How to know if a capricorn has called it quits

So I met a capricorn back in December actually dec. 23rd to be exact...funny thing is I had absolutely no intentions in dating, talking, speaking to another guy, I was at checking out at CVS and my bank card was acting really strange...anyway he offered to pay for my things and I told him "no I got it"...well needless to say we exchanged numbers (I had just finished working so I looked a mess lol) for a week I pretty much played him to the left he kept insisting that we go on a date he text constantly and I was short wit him...But New years eve was our first date and it lasted literally four days...I was completely taken back because he was extremely open about his personal life which even he said he is not an open person but he felt very connected to me and felt comfortable with talking to me...he made me feel very welcome and at his home anything I wanted, needed he was there he even offered to get my hair done and just to give me money just because which was very strange to me...later as we get to know each other it became so much fun we text'd fun and goofy things to each other we laughed constantly...would even spent a lot time together...but something happened and he felt that we needed to slow down which I agreed...he is definitely a workaholic which I don't mind because I run my own business too so I completely understand...then a couple weeks ago I spent the night and something was different in his touch his kiss the way he looked at me he held while we were sleeping...I would catch him staring at me with a smile he always complimented me on my hair and the fact I keep my body in shape...but said I think we should stay as friends...I started think "maybe he's just scared of what he is feeling towards me" so he's pulling back a bit...then I thought maybe its just a game he's playing keep in mind he's 42, and I'm 33...I compliment him on his hard work and just the type of person he is and I appreciate the man that he is...he said he valued out friendship...well things took a different turn over the weekend...He made plans for us to meet Sunday and I was stood up...he called me later that evening as if nothing happened or like he didn't stand me up...so I was pretty direct and with asking for an apology especially being that I rearranged my whole schedule for us to meet...he agreed t and apologized...but then stated I probably didn't accept his apology which I was confused and asked why would he think that— He had no response. as we progressed in

I told him to go ahead and get some rest and I would talk to him later...he said ur not my mom so I will call u when I get out the shower. again shocked cuz I wasn't trying to come off that way he got upset and hung up the phone...I politely told him I wasn't about to argue or fight to have a good night and be careful going Into work..m the next day I asked what was wrong still no response...I texted backed and said that I didn't appreciate that fact he hung up on me especially being that I have never pressured him, but supported him in his decisions however I will not be disrespected when it's not warranted...I have yet to hear from him what should I do—

Sounds like you should run. He seems to be acting strange for reasons you may never know, so I wouldn't even bother. It's a little too early for the mask to be coming off, but don't ignore the flags imo. I think maybe he wants to be friends because someone else is in the picture? Maybe he hung up because he didn't like your directness and tone?...some can have issues with women standing up for themselves or saying things in a tone that's not pleasing to their ears. There's a lot of sensitivity there. It's very early glimpses of what you'd be dealing with.

I thought he was a little sensitive as well. I asked what he meant by just "being friends" cuz to me that meant we're open to date other ppl...well he says "I'm not interested in seeing anyone else and I don't wanna share" lol I looked at him like wtf— But I refuse to call him so if he calls he calls if he don't fine by me lol

FrenchKpricorn...what do u mean—

So, your first date lasted four days? That means you slept with him right off the bat. Not a deal breaker, necessarily, but caps like a little more chase and challenge.

Caps tend to drift off when we lose interest. Doesn't mean you've done anything wrong, it just means you're possibly not "the one". Could also mean that things were going to fast and too hot and heavy too soon, so he's pulling back to decide whether he thinks you could be the one.

Just wait on him to contact you. Give him some space and wait and see. Meanwhile, live your life and do your thing as you did before. Stay busy so you're not tempted to reach out to him.

Time will tell.

Posted by Taurus1981
I thought he was a little sensitive as well. I asked what he meant by just "being friends" cuz to me that meant we're open to date other ppl...well he says "I'm not interested in seeing anyone else and I don't wanna share" lol I looked at him like wtf— But I refuse to call him so if he calls he calls if he don't fine by me lol

The "just friends" means he wants the benefits of a relationship but not the responsibility of a relationship. Don't let him do that to you. It's a little soon to be demanding, but don't let him jerk you around either, because if he can, he will. Don't give him any more "benefits" of a relationship including sex, doing nice things, calling him, worrying about him...he hasn't earned it.

Posted by Taurus1981
I told him to go ahead and get some rest and I would talk to him later...he said ur not my mom so I will call u when I get out the shower. again shocked cuz I wasn't trying to come off that way he got upset and hung up the phone...I politely told him I wasn't about to argue or fight to have a good night and be careful going Into work..m the next day I asked what was wrong still no response...I texted backed and said that I didn't appreciate that fact he hung up on me especially being that I have never pressured him, but supported him in his decisions however I will not be disrespected when it's not warranted...I have yet to hear from him what should I do—

So telling him to get some rest, be careful going to work etc. is assuming the girlfriend role. You don't have that title, so don't act like the girlfriend. It also assumes the mom role and he has a mother, he doesn't need another one.

