First date in my life. dating w/ Aqua&Pisces moon

Help me pls.
This is my first time dating in my life... and I ended up dating with this Aquarius sun, Pisces moon and Pisces venus.
We used to be friends for maybe 4 months before getting into dating stage.
It happened really fast though... He didn't tell me officially that we're dating, but he jokingly said that we're dating several times.

My problem is I don't know how to react in a relationship especially with this man. I know it's weird and strange.
But my imagination of a relationship is NOT like this at all.

First of all: Our dating is a secret. Well, FYI we started dating for only a month now.
2nd: I feel like he doesn't care me much like what I feel to him. He showed up late in our appts twice! And he knows I don't like people who always show up late.
3rd: He didn't text me "night night" for 2 days now. I was the one who said it first.
4th: We're in a long distance relationship. We live 2hr and a half away from each other. I'd love to go to see him. No problem. BUT, he hasn't offered me to come to see me yet.
5th: He used to do sexting to me for the past 2 weeks, BUT he suddenly stopped for a whole week this week.
6th: He still make his life mysterious to me. If I don't ask, he won't tell.

FYI: I'm Libra sun, Leo moon and Libra venus. I know myself I always overthink, care about him too much, wanna talk to him everyday, and maybe needy and clingy sometimes. I'm trying to stop though...

So pls pls tell me how to date with his guy? Should I pay more attention to him OR leave him alone OR wait for him to initiate text?
Why he did to me like that? Does this mean he's not serious in our relationship?

Pls give me suggestion how can I do to make this relationship last long.

Thanks everyone!!!

Posted by Sugarfoot
He's not the only guy on earth and it really shouldn't be this hard. It's a waste of energy if you ask me. Let it go.

So this is not a first stage relationship should be?

Posted by 1thgirls
Help me pls.
This is my first time dating in my life... and I ended up dating with this Aquarius sun, Pisces moon and Pisces venus.
We used to be friends for maybe 4 months before getting into dating stage.
It happened really fast though... He didn't tell me officially that we're dating, but he jokingly said that we're dating several times.

My problem is I don't know how to react in a relationship especially with this man. I know it's weird and strange.
But my imagination of a relationship is NOT like this at all.

First of all: Our dating is a secret. Well, FYI we started dating for only a month now.
2nd: I feel like he doesn't care me much like what I feel to him. He showed up late in our appts twice! And he knows I don't like people who always show up late.
3rd: He didn't text me "night night" for 2 days now. I was the one who said it first.
4th: We're in a long distance relationship. We live 2hr and a half away from each other. I'd love to go to see him. No problem. BUT, he hasn't offered me to come to see me yet.
5th: He used to do sexting to me for the past 2 weeks, BUT he suddenly stopped for a whole week this week.
6th: He still make his life mysterious to me. If I don't ask, he won't tell.

FYI: I'm Libra sun, Leo moon and Libra venus. I know myself I always overthink, care about him too much, wanna talk to him everyday, and maybe needy and clingy sometimes. I'm trying to stop though...

So pls pls tell me how to date with his guy? Should I pay more attention to him OR leave him alone OR wait for him to initiate text?
Why he did to me like that? Does this mean he's not serious in our relationship?

Pls give me suggestion how can I do to make this relationship last long.

Thanks everyone!!!

I wouldn't date this guy. Why do you want to?

Posted by 1thgirls

Posted by Sugarfoot
He's not the only guy on earth and it really shouldn't be this hard. It's a waste of energy if you ask me. Let it go.

So this is not a first stage relationship should be?

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Absolutely not.

I wouldn't date this guy:

Posted by 1thgirls
Our dating is a secret.

Red flag

Posted by 1thgirls
He showed up late in our appts twice! And he knows I don't like people who always show up late.

He doesn't respect your feelings. Being late is a red flag that you're not that important.
(Unless he had a valid reason)

Posted by 1thgirls
He didn't text me "night night" for 2 days now. I was the one who said it first.

That seems a little needy and immature on your part. But you shouldn't be the one initiating all the texts.

Posted by 1thgirls
4th: We're in a long distance relationship. We live 2hr and a half away from each other.

I don't see the feasibility of a long distance relationship.

Posted by 1thgirls
BUT, he hasn't offered me to come to see me yet.

In the early stages of a relationship, he should be wanting to see you as much as possible.

Posted by 1thgirls
5th: He used to do sexting to me for the past 2 weeks, BUT he suddenly stopped for a whole week this week.

Why are you sexting him already. It's inappropriate so early on. It just displays that he's only interested in sex.

Posted by 1thgirls
6th: He still make his life mysterious to me. If I don't ask, he won't tell.

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The early stage of a relationship is all about getting to know each other. He apparantly doesn't want you to know about his life. He doesn't have to tell you at this stage what he's doing all the time. He could be seeing other people too and that is appropriate because he's not committed to you. And, he shouldn't have to divulge private details because deeply personal things shouldn't be shared with someone you barely know. BUT, he should want to share what's going on as in the fun, positive things and some of the things that are important to him, his favorite things, typ

types of movies he likes, etc. to get to know you and allow you to know him.

