How should i handle this Cap man?

Hey everyone!

A few weeks ago i met a cap man in school, he was sitting next to a friend of mine (T). I immediatly felt some chemistry between us. He was always watching me when i passed by and looking for me in the classroom.

After 2/3 weeks i decided to sit next to T. and the Cap. Since then i kept sitting next to them during that classes. There were a lot of vibes during the classes but it was difficult to talk about serious things because T. was also sitting with us. So i decided to add him on facebook and he accepted. I tried a couple times to initiate a conversation but almost everytime he just said 'yes' 'no' and 'good'.
Then i saw him on Tinder, but we weren't a match. So i said to him on facebook that i saw him but that we weren't a match and that i was a bit dissapointed (i said it in a funny way). He responsed that he hadn't seen me on tinder and asked if i had 'liked' him, so i said yes. One hour later, i suddenly had a new match: my cap guy! We talked a bit about our previous relationships but that's it.. In class he was really trying to make me laugh with jokes and funny comments and trying to get my attention; moan, moving and accidently touching me etc.
Because i thought he was interested, i gave him my number on facebook. I asked him to let met know how his interview went and that he had to text me because i was at my parents for the weekend. He said he would, but then he didn't text me. Two days later a saw him at school and the first thing he asked: how was your weekend at your parents? I was really confused because he didn't text me and now suddenly he was showing interest again..
So i thought he prob just had forgotten it, so a week later i asked him how it was going with his thesis, and again he didn't respond (at all). A week later in class the first thing he did was showing to T. what he had done for the thesis but again ignoring me...

I'm so confused, i thought he liked me but know i don't know why he's doing this?? And how to react because it really makes me insecure... Can anyone help me please?? I never like a guy but he's special.... His birthday is next week so i was thinking about asking him for diner (for his BD)? Good or bad idea??

He's work focused, so attention to ALL relationships take a hit until he's out of that mode. At least that how his actions read to me. I'm not sure he be able to do a relationship, going by his actions.

I'd say maybe make him something simple, like a snack or something and offer it to him as a early b-day gift. From their it's on him.

You're chasing him way too hard. Hes not keeping his word to you, step back and let him persue you or you'll look really bad as he keeps toying with you.

But i thought that you have to initiate things with caps?
Because everytime i show him interest he breaks his wall a little bit down, showing and sharing more of himself. It looks like he gets more confidence when i show interest in him, and then he comes a bit closer and backs of again...

Posted by Heidi33cap
But i thought that you have to initiate things with caps?
Because everytime i show him interest he breaks his wall a little bit down, showing and sharing more of himself. It looks like he gets more confidence when i show interest in him, and then he comes a bit closer and backs of again...

There is nothing wrong with initiating but you have to wait for him to respond to you initiating. The getting closer than backing off again is push/pull, he is playing with this dynamic. Being in school I would be concerned about my reputation, you don't want to seem overly desperate by chasing someone who is not giving you responses. Another thing I learned when I was your age is attraction is not always mutual, no matter how strongly you feel he may not be feeling the chemistry back. Wait for him to step forward before you do again... Be cool.

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