MY CAPRICORN MALE DUMPED ME -IS THIS REALLY OVER?

My cap and I met in Feb 08/ slept together in March 08 and have been having a somewhat of a relationship ever since. We normally communicate thru text, have some sexual encounters, and that is it. He is a home builder and is busy all of the time. Last week (8/6), I received an email from him stating that he admired me and was glad that I was in his life. On 7/28, he stated that he is glad that he met me.

Well Sat (8/9), I sent him a mean text because I was jealous. 2 days in a row (fri/sat), I saw his vehicle parked at this lady's house a couple of blocks up the road. I know that this lady is a new tenant in his rental property; but got jealous that he was over there Friday night (around 9pm) and Sat evening (around 2pm) and didn't even call me. I found out as I was passing the property to access the freeway.

So I sent him a text stating, I guess you "fu__" everyone in the neighborhood, I thought you had better scruples than that". About 1 hour later he called, I didn't answer. I finally cooled down about 4 hours later and apologized via text. No reply. I sent him a good morning text the following day (as always)....no answer.

So last night, I sent him another text, asking him was he mad at me and he responded, "Because of your text, I am going to STOP everything that we had". I asked him if he wanted me to stop communicating with him, and he stated "yes". I apologized and explained to him why I acted this way...no answer.

Is he done with me? Is there anything that I can do to repair our friendship. I really do care for him. I am an Aries and know that Caps and Aries really don't get along.

Wow...Your situation sounds familiar...I'm a Sag and I'm not really he jealous type..but I am a female and I have thrown jealous tantrums before.. twice to be exact...I cursed my cappy out and called him every name in the book...realized later I was being a fool...because he was giving me his time.. making time for me even if he was working..but yet I showed jealousy..he told me one time " Jealousy never wins" those were his words., after cussing him out sooo bad.. and than came back and apologized, I waited. didn't tex any more. After about 3 days of no commutation, he tex like nothing had ever happen. So I went with the flow and has never shown jealousy again. You must realize that if he is just dating and hasn't committed to you, than he will see other people until he chooses who he wants to commit to..once committed , he than will be loyal to you. If he calls you back..I would stop the jealous tantrums and I would most defiantly slow up on the sex. I get sooo much help from this forum,,hope I was able to finally help someone.

Prior to this tantums we were down to havig sex maybe twice a month. My cap told me that he is going to STOP whatever we had because of this text. I just emailed him a letter telling him again why I acted that way (jealousy) and how I am sorry. Do you think he will come back or is he gone forever?

:we were down to havig sex maybe twice a month:

is this what you are looking for anyway? might be good to assess what you want & not try to get him back if things weren't making you happy...

i was real jealous with my caps (i've dated a couple lately). it didn't turn out well. in stead of jealousy, best to find out where things stand & draw a line using logic, not emotion. like, are we exclusive? if so, why are you seeing someone else? or are we not, and i should be seeing other people too?

I agree..I would want to know where I stand as well..Stop apologizing. He got the first one.. give him time..when things cool off, than I would ask are exclusive? or are we seeing other people?. He will tell you. He could just be punishing you to.. thats what they do..all you can do is just wait.. find something to do with your time. he will think about it as well as the apology..most are logical and fair..if it was your first time..people make mistakes.If you leave him alone.. I believe he will call.🙂

Aries4268,

I agree with rchllmr and hold off on the communication. Sometimes the best approach with a cappy is to just take a step back and allow some time to pass. At this point in time, after so many texts and a letter with no response, you're unlikely to get one soon. If you hold off for awhile and regroup, you might realize that this guy wasn't offering you that much to begin with or you'll find that enough time has passed and maybe you'll get a response when you reach out.

Then again, when caps say that they're over it (remember, this is the sign that will keep working on things preferring not to give up), then it might just be done. Sounds like he was looking for an excuse to cut it off with you.

Yes, I agree with LeoWithCapAndAnnoyed..I wanted to mention that also,,he was probably looking for a way to cut it off..As many times as I have had it out with my cappy..and It has been some tough times, me being a sagg and trying to understand him and all, he has never once said don't call me or it is over. no matter how upset he is..he leaves it open for us to come together...so girlfriend he might have done you a favor..if he calls fine.. if he doesn't ...you deserve better..thats a cowardly way to break up.

I for one hope he never contacts her again-she sounds like a psycho. Remember boys and girls, self control is a virtue.

the silver lining to jealousy is - it shows you care.

just take a few deep breaths, go on with your life & see what he does.

my caps have come back after my crazy jealous behavior. but only after it stopped & they assume it will not happen again.

put yourself in his shoes. if some dude did that to you and drove past place and saw your car parked out there and then had the nerve to text you about it and accuse you of cheating, i dont think you would respond either. i know for a fact i wouldnt talk to him for a long time. wait a while

Aries4268.

Seek a face to face with you boy and air out your dirty laundry in a civil manner. If there is no chance of a reconciliation, move on cause you done messed up girl. Then again, if he truly was touched by an angel, he'd have easily forgiven.

