Most successful relationships were when..

you chased or initially showed interest?
you were chased?
the initial attraction was mutual?

Mutual attraction
it just makes sense to work hard at it when you know its something you both want...

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
Well, I am a "hunter" because, if you haven't read any of my previous posts-which I don't blame you for 🙂, I panic when approached that way by men. ALL my long and short relationship have started with me initiating and controlling pace. I have never really had a bad experience ie with them thinking I must be a desperate chick etc. Even the times where I was a s lut and did "it" within hours of meeting them, they never behaved as if they though I was one. It was always a mutual agreement where things were headed. I strongly believe that despite what we WANT to think and feel, we KNOW where it's headed. Only time I have been unsure was and still is with my Capricorn man and not because he's being a typical "Cap man" but because I put all other Cap moons to shame...

Women should just do what they want and stop caring what men might think of them!! 🙂

LoL, I like this. I admire more aggressive women. I panic when approached too, but I'm not aggressive either, so I don't really know what goes on with me. You remind me of an Aries I know of. She initially approached, then slept with her now husband on the first date, and 2yrs later married him. She'd always did what she felt with guys, and was never looked at as anything less than a lady, because in the end, it all boils down to how you carry yourself.

I like how yall do it though. I'm starting to think it's probably best to control it, and I dig the mutual agreement thing. I'm a firm believer in keeping people in the know, so there's no hard feelings in the end.

Good luck with the Cappie!

Mutual - where you both chase each other. The back and forth, give and take.

@leilaxxlovez, You make a good point! It seems when women are chased the guy works harder in the beginning, then it flips to you working harder. It seems like it will always be off balance, so the mutual thing makes sense.

@thxbutnothx, LoL! It's amazing how with some of us we have to have the mental picture of how things will be.

Still mulling it over huh lnana—

Posted by TaurGuy


Still mulling it over huh lnana—

Mulling over my mistakes, yes. Live and learn and im not trying to any repeats lol.

I like to chase but I have noticed that if you want to get married, you need to be with someone who does the chasing. You can tell how much a guy likes you by how much he is willing to do just to meet you.

yeah lnana, for me as a person, I will never chase after a guy if he doesn't feel the same. Like, I have to actually be certain that he likes me back, because to me, that, more than anything else, already says im not making a big mistake.

I ended up marrying the Aqua guy I originally chased. But that was when I was younger. Now, I only date the men that make the first move. It seems like those relationships have been the ones that developed. Not sure why that is..