Lust or love

Lust or love how do you know the difference?

If friends for a while and then the chemistry changes is it love? If the trust issue etc has been dealt with and you are great friends can lust really come about or is it more?

Not talking about any special relationship here but looking back generally at relationships I have been in.

Usually it takes a major event to trigger it, like say a deep heart-to-heart, or a major break-up on one side, or both of you are drunk, or maybe you both survived a life threatening situation together... something.
If both of you are free, and neither of you sees the other as "like my little sister/brother", then most likely nature will take it's course, and things will happen, especially since there an agreed bond of trust between the two of you.

You know, I heard a wonderful opinion over the radio one morning that love and lust are always two separate entities, but that they can live and work together within one relationship. After all, how else can you justify thinking and feeling sexilly towards someone than by calling it lust? This particular relationship counselor being interviewed said, and I quote, "You must not only love and care for your partner, but lust for them, too." I'm thinking that if you can't do that, then whenever you get around to sharing a bed it's going to be REALLY boring and probably more than a little awkward, and to be in a sexual relationship you kind of have to have those kind of thoughts. "For most Capricorns, love and sex are inextricably linked," is another great quote.

I definitely would agree with that statement Josh. But which came first? Lust or Love? Hmmm....

as long as both ingredients are there, does it make a difference which came first—