Activating shields

Do you hate it when you have to activate shields to protect yourself?

Its annoying I guess when I have to be an asshole to people in order to teach them how to behave. A lot of people like pushing my buttons and they don't hear from me ever.

I STAY ready ... therefore my guns are always locked and loaded.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
activating shields comes from expectations.

let go of the expectations and their is no need to have the shields.

A strong +1. Truthfully, they're not shielding from anything but walling themselves in...how can you "live" like that. Nobody's perfect and Caps do things as well to cause others to "shield themselves" but are given the benefit of the doubt nonetheless...perhaps that courtesy should be reciprocated.

Ha! You have a point beautifulsoul. Honestly, I do think we tend to slight others a bit more than they slight us...and yes, "we."

If it's not intentional truecap, try to cut whoever a little slack....assuming, this is a situation you are currently going through.

Yes there is no real need to activate any type of "shield" against someone unless you are being physically attacked. I agree with twirlingsyrawberry.

Posted by lnana04
Ha! You have a point beautifulsoul. Honestly, I do think we tend to slight others a bit more than they slight us...and yes, "we."

If it's not intentional truecap, try to cut whoever a little slack....assuming, this is a situation you are currently going through.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
activating shields comes from expectations.

let go of the expectations and their is no need to have the shields.

Yep

Hard to let it go honestly.
If I don't expect anything from anyone and love freely...I can't see anything but being used and abused.
I don't even trust myself at times to keep emotions in check.
So how could I possibly expect the same from others?

I think it takes so much trust, etc to let them down, then you realize that person or situation isn't what you thought it was, so they go back up. When they go back up, it's even harder to ever take them down again.

And I don't like having shields, but they are a necessary evil sometimes. I just don't think you should blindly trust every person you meet.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
activating shields comes from expectations.

let go of the expectations and their is no need to have the shields.

Shields have nothing to do with expectations. It has to do with trust.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
Its annoying I guess when I have to be an asshole to people in order to teach them how to behave. A lot of people like pushing my buttons and they don't hear from me ever.

That is true. Otherwise people will take advantage of you, so you have to teach them how to treat you.

Posted by Bsmurray
Yes there is no real need to activate any type of "shield" against someone unless you are being physically attacked. I agree with twirlingsyrawberry.

Caps shield just like aquas use aloofness to keep people at bay.

And, yes, that is a generalization.

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Posted by truecap
then you realize that person or situation isn't what you thought it was

this *is* an expectation.

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Maybe. But if I don't trust someone, the shield goes up. I just see it different from an expectation.

Like, for instance, my neighbor wants to be all friendly and I start to think I like her and relax a little around her, then she starts wanting to gossip to me about the other neighbors and I realize she is the type to try to get you to open up, then will gossip about you to everyone else. So, I have to shield up because I need to watch what I say. So, in that scenario, it's not really about expectations, it is about not trusting and not sharing to protect myself from gossip.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
You guys also always have a plan....and unfortunately, life isn't always going to go according to it. Seems once something goes amiss then you get all wonky and start pulling back. Or....if you don't know what to expect you start wrapping things up prematurely.

I will admit to that.

Except I don't know if the premature part is always true. If I discover someone or something doesn't fit into the plan, then I will switch gears and take another path. There's nothing wrong with wrapping things up on that angle. Why drag it out?

What shield? Whats the fun in living in a constant paranoid state like that? Its best to travel light through life, accepting things/people/situations as they are and moving on.

It's all a bit delusional in all honestly because in ways it's fantasy.

I take a beating from my personal situation because I'm trying to change from that.

I tend to think ahead. Give me "a" and I've visualized "b" and planned ahead to get there. You simply cannot dismiss and disregard another person by thinking they will fit into YOUR "idea" or what YOU had in mind.

I do it all the time. Things don't go accordingly and I'm furious. My Capricorn friend does it as well, and really...that attitude and that pressure from the expectations, or even from the feeling your being strung along, can actually cause another person to pump the brakes themselves.

I see with my attitude, it's all good as long as you are playing along. That's not right.

Maybe I'm talking about something else, but yeah...my expectations are one of my biggest issues.

Kinda.

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
You guys also always have a plan....and unfortunately, life isn't always going to go according to it. Seems once something goes amiss then you get all wonky and start pulling back. Or....if you don't know what to expect you start wrapping things up prematurely.

I will admit to that.

Except I don't know if the premature part is always true. If I discover someone or something doesn't fit into the plan, then I will switch gears and take another path. There's nothing wrong with wrapping things up on that angle. Why drag it out?

In my experience....sometimes cap write their own endings instead of letting things happen on their own.

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Personally I agree with TS on all counts based on my experience.

I don't think I intentionally activate shields, but they are always there, when dealing with most people.

I do consciously think sometimes to put my guard back up, if something happens, but other than that, no. For example, the Scorp's mother will tell me things about other people and I think, "Be careful what you tell her." But I don't have any big secrets at this point either, so I don't know why it worries me. lol.

I've missed you around here capgirl!

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I realise you are all not the same....but I have witnessed the self-preservation situation myself with a few caps in my personal life.

It may play out differently but it always seems to be there in one form or another.

You guys also always have a plan....and unfortunately, life isn't always going to go according to it. Seems once something goes amiss then you get all wonky and start pulling back. Or....if you don't know what to expect you start wrapping things up prematurely.

True, true and true again. I get really stressed out if things aren't going according to my plan. And if I don't know how the outcome of something will be, or if I think it won't be the outcome I want, I try to wrap things up 1000000% . I've been trying to go with the flow more recently, but I just don't think it's my own, personal nature. Not saying this is strictly because I'm a Capricorn, but I just don't feel comfortable not having a plan. And a plan B... and C.

Activate shields?

What are you, Power Rangers?

Hahaha thats right

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Activate shields?

What are you, Power Rangers?

LOL

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Activate shields?

What are you, Power Rangers?

died.

Sounds like a Cancerian thing tho. So different yet so alike. As all opposites 😄

Posted by truecap
I've missed you around here capgirl!

Thanks! 🙂

@LS - we do!