You probably mean it sincerely and you are probably a caring person, I'm just saying don't act the girlfriend when you don't have the title. It's too intimate this early on and a turn off and feels smothering. You need to be the fabulous, interesting gal he's chasing after instead of assuming a role you haven't earned.

Not offending you, but trying to give a perspective.

Thanks not offended at all its just weird I only replicated back what he did lol it's fine tho...I forgot to mention I told if this a friendship/relationship then he can keep it...I don't do confusion and to me he seems very confused one min he wants more the next he wants to slow down it just feels like a roller coaster...Yikes!!! I'm off this ride lol can't do it

Oh and yea I did sleep with him...I was just extremely horny especially being abstinent for 2 yrs lol

just end it already. Delete him from fb etc

Can't you see that he just wants to keep you as a friend because he can use you ?

It could work if you saw it as just friendship or just sex but you have developed feelings for this guy and the only way for you to be happy is cut all ties with him and move on to someone else. He is messing with your head with all that crap that he wants you for himself and blah blah. He does not love you in a romantic way, period. Do you want to wait around long enough to see the girl he will have romantic feelings for ? I don't think you do.

Trust me, I have seen this so many times and it happened to me so many times. Life is not endless. You deserve a proper relationship, a proper boyfriend who loves you.

Actually I won't see anything simply because we don't run in the same circles so if he wants someone else that's absolutely fine

Thanks lol I just don't know why they can't be upfront like saying sex with no strings attached lol why make it complicated...smh lol

Posted by Taurus1981
Thanks lol I just don't know why they can't be upfront like saying sex with no strings attached lol why make it complicated...smh lol

It's disrepectful to ask for FWB and they know most girls will turn them down flat.

Wow they really think like that— LOL!!! the Taurean is not one to be controlled. ..I told him to lose my number...but like all men in general he probably won't lol because to them it's a game...smh especially if the sex was EPIC!!! SHAT LOL!!!

LOLOLOL!!! not at all...I have a business and 2 kids...I don't play games I'm to old for the bull ish...he needs a young dumb female or someone that has low self-esteem...however it's not me

Whenever a guy says that load of shit about not usually opening up and he has some sort of magical connection with you to do so, he's usually full of shit and will retreat as quickly as he moved in.

I have heard this line from so, so many dysfunctional dudes who have no idea what they want.

"I don't usually open up, but... " = "I need therapy/have mommy issues."

Posted by Taurus1981
Wow they really think like that— LOL!!! the Taurean is not one to be controlled. ..I told him to lose my number...but like all men in general he probably won't lol because to them it's a game...smh especially if the sex was EPIC!!! SHAT LOL!!!

Well, I can't say they all think like that, but a lot of people do. Asking for FWB actually IS disrepectful because it's blatantly saying I won't date you, but I'll be willing to F you. What an insult, in my opinion.

Posted by nasha82
Yeah its male code for " hey you was just abit of fun but i dont want to hurt your feelings, so i will try and soften the blow by making you feel that you meant something to me so i dont look like a c**t"

And they think they're being nice.... jerks!

It's funny how being blunt and straight to the point is being disrespectful yet being sneaky and dishonest is absolutely the right way to go— Capricorns contradict themselves

Posted by Taurus1981
It's funny how being blunt and straight to the point is being disrespectful yet being sneaky and dishonest is absolutely the right way to go— Capricorns contradict themselves

I don't think anywhere here said sneaky and dishonest is the way to go.

*anyone*

Not saying anyone said to be that way on this thread however that's how this particular capricorn acted...I hope he listened and just leaves me alone or has some type of remorse and won't treat the next lady the same way

Posted by Taurus1981
Not saying anyone said to be that way on this thread however that's how this particular capricorn acted...I hope he listened and just leaves me alone or has some type of remorse and won't treat the next lady the same way

I'm sorry he jerked you around. 😢

It's coo I gotta ton of stuff to keep busy...life goes on

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Whenever a guy says that load of shit about not usually opening up and he has some sort of magical connection with you to do so, he's usually full of shit and will retreat as quickly as he moved in.

I have heard this line from so, so many dysfunctional dudes who have no idea what they want.

"I don't usually open up, but... " = "I need therapy/have mommy issues."

Fact.

How can I make him earn it— By Waiting for him to call—

Posted by Taurus1981
How can I make him earn it— By Waiting for him to call—

Earn what? He already got the goodies.

Point taken :-/

it's weird because it's never happened before who knows smh

But why apologize then— Omg capricorns sound like straight jerk offs lol for taurus and capricorn to be compatible

When I brought it up he said he was gonna talk to be about it once he got settled...and I believe to some degree because he has canceled before but gave an explanation why once he could sit and explain

Posted by Taurus1981
But why apologize then— Omg capricorns sound like straight jerk offs lol for taurus and capricorn to be compatible

He only apologized because you made him. If he didn't, he wouldn't get anymore cookies.