Pissed off cap - what can I do?

I have known my cap for over two years now. We've had a very loving and caring relationship but a very volatile one other times. I'm a leo and he tells me that he has volatile relationships with all leos. We mixed business and pleasure and blurred many boundaries. At the end of the first year I told him I couldn't see him any more and we parted ways; my walking away from him and the business. It was truly one of the hardest things I've ever done. Ten months later he came back telling me he wanted me back, romantically and business wise. Said all the right things at the time. As more and more time passed though, I saw, through his actions that he wasn't following through. So the arguing began again. You would think that, with this, I would just walk away again. It wasn't as easy this time...actually impossible. He ended up hiring someone, another woman, to take the job responsibilities he originally offered me. At that time I had been under contract with another job and couldn't start helping him until later. Apparently he couldn't wait. He's been very secretive about this other woman. I've been suspicious about their involvement and this eventually led me to make plans to meet with her last weekend, without his knowledge. From my meeting with her I know she is interested in him romantically and she wouldn't share much with me. She, of course, then turned around and told him that she and I met. He immediately and completely cut me off. Blocked me through his phone after ignoring several texts and calls and will not reply to my emails. I know he's not blocked me on those as I get no bounce back when I send them.

I've explained to him why I did what I did. I've apologized. I've shared other emotions with him to just trying to get him to respond. Nothing. Zip. Nada.

He has NEVER cut me off, ever. I was already in a bad place because of where we were but now I'm over the edge and beyond heartbroken.

What do I/can I do. ANY inside info on what might be going on will help ease my mind and heart. I'm not doing a very good job myself not losing it.

Please help...

Yea I would be done too. I could see a phone call but a secret meeting.

What did you say to her? I can only imagine.

I can tell you from experience. My ex-husband would go weeks without speaking to me and we were under the same roof. It was like I was invisible.

Give him some time. This is not something you get over in a day or two. I am sure the people in his life are all telling him to stay away from you.

You just gave this other woman the in she was waiting for.

You did nothing wrong because you did it out of love for him and insecurity. There is no way you cannot be excused. If a man cuts you off for this it means he desposes of women easily: there are porblems with this one, next one please! Could be a Cap thing or not, who cares?! F... the selfish thing I`d say and try to move on as soon as you can. A little revenge exercise would not hurt..if you are capable of doing it...

Men like that deserve to be treated like shit, what they are in practice.

Sounds to me like he's guilty of something. Kind of an over reaction, don't you think?

Yes, what she did was sneaky and backhanded, but to cut her off like that from everything? Kind of much. Seems to me like a defence mechanism on the cap's part.

That said, it's not a health relationship and you should find someone more suited for you. Arguments are not fun and they come with too much drama. Leo's might like the drama, but caps definitely don't. So, meeting up with the girl wa a way to find out information you wouldn't ask him about was a little dramatic, don't you think?

And admit your suspicions arise because he fooled around you at the office and you think he was fooling around with her based on the past history.

And now the whole work world is up in turmoil. Because of you? Because of him? Because of her? Doesn't matter. This is why most caps don't fool around at the office.

And, he brought this on himself.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
someone seems bitter ^^^^^^^^

No, not at all.

I see his over reaction as a self defense mechanism. Deflect what he's doing wrong onto what she's done wrong.

Deny and turn it back around so she's the one in the wrong. Caps do that when they're guilty.

Oh, I agree with you TS, though. Sorry, Taylor, it's over.

You're better off, though.

Caps are just mean!!!! lol

I dont get long with them :"( lol male or female

Why did you meet her? Like seriously, you sound unhinged. He should be the one you're dealing with, it has nothing to do with her. Yeah, he won't be forgiving this, not because it's not doable.... Because it's absurd!

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
someone seems bitter ^^^^^^^^

No, not at all.

I see his over reaction as a self defense mechanism. Deflect what he's doing wrong onto what she's done wrong.

Deny and turn it back around so she's the one in the wrong. Caps do that when they're guilty.

I posted too late, my bitter post was in regards to Asha and her little speel about revenge.

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Oh, okay. It's all good. I was hoping I didn't come across as bitter. 🙂

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Why did you meet her? Like seriously, you sound unhinged. He should be the one you're dealing with, it has nothing to do with her. Yeah, he won't be forgiving this, not because it's not doable.... Because it's absurd!

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Exactly!

I'm a Leo also and even I think you went too far.

someone seems bitter ^^^^^^^^

Hey! Bitter, no. Rather, annoyed by what sounds like injustice to a fellow fire sign 🙂

Otherwise I am still contemplating to ditch the same Cap 🙂 😉(quick update)

Posted by truecap
Sounds to me like he's guilty of something. Kind of an over reaction, don't you think?

Yes, what she did was sneaky and backhanded, but to cut her off like that from everything? Kind of much. Seems to me like a defence mechanism on the cap's part.

