How to improve communication

Hey, everyone ... I am in need of your advice. I'm currently at wit's end and not sure where to post this. I think I have officially developed a complex from my Leo gf from her constant drilling that we have a communication issue. I have tried to improve upon this by speaking more often and write when I think the channel is better.

But this is something that has officially started to bother me and to top it off I'm being told I make her feel dependent or inferior in my actions or just aura( she states I have this mom no nonsense thing about me). Because our friends joke a lot and it's bothering her.

It's become very hard for me to even construct a full sentence without thinking I'm messing something up or am if I'm being clear. I want to say this to her but even that I'm second guessing myself about.

I truly hate this and I want to improve upon my overall communications skills but I don't want to have a complex about it.

I think if you let her know just how much it is effecting you and lay it out just like you did here she will understand just how much she is trying and how her constant nagging is hurting the relationship as well although don't tell her that she will pick it up on her own lol. Ask her to calmly give you examples of when things are not clear and then that way you can be a bit more aware that communication is clear but also don't stifle yourself. If isobar feel comfortable saying what I feel in a relationship it is just not for me. Try to see her point of view but also decide if there are some unreasonable demands on your part. Maybe also learn what her communication style is. Maybe you can make it a game like take her to an art museum and ask her to interprets what she see and why she sees it that way and ten you do the same in reverse it could be a matter of you both just look at life different and if that's the case you gotta decided and you work through it and use it as a way to learn a different point of view or will it be more of a problem.

Jhene Hon, I've said it many times: Cap/Leo communication is the most difficult to master. You will probably always feel misunderstood by her and vice versa. It's sad but true. The hard part of it is that the Cap/Leo bond is so strong that you will probably always feel the pull even if you decide to walk away.

Is couple's counseling an option??

Posted by ladylibra21
I think if you let her know just how much it is effecting you and lay it out just like you did here she will understand just how much she is trying and how her constant nagging is hurting the relationship as well although don't tell her that she will pick it up on her own lol. Ask her to calmly give you examples of when things are not clear and then that way you can be a bit more aware that communication is clear but also don't stifle yourself. If isobar feel comfortable saying what I feel in a relationship it is just not for me. Try to see her point of view but also decide if there are some unreasonable demands on your part. Maybe also learn what her communication style is. Maybe you can make it a game like take her to an art museum and ask her to interprets what she see and why she sees it that way and ten you do the same in reverse it could be a matter of you both just look at life different and if that's the case you gotta decided and you work through it and use it as a way to learn a different point of view or will it be more of a problem.

hmm i like you suggestion.. i will try that. I have on occasion ask her to highlight it and let me know when something is not clear but she doesnt. she just blows up on me.

I do need to figure out her style in communicating. I know her mercury is in Virgo and mines retrograde in Aquarius if that helps

Posted by SpiceNSugar
Jhene Hon, I've said it many times: Cap/Leo communication is the most difficult to master. You will probably always feel misunderstood by her and vice versa. It's sad but true. The hard part of it is that the Cap/Leo bond is so strong that you will probably always feel the pull even if you decide to walk away.

Is couple's counseling an option??

hmm no thats not an option.definitely dont see her agreeing to that. she believes if a relationship reaches that point its time to just end it

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Posted by ladylibra21
I think if you let her know just how much it is effecting you and lay it out just like you did here she will understand just how much she is trying and how her constant nagging is hurting the relationship as well although don't tell her that she will pick it up on her own lol. Ask her to calmly give you examples of when things are not clear and then that way you can be a bit more aware that communication is clear but also don't stifle yourself. If isobar feel comfortable saying what I feel in a relationship it is just not for me. Try to see her point of view but also decide if there are some unreasonable demands on your part. Maybe also learn what her communication style is. Maybe you can make it a game like take her to an art museum and ask her to interprets what she see and why she sees it that way and ten you do the same in reverse it could be a matter of you both just look at life different and if that's the case you gotta decided and you work through it and use it as a way to learn a different point of view or will it be more of a problem.

hmm i like you suggestion.. i will try that. I have on occasion ask her to highlight it and let me know when something is not clear but she doesnt. she just blows up on me.

I do need to figure out her style in communicating. I know her mercury is in Virgo and mines retrograde in Aquarius if that helps

I had a feeling that your Mercury is retrograde . So is mine and we just tend to be quieter people.

Does your partner make any effort in trying to understand you?

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I truly dont know. I dont feel so

yeh, this doesn't sound super.

Kudos for trying to bridge the gap tho.

My cap ex and I were similar but we took the next step for a couple of reasons and attended counseling sessions etc

So if she's unwilling to follow thru with that... what more can you do

According to your story, she sounds like a bully.

Her harsh ways of communcating with destroy your self esteem. Its controlling and abusive.

Such people will rarely reason with you even though they seem like it. The mean cycle will come back. Its a major

shortcoming on their end and not yours.

You deserve better.



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