Make and attempt at curtailing anger streak within you.

I'm a cap in a relationship with another cap. I think you made too much of a scene and jumped to a conclusion that he was fucking around without trusting him. You can't be a drama queen. Jealousy is one thing--accusing him of being loose goes against all cap dignity. It doesn't sound like you're in a relationship--he hasn't decided you're his one and only yet. Until he does you have got to cool it. Find other things to keep you busy so you don't get into a jealous rage again. Not other men, just be independent. Because even when you're in a relationship with a cap guy, you have to be independent. He'll spend all his free time with you and be devoted, but if he tells you he's busy with work, you can't argue.

Wait for him to contact you and don't lose it again, if you want to be with this guy.

I'm sorry but it sounds more like a friends w/ benefits kind of relationship where you seem to be the one that caught feelings.

But as some stated just give him his space and maybe he will come around. Constantly communicating with him after he has told you to stop will only make him more annoyed at you.

In my personal dealings with capricorns they DO NOT like people who behave irrationally or with emotion. While the text messages you sent him were understandable he may think to himself this woman is crazy and I better get out while I stil can.

space... if he cares for you he will be back if he doesn't well he's gone for good.

girl bottom line he is cheating.....you are a aries woman so you will eventually get over his @ss...dont go on torturing yourself like this....i wouldnt text his @ss no more...and as far as apologize... for what?? Hes the one not responding and cheating like right in your face...you did not do anything but stumble across the wrong man...just a learning experience......keep it moving

I continued to text my Capricorn but not as much. On Sunday, I sent him a text informing him of my son's choice to go tot he Military. He responded that he was proud of him and invited me to meet him at a club that he was at. I went to the club and he treated me as though I was his lady. The club is small and initimate and he was hugged up with me even though when I walked in he was talking to another female. However, he didn't stop talking to the female and introduced us. He gave me a kiss when he saw me and told me that he missed me. We hadn't seen each other over a month. Afterwards we went back to his place and talked about my actions (i brought it up) and he said that he didn't like it because I basically challenged his morals. In any event, I learned my lesson and will not be so overwhelming with him or show my jealous side.

I am just going to let it be whatever it is; without the intensity as before.

Aries4268,

If its one thing I'm learning from this site is that unless a Cap man says your his one and only---your what you are a FWB. And it seems like, in my opinion--now don't quote me--that they reserve FWB for people they like, or are sexually attracted to but not for the ones they want to have a relationship with. Now I am not trying to burst your bubble--I do hope--that for your sake he really does like you more and is just busy with work. But, from what others have said, if a Cap guy really likes you he'll show it and want to be with you all the time. If the sex thing is good, and he's hot--then have fun with it! Just have the mind set that if your relationship remains the same (never revolving beyond just sex)--and you want more--just tell him--give him a chance to respond--and if its not the answer you were looking for--move on! Your way to good for anything else--besides Aries girl, you guys are way to much fun-and super loyal too--you'd have another super catch in no time!

if a Cap guy really likes you he'll show it and want to be with you all the time. If the sex thing is good, and he's hot--then have fun with it! Just have the mind set that if your relationship remains the same (never revolving beyond just sex)--and you want more--just tell him--give him a chance to respond--and if its not the answer you were looking for--move on! Your way to good for anything else--besides Aries girl, you guys are way to much fun-and super loyal too--you'd have another super catch in no time!

I agree with the statement if a Cap man is really into you, HE will and I mean will NOT leave your side for nothing in this world. YOU will have to leave him, once this man has given you his heart-and he will tell YOU these things by the way- YOU will have to dump him. When Cap men love, they love hard and you cannot shake him off with a stick because he is in it for the long run!

from my experience cap men want to be with their women in GENERAL, but not ALL THE TIME. since they like so much alone time.

it also seems to me that a FWB can be a prelude to more with a cap. given the long timeline for them to make up their mind...

i'd be careful about generalizing that all caps are one way or the other. there are tendencies, but every guy is different.

This is the same exact situation I'm in right now with a capricorn man. I got mad because I was tired of everytime he seem like he was getter closer to me he would shut down by saying he was gonna be busy for a couples of days. I call and he said he was busy and I said FU and go be with whoever you want to be with. I called back and apolize on his answering machine and he didn't want to talk to me no more. He use to call me all the time and text a lot. He would never really talk about his feelings but I could tell he was into me. Capricorns are very stubborn and they don't like woman to disrespect them. Once he seen that you was sorry he feed off of that and that's why he's playing hard to get. Don't make the mistake I made by constantly calling him asking for his forgiveness because he would just play harder to get trust me I know. Don't call for about a week and then try calling him. If he really miss you he will atleast pick up. Don't even mention nothing about the incident and if he's still acting funny just get off immediately and tell him you just call to see how he was doing. Then wait for 4 days and call again he will act different eventually if you follow this process. You can send him a Im sorry also. He may act cold towards you buts that's there nature.