Not feeling very cap-like

Currently going through a divorce with an Aquarius, who does not believe that we are actually divorcing. He still asks me out, still trying to have sex, still wanting me to sit and snuggle with him on the couch. I get it..this is hard, but it is hard for me too and I need space. Then the cancer I was having an affair with has decided that now I am public enemy #1 for his heart and has found another chick. Fine, but stop calling me and wanting to see me and telling me that you will wait on my divorce for us to be together.

They are both wearing my heart out. I've been so back and forth and emotional with all of this for almost a year now. I realized that I wasn't acting like my usual decisive self and 2 weeks ago yelled "enough" to both of them. I am not used to being soooo emotional (the cancer did it) and I was getting on my own nerves.

I enjoy lurking on this board and listening to strong caps because I feel like I lost myself for a while.

Maybe it's time to stop and regroup. Be alone for awhile and find yourself again. Date no one and rediscover what you like about yourself.

Aquarius is a fixed sign and once they decide to love someone, they have a hard time letting go.
Cancer can be emotionally manipulative and nasty if they've been hurt. Seems like you hurt him pretty bad.

Seems like you need a good disconnect from everything and everyone and find another focus for a while. Get your life in order and find your footing.

Wishing you the best.

Can I ask what happened with the Aquarius? What made things fall apart? I'm curious because I'm with an Aquarius now. You can PM me if you don't want to post it here publically.

Thanks for your encouragement. Don't mind posting why-simple neglect really. Everything else came first. All passion and mental energy went to hobbies, friends, and family. I loved all that...at first. But I wasn't getting my needs met-wanted to feel like "his girl", not just someone to cook, clean, encourage him and take care of our kids. Sometimes romance is needed. Sometimes my crusty cap self just wants to not be the "strong" one and just let her man take care of her. Tried to explain calmly, got angry, cried, begged and pleaded and finally gave up. He is a great guy, but I friend zoned him a couple of years ago.

We are great as room mates and parents, not so much as a couple. It has been an amicable split though even with him knowing about the cancer. We were friends for a long time before marrying and it is what we are really good at.

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Thanks for your encouragement. Don't mind posting why-simple neglect really. Everything else came first. All passion and mental energy went to hobbies, friends, and family. I loved all that...at first. But I wasn't getting my needs met-wanted to feel like "his girl", not just someone to cook, clean, encourage him and take care of our kids. Sometimes romance is needed. Sometimes my crusty cap self just wants to not be the "strong" one and just let her man take care of her. Tried to explain calmly, got angry, cried, begged and pleaded and finally gave up. He is a great guy, but I friend zoned him a couple of years ago.

We are great as room mates and parents, not so much as a couple. It has been an amicable split though even with him knowing about the cancer. We were friends for a long time before marrying and it is what we are really good at.

Thanks. I can see how an aquarius can be all that, make you feel all that. The romance fairy just passed them up. lol! Mine seems to try, I notice the effort. All our other planets line up perfectly so I'm thinking that helps.

I hope things work out for you and you find happiness. You will. One day at a time.
*hugs*