want me to date anyone else either. So pretty much be in a sexless relationship with no commitment!!!How sure is he that he wont date anyone? What if someone came along who changes his mind. He could be seeing someone you don't even know about.
If you want to keep the friendship, reduce the time you spend with him. You cannot talk and hang like you used to.
In the extra time, go on with your life. Take care of yourself
Date other people who are available. You will forget about him when you occupy yourself with other stuff (interests, hobbies, people etc)
He says he won't because he doesn't want to learn no one new. I asked what will he do when he wants sex and he said he hadn't figured that out yet. So I told him we will see what happens but I can't promise to stay his friends. I agree I will limit my time with him and try to focus on something else.
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This guy lol!!! So yeah greatly limit your time with him. There is other fish in the sea who would offer you more.
Avoid keeping tabs on him if you are.
You will gradually forget him with time.
Blessings 🙂
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How can u be friends with someone u have feelings for? My cap and I are no longer sexually involved and he just told me he isn't looking for a relationship at all but he doesn't want to lose my friendship. So I told him I would have to think about it and that if I did decide to, sex was out of the equation PERIOD. But as a man, he asked if we could have sex one more time. I said no then he said he understood but still doesn't want to lose me as a friend. I said fine.
The relationship we had was just about having fun together and chit chatting damn near everyday about whatever. I would bombard him with millions of questions and he would answer ever last one of them. No matter how personal they were. We hung out and are planning a few trips together.
So my question is, how can I stay friends with him and keep my feelings at bay? Is that even possible? Should I just cut my ties and run? Anyone has been they this!