Moving in with Mr. Cap.

I accidentally flagged my first post. Stupid smart phone.

Anyways, I've been with my Cap for a few years now, and he asked me to get a place with him.

I told him in July I would be able to because by then I will have bills payed off and more money saved.

When I said that, he didn't seem rushed and he said there is no time limit. "We can move in together whenever."

So.. When July hits, should I initiate it? Or should I wait for him to bring it up again?

Up to you really,
but if it was me I'd wait for him to bring it up...
I had the same situation, he broached the subject about once a month after the first time.
It took about 4 months.

You said you been with him a few years so, what is wrong with bringing it up when the time is right?

Because I don't want to pressure the situation. Moving in together is a big step and I don't want to make it feel unnatural.

It's not like you're suggesting it first. If you told him July, then I don't see the problem with bringing it up when you are ready. There is a possibility he won't bring it up again, because he already did and got put off. So, when you are ready, bring it up casually. I don't think it will be a big deal who brings it up next.

I am a bit confused here..July is a month from now.

Shouldn't you folks already discuss it and think about the furniture, decoration etc? I mean shouldn't this topic be on both of your minds and for you to have fun talking about it?

I remember when I moved with my Cap Ex..we were already pumped up about it 3 months prior to the moving date and we were laughing and talking about how it was going to look like.

What? He is waiting for you to give him the signal that your bills are paid and/or ready financially.


Doesn't sound serious on your end. He's watching you.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I don't think she's ready.....otherwise it wouldn't be so awkward.

Awkward was the word I was looking for.

I'm like "why aren't you people having fun and fantasizing?"

Yeah I can see why most of you are skeptical of my motives but I'll give you a more detailed synopsis of the situation.

His family owns the apartment/house so it's pretty much there for us whenever we are ready. They are saving it for us.

We both have furniture, we just need to buy a couch, which my mom wants to get for us as a present.

We've discussed that.

But most of you are right, I am awkward about it.

Here is why.

We were playing a game last week and I brought it up and asked him, "Do you think you'll be ready in July? I should have a few grand saved up by then." And he said "I don't know."

So obviously I was upset at how cold he was being. After we finished our game I went to my room and I was upset. He asked me "what's wrong?" And I said "I'm kind of offended at how cold you sounded when I tried to talk about the apartment." He said "I was just mad because I was losing in the game, we can move in whenever we want, my mom is saving the space for us."

I know most of you are probably like, "Okay.. What's the problem then?"

I'm afraid he's going to be cold if I bring it up again, like last time.

I'm thinking about asking him if he wants to go to garage sales next weekend and we can do our own DIY projects. Maybe that will be a good way to find out if his heart is in it?

Yeah I guess so. I feel like I am overthinking it a little too much at this point.

Yeah I definitely agree with that.

You ladies make things so difficult sometimes.

Stop thinking too much.

Do you want to move in with the guy? yes or no

About as basic as it gets. smh

Yes I want to move in with him. :*

I overthought this way too much. Please forgive me. Hah

Posted by myloveyourlove32
Yes I want to move in with him. :*

I overthought this way too much. Please forgive me. Hah

I forgive you.

Seriously though, overthinking by ladies is probably my #1 complaint about relationships.

Many other men feel the same way. It would be a good habit to break IMO.

Good luck shacking up!

I'll try. Just for you and my sagicorn!

I'll post an update in the future.

Thanks!

Me and my Cap Ex, one week before moving in:

Me: "ready or nooot, here I comeeee"
Cap: "lol"

It's that easy.

He isn't cold, he's a man.

It's shocking but men actually appreciate good natured humor.

Not mine but you get the idea.

In July, tell him how happy you are to have all the bills paid off and have a savings. See if that jogs his memory.

Caps hate when loosing at games.My bf is soo happy when winning a game online,I dont understand exactly why,but well..i think is competitiviness.
So,bring it up easy,maybe he thinks you are doubtful and not ready yet?Even if his answer is negative what is the problem?If he think is ready for moving in together he will,in July or December.No pressure,is the best option.
I asked my bf,last week if we will move together at some point,where we will live.He said ,very simple,at your place..

Well he's down to go furniture shop and work on projects together to start getting ready! I want him to know I'm in this 100% .

I talked about what was bugging me in the earlier posts and conquered it already. It's all good over here (:

I'm reopening this thread to give an update. We have been painting, cleaning the place up, and making it our own for the past few weeks now. We are also getting our couch, and bathroom/bedroom decor tomorrow! We are having a lot of fun. Everything is going good y'all. :* :* we are more in love than ever right now.

Posted by myloveyourlove32
I'm reopening this thread to give an update. We have been painting, cleaning the place up, and making it our own for the past few weeks now. We are also getting our couch, and bathroom/bedroom decor tomorrow! We are having a lot of fun. Everything is going good y'all. :* :* we are more in love than ever right now.

Good to hear.

🙂

Great news!!

Time for another update! It's been a few weeks we have been fully moved in and settled now.

I honestly can't believe so many out there think gem/caps won't work out. I feel like I'm with my best friend, we get one another.

We are soooo passionate and in love. We never argue. We enjoy one another's company and family/friend time. And even alone time. Sparks are always flying, too.

I will come home and the dishes will be cleaned, and the bed is made. He will cuddle me, love me, he even says it all the time. I'm just in awe and I wish everyone to find a love like this. We take care of each other.

I know it's still fresh but in a couple months I'll have to post another update 😉

That's wonderful! Enjoy to the fullest, keep us posted 🙂

Glad it's going well. I wish you the best!