Ok Caps... I want to know how do you feel about this situation..

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My best friend is a Cap.. I'm on the phone with her now & I told her I'll post her scenario up here to see what her fellow Caps would think..

Background story:

She's a Cap & the guy she's dealing with is an Aries..

..So Anyways, Moving along with the story....

They met back sometime ago and at first they couldn't stand each other. She thought he was too bold, egoistical, annoying, etc & He thought she was too conservative, mysterious, etc. They finally went on a couple of dates and started loosen up to each other.. So months went by & they had sex. So she told me there wasn't any oral involved, it was one-positioned, and fairly quick (He slept over by her)

However, despite the fact that she said sexually it wasn't there for her.. She still decided to continue to talk to him bc something about him made her like him ( I guess it was what he showed her behind closed doors).. Anyways after the sex.. he invited her & I on a road trip which was pretty cool.. & after that they went on one by themselves.. Which I felt like this guy might just be the one for her.. UNTIL!!!! She found out he was married and that he lived with his family (not his wife)...

So automatically when I heard that I said abort mission & do not get caught up in the tie.... However, he explained to her that he's married (doesn't live with his wife), illegal (in U.S. doesn't have any legal documentation here), has children (only one with his wife & others with other women), and a bunch more personal things... So she said she'll stick around bc maybe his legal paperwork is going through and she doesn't want to judge him..(Which she found out the wife stated she's not going to help him.. Therefore he's still stuck) So as a friend, I told her look don't get hurt and I explained what might and might not happen with this situation so just be careful

Now with this being said.. recently she opened a Prepaid card for him.. where he can use it to pay and purchase stuff online (b/c he doesn't have a SSN) which she has the account information and password to.. & right before she opened this account she helped him get an apartment..

So here's where I want the CAPS insight :

He recently went out to some social gathering and he was caught rubbing up on a females breast, smacked her behind & So she decided to talk to him and ask him "What are we?" He replied "We're together" & she discussed how can they be together and he's acting a fool in public.. Anyways this weekend they went out and he was acting very distant like as if he doesn't know her.. So she confronted him about his wishy-washy behavior.. & Now he's like "do w/e you want.. he doesn't care"

So she said she's going to wait until he put $ $ in his account, withdraw all, & disconnect it.. Plus block him and do not tell him anything. Now to me I already told her what to & what not to expect.. SO I think this all could've been avoided. What do you all think?

Her: Sun: Cap, Moon:Virgo, Mar:Virgo, Ven:Scorp, Mer:Cap, Jup:Sag, Sat: Pisc
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Posted by ElleDuMonde
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wait......

she is planning on stealing his money?
Pretty much.. *angry face*... Like suck him dry and delete contact..
why do that?

keep your grace and dignity and just leave him alone.

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I would only take the money to pay to get out of the lease for the apartment lease (if apartment is in her name). Otherwise, I would not steal his money just because.

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What is she going to do about the apartment she helped him get? I'm assuming it's in her name since he doesn't have a SA#... Right?
I'm not sure if it is in her name.. She didn't specify if it was.. which I think if it was she would've mentioned that since his prepaid card has her name on the card.. So I'm guessing maybe.. I'll ask
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I'm sure u can't get an apartment in ur name without a SS# unless it's one of those "ran down" places.
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wait......

she is planning on stealing his money?
Pretty much.. *angry face*... Like suck him dry and delete contact..
How is she going to do that? SHE opened a prepaid card for HIM. SHE rented an apartment for HIM. Sounds like it's her ass on the line not his.
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I have no idea HOW she's going to do this.. Like idk if his apartment is in her name she didn't mention that part to me.. but I do know that his card is in her name.. I wished she had be judgmental.. I know she was trying to help, but now look..
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Posted by cheekyfaerie
Shame it didn't work out. Sounds like they deserve each other.

