If you treat a cap male like sh!t?

So I've heard online & seen (not in my relationship) but in his past that if you treat a cap man like sh!t he's pretty much putty in your hands.

See I live with him and I treat him like a king which is what I think the problem is. I think he's too comfortable.

How do I go about making him obsessed with me because the nice thing is working out so well.

How should I treat him...his last ex treated him like sh!t & he was head over heels for him!

Please don't write anything like its wrong to do that or you shouldn't, I'm dealing with a very stubborn unemotional Capricorn here.

Could it just be space is all you need? That might help him appreciate the time you do spend together. I personally think it makes it more exciting when I do get to see a bf instead of all the time.

The only thing is is that my separation anxiety is pretty bad.

Plus I remmeber giving him space like working during the days when he was home.. & he got used to it.

What do I do... He's too comfortable!

Posted by Foreverloveme
If you treat a cap man like shit he will leave

This. Full stop.

Um why would I say I have been treating him like a king then. So you telling me to stop doesn't make sense.

No. I've been so nice to him, cooking for him, cleaning, doing his laundry, etc. maybe that's what has made him too comfortable because now he is taking me for granted.

Just talk to him about it. Men are lazy if u let them. Talk abozt what you need him to do in irder for you to be happier.

Posted by HellothereAriesx3
So I've heard online & seen (not in my relationship) but in his past that if you treat a cap man like sh!t he's pretty much putty in your hands.

See I live with him and I treat him like a king which is what I think the problem is. I think he's too comfortable.

How do I go about making him obsessed with me because the nice thing is working out so well.

How should I treat him...his last ex treated him like sh!t & he was head over heels for him!

Please don't write anything like its wrong to do that or you shouldn't, I'm dealing with a very stubborn unemotional Capricorn here.

I think Caps won't stand for anyone treating them like shit for no reason.

However, you should be firm on most things, strong and self-sufficient. They are leaders so I don't think they would respect weak willed people. They are definitely not for everyone.

Sometimes I think being with a Cap is like being with an army general 🙂 You do a lot of sucking it up and getting on with it!

Posted by HellothereAriesx3
No. I've been so nice to him, cooking for him, cleaning, doing his laundry, etc. maybe that's what has made him too comfortable because now he is taking me for granted.

He wants a partner, not a mother.

Very true

I have tons of experiences with caps and if you stand up to them they respect you more

Caps have a way of using and taking advantage of ppl

I would suggest you stop doing all of that taking care of him stuff and let him take care of you!!!

I stand up to all caps and they know what time it is

Putty in my hands

I had a 6ft 5 cap begging me not to leave him

This guy is built like a machine but I set him straight and told him what I will and will not allow

You have to regain your dignity!

Posted by HellothereAriesx3
So I've heard online & seen (not in my relationship) but in his past that if you treat a cap man like sh!t he's pretty much putty in your hands.

See I live with him and I treat him like a king which is what I think the problem is. I think he's too comfortable.

How do I go about making him obsessed with me because the nice thing is working out so well.

How should I treat him...his last ex treated him like sh!t & he was head over heels for him!

Please don't write anything like its wrong to do that or you shouldn't, I'm dealing with a very stubborn unemotional Capricorn here.

Posted by HellothereAriesx3
So I've heard online & seen (not in my relationship) but in his past that if you treat a cap man like sh!t he's pretty much putty in your hands.

See I live with him and I treat him like a king which is what I think the problem is. I think he's too comfortable.

How do I go about making him obsessed with me because the nice thing is working out so well.

How should I treat him...his last ex treated him like sh!t & he was head over heels for him!

Please don't write anything like its wrong to do that or you shouldn't, I'm dealing with a very stubborn unemotional Capricorn here.

Do you really want to be the kind of woman who treats a man (her partner, lover, friend and equal)

like shi! just to MANUFACTURE a loving- mutually respectful relationship?

Surely not 🙂

If you can't approach this issue from a place of selfless love/ and or unconditional emotional strength than his urge to accommodate your requests will be phenomenally low-

Pro tip: Cap men never change who they are- not for love nor money...

If it's not meshing now, it never will hun x

Posted by balblair
Very true

I have tons of experiences with caps and if you stand up to them they respect you more

Caps have a way of using and taking advantage of ppl

I would suggest you stop doing all of that taking care of him stuff and let him take care of you!!!

I stand up to all caps and they know what time it is

Putty in my hands

I had a 6ft 5 cap begging me not to leave him

This guy is built like a machine but I set him straight and told him what I will and will not allow

You have to regain your dignity!

Posted by HellothereAriesx3
So I've heard online & seen (not in my relationship) but in his past that if you treat a cap man like sh!t he's pretty much putty in your hands.

See I live with him and I treat him like a king which is what I think the problem is. I think he's too comfortable.

How do I go about making him obsessed with me because the nice thing is working out so well.

How should I treat him...his last ex treated him like sh!t & he was head over heels for him!

Please don't write anything like its wrong to do that or you shouldn't, I'm dealing with a very stubborn unemotional Capricorn here.

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"Caps have a way of using and taking advantage of ppl"

Yes we do, if someone allows it, and bcuz we have an understanding of how it works, we also know when someone is trying to use us, usually right away. But in a relationship, he could just be thinking thats who you are, and you like to take care of him, so speak up if you're feeling unappreciated.



I'm pretty sure you're a cap too right? What's it like being in a cap/cap relationship? I'm sure it's not always challenging. :/ @balblair

*edited* sorry balblair, I confused you with another poster. I thought you were a cap.

Posted by HellothereAriesx3
So I've heard online & seen (not in my relationship) but in his past that if you treat a cap man like sh!t he's pretty much putty in your hands.

See I live with him and I treat him like a king which is what I think the problem is. I think he's too comfortable.

How do I go about making him obsessed with me because the nice thing is working out so well.

How should I treat him...his last ex treated him like sh!t & he was head over heels for him!

Please don't write anything like its wrong to do that or you shouldn't, I'm dealing with a very stubborn unemotional Capricorn here.

You're an Aries. Your signs are square. You probably already treat each other like shit.