Basically, don't put all your eggs in one basket. The guy doesn't seem like he's all that interested in developing something with you.

Sorry, if I'm bursting your bubble, but once you experience what a good relationship is, you'll be more discerning about what is not good.

you're asking us how to date this guy—

you can't vicariously live through us.

You have to do it on your OWN.

jesus, it's like ME asking my sisters or my grandparents, aunts, ect "Please tell me how to date him." They're NOT on a date with me.

if he cannot accept you as yourself, then MOVE ON.

go find someone who wants you for you.

can you imagine, a film or a movie that is like this—

where the woman is asking her female friend, "Please take over for me. be my guide and be on the date with me."

so she puts a microphone in the jacket, and tells HER how to go about the date.

he's NOT dating YOU, he's dating someone else.

it's FAKE.

if he don't want you because you don't know how to date, then how is it he's gonna understand YOU.

you're decieving him.

Posted by truecap
This is why I wouldn't date this guy:

Posted by 1thgirls
Our dating is a secret.

Red flag
...

Posted by 1thgirls
BUT, he hasn't offered me to come to see me yet.

In the early stages of a relationship, he should be wanting to see you as much as possible.

Posted by 1thgirls
5th: He used to do sexting to me for the past 2 weeks, BUT he suddenly stopped for a whole week this week.

Why are you sexting him already. It's inappropriate so early on. It just displays that he's only interested in sex. ...

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Truecap, you did a good Job. I hope you get rewards in life for this dedication.

Yet I am not sure if OP belongs to the group of women who know the impact of yes vs. no. Maybe it is a trend only to say "YES, SIR".

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Posted by truecap
This is why I wouldn't date this guy:

Posted by 1thgirls
Our dating is a secret.

Red flag
...

Posted by 1thgirls
BUT, he hasn't offered me to come to see me yet.

In the early stages of a relationship, he should be wanting to see you as much as possible.

Posted by 1thgirls
5th: He used to do sexting to me for the past 2 weeks, BUT he suddenly stopped for a whole week this week.

Why are you sexting him already. It's inappropriate so early on. It just displays that he's only interested in sex. ...

Truecap, you did a good Job. I hope you get rewards in life for this dedication.

Yet I am not sure if OP belongs to the group of women who know the impact of yes vs. no. Maybe it is a trend only to say "YES, SIR".

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Awww, shucks.

Thank you.

Thanks everyone for all suggestions.

I don't know when/ how often/ what I should text him.
I don't know if I sometimes seem too clingy or needy.
I don't know how I should treat him as a "dater" not bf/gf.

All I know is I want to be nice to him, care about him, try to talk with him alot...

But.. As Libra sun and venus, I need a balance from both side. I will overthink if I don't get that balance (which I face this problem right now).

Bc we're not bf/gf yet, that makes me more confused what should I do to him and what not.

He didn't reply to my message last night when I said "night night"... not even this morning.
I know he's busy for classes right now... so I decided not to text him first today and wait for him.
But I'm also scared that it might make him think that I'm not that interested.

dating isn't a formula.

You do what you want to do and if he doesn't appreciate it then don't date him anymore lol.

Simple simple.

Posted by 1thgirls
Bc we're not bf/gf yet, that makes me more confused what should I do to him and what not.

Exactly. He's not your boyfriend, so don't give him boyfriend treatment.

He's just someone you date occasionally. Therefore, keep living your life as you did before. Date. Socialize. Go out. flirt. Do your activities. Talk to him when it's convenient. Be friendly and fun when you interact. Just don't give him a title he hasn't deserved. Keep doing your thing as you did before.

Posted by 1thgirls
But I'm also scared that it might make him think that I'm not that interested.

THIS ^^ is the turn off. The fear leads to insecurity and clinginess and desperation which is all extremely unattractive to any man, especially aqua men.

Don't worry about what he thinks. Let him worry about what YOU think. It's that attitude that men are attracted to. 😉

Thanks Truecap!!!
Anyway... We haven't texted each other for a whole day til now. I don't want to initiate the conversation bc he didn't respond to my text last night.
Is it a good move then?

My friend told me that I should wait for him to initiate the conversation with me.

As our status, I'm NOT sure at all what we are right now.
Yep, he mentioned about we're dating twice.
Yep, he jokingly said I'm his gf once when I told my friend on the phone that I was with my "friend" (actually, I was with him).

So idk what our relationship status is.

You are correct. Wait for him to initiate a text.

Posted by aquarius78
I'm a Pisces moon aqua sun. Treat us like your bestfriend and don't hold high expectations. We don't wanna text every single day, we like to have a life as well. You might get Simple responses but we're better at physical connections rather than text.

Thank you!! Also, can I ask you questions:
My "date" just refer me as his good friend on our chat... I mean, of course, it hurts me, that he refered me as a friend.
So I jokingly texted, "really!?"
THen he said, "well, best friend" "Well, best best friend" "Well, best best best friend"
So I said, "DONE!"
And he started to get my attention by keep talking other topic.

Should I be upset that he refered to me as his friend instead of his date?