That said, it's not a health relationship and you should find someone more suited for you. Arguments are not fun and they come with too much drama. Leo's might like the drama, but caps definitely don't. So, meeting up with the girl wa a way to find out information you wouldn't ask him about was a little dramatic, don't you think?

And admit your suspicions arise because he fooled around you at the office and you think he was fooling around with her based on the past history.

And now the whole work world is up in turmoil. Because of you? Because of him? Because of her? Doesn't matter. This is why most caps don't fool around at the office.

That's what I'm thinking too, that he's guilty of something. Actually having met with her now I have a few things I know he's guilty of. I think too he's embarrassed about her because she's not as good at the job as I was and now he's stuck with her. Caps are loyal so he won't let her go.

Agreed...it's not healthy and I'd been working on letting him go for the 10 months we were apart. It was when he showed up again that I realized how much I still loved him. Doesn't mean he's good for me or me for him but the love is there. BTW - I hate drama. I met with her to get answers he wasn't providing. I'd asked several times but to no avail. With our history and what he (initially) wanted from me with his return to my life I felt I was owed the truth. The entire event (meeting with her) made me nauseous.

As for being suspicious...absolutely. Did I find out if they were together; sure did. At least it started that way between them. She said within a month though it moved into a business thing. I could tell watching and listening to her talk about him that she's still very much into him. I'm left to conclude with his silence that likely he's guilty. Just don't know if it's for current events or past events.

Funny you talk about most caps not fooling around at the office. I had suspicions about other women he was working with while we were together and he used to say that no, he wouldn't fool around with them because he learned that lesson with me.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
I'm sorry, but I wouldn't trust you after that. I'm not a cap....but still, you were being sneaky and untrustworthy.

It's over.

Zilch.

Nada.

Don't pass go.

Done and dusted.

Could be that's how it plays out. He knows me well. I guess I'd like to think he understands why I did it.

Posted by Nala13
Yea I would be done too. I could see a phone call but a secret meeting.

What did you say to her? I can only imagine.

I can tell you from experience. My ex-husband would go weeks without speaking to me and we were under the same roof. It was like I was invisible.

Give him some time. This is not something you get over in a day or two. I am sure the people in his life are all telling him to stay away from you.

You just gave this other woman the in she was waiting for.

I hate being on the phone. Also, body language is half the conversation.

What did I say...surprisingly nothing bad. I said that from a business standpoint he was driven, determined and would be quite successful one day. She explained to me all the things she had concerns about. Some of these things she brought up I agreed with her that he could handle things differently. But otherwise I just discussed with her what she brought up.

I have no choice but to wait now. While it was unbearable earlier this week it seems to be subsiding some now.

Sadly...I did give her (probably) what she was waiting for.

We'll see affter some time he will be willing to talk.

Posted by asha
You did nothing wrong because you did it out of love for him and insecurity. There is no way you cannot be excused. If a man cuts you off for this it means he desposes of women easily: there are porblems with this one, next one please! Could be a Cap thing or not, who cares?! F... the selfish thing I`d say and try to move on as soon as you can. A little revenge exercise would not hurt..if you are capable of doing it...

Men like that deserve to be treated like shit, what they are in practice.

Asha...thank you. As a fellow fire sign you do understand how I negotiated with myself that what I was doing with meeting her, was the right thing. And you're nailing it on the head as to why I've been so devastated this week. How could "dispose" of me so quickly.

No revenge. I think the meeting her, without his knowledge was some form of revenge for him for not telling me about her when I asked him. All done now.

Posted by truecap
And, he brought this on himself.

I think so too!!!!

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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
someone seems bitter ^^^^^^^^

No, not at all.

I see his over reaction as a self defense mechanism. Deflect what he's doing wrong onto what she's done wrong.

Deny and turn it back around so she's the one in the wrong. Caps do that when they're guilty.

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Thank you for the insight.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Why did you meet her? Like seriously, you sound unhinged. He should be the one you're dealing with, it has nothing to do with her. Yeah, he won't be forgiving this, not because it's not doable.... Because it's absurd!

I'm not unhinged. He wouldn't provide the information so I shifted to another source.

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Why did you meet her?

Yeah, I'm curious about this as well. Why go through her? She's his employee and yes, she's not going to say much about him because he's her employer. I would have been suspicious of the meeting if I was in her place and definitely would have been secretive about what I divulged. It doesn't necessarily mean that there's something going on.

Your actions show that you don't trust him, he was your business partner/love. What happened there?

But yes, I do agree that he's overreacted. Maybe give him some time to let the smoke clear. How long has it been?

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You are correct...I do not trust him. You'll note I've included that in a few of my replies thus far. We had issues the first year. This time around I did note some improvement but still suspected he wasn't being completely open. Maybe this spurred the meeting.

It's been a week. For two people who usually text and talk on the pone most of the day, everyday this week has felt like a year.

Posted by CluelessCancer
If the Aqua is interested in him romantically its because the Capricorn has shown her interest. Women don't just show interest in men out of the blue, unless they been tight for a long time, usually men are forward initially.

go with your instincts leo, this