Not really sure what you're asking here. Do you have the right to say I told you so? Yeah. I guess. Doesn't change the fact he's a pig and she's a vindictive bitch. She allowed herself to be made a fool of and she's pissed. We've all been there. Doesn't hafta turn ya into a thief. The question is, now what? You're just as all up in it as they are.
No.. I'm not the type to say "I told you so".. So I wouldn't do that.. What I'm asking is what do you all think she should do? b/c if it was up to me.. I think all of this could've been avoided... but I don't think she should take the money.. I think she should think this one through & try to see how can she get him out the place.. with that said, inform him he has to move out & let him take his money & she could then get rid of the prepaid card... That's my opinion.. but she's not trying to hear that hahaha..
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What is she going to do about the apartment she helped him get? I'm assuming it's in her name since he doesn't have a SA#... Right?
I'm not sure if it is in her name.. She didn't specify if it was.. which I think if it was she would've mentioned that since his prepaid card has her name on the card.. So I'm guessing maybe.. I'll ask

I'm sure u can't get an apartment in ur name without a SS# unless it's one of those "ran down" places.

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Yea.. So I'm guessing it is in her name b/c he wouldn't need her to get a "ran-down-in-the-gutter" type of place .
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What is she going to do about the apartment she helped him get? I'm assuming it's in her name since he doesn't have a SA#... Right?
I'm not sure if it is in her name.. She didn't specify if it was.. which I think if it was she would've mentioned that since his prepaid card has her name on the card.. So I'm guessing maybe.. I'll ask

I'm sure u can't get an apartment in ur name without a SS# unless it's one of those "ran down" places.



Yea.. So I'm guessing it is in her name b/c he wouldn't need her to get a "ran-down-in-the-gutter" type of place .
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Smh... Then I suggest she talks to him to figure out how he's going to pay for that broken lease and cut off the card. Only way I would take the money from him is if he refuses to pay for the broken lease. That's me tho.
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She needs to understand her legal implication in the lease. Since he doesn't have a SSN, it's likely that she has the apt in her name only. Typically they make you list all adults who will live in the household, so either they let her have hi on the lease without a SSN or she lied and didn't put him on it at all. Either way, if he breaks the lease then she is going to be responsible. If it were me (and he is on the lease) I would let them know and try to get him to move out, see what can be done about the broken lease costs and try to get him to pay (he won't most likely). if he is not on the lease (or if the lease can't be broken) then I would let him know he needs to plan on moving out at the end of the lease, then give written notice to the place that she will not be renewing. Hopefully he won't destroy the place or not pay his rent. What a mess.

I would not touch that prepaid card! Morally it's wrong of course, but in addition he may panic and then move out and leave her stuck with that lease obligation completely. She needs to tread lightly and not be impulsive here, take the emotions out and look at the reality. The prepaid card is not going to mess up her credit and leave her with a bill to pay...the lease might:
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Posted by Gemoodeye1
She needs to understand her legal implication in the lease. Since he doesn't have a SSN, it's likely that she has the apt in her name only. Typically they make you list all adults who will live in the household, so either they let her have hi on the lease without a SSN or she lied and didn't put him on it at all. Either way, if he breaks the lease then she is going to be responsible. If it were me (and he is on the lease) I would let them know and try to get him to move out, see what can be done about the broken lease costs and try to get him to pay (he won't most likely). if he is not on the lease (or if the lease can't be broken) then I would let him know he needs to plan on moving out at the end of the lease, then give written notice to the place that she will not be renewing. Hopefully he won't destroy the place or not pay his rent. What a mess.

I would not touch that prepaid card! Morally it's wrong of course, but in addition he may panic and then move out and leave her stuck with that lease obligation completely. She needs to tread lightly and not be impulsive here, take the emotions out and look at the reality. The prepaid card is not going to mess up her credit and leave her with a bill to pay...the lease might:
Totally agree.. In my earlier response I explained something similar.. The main concern is how is she going to get rid of that Aprtmnt.. But the money thing.. Even if she didn't get the Aprtmnt for him... But did the prepaid card.. I still wouldn't touch his money.. It's just not right.. And not worth it.. I suggested that she should let him withdraw his money and discontinue the card... But this is a very sticky situation and I'm trying to see now what she's going to do with this apartment..
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I stopped reading at cap & aries, just no! Whatever it is my opinion is no, especially if it involves deception & stealing from what I've skimmed of the other posts
I don't really know much about Cap & Aries compatibility.. Why aren't they good?

Sorry just my personal opinion...Aries quick, caps slow

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I could see where your coming from.. After all they are a fire sign.. And caps are more earthy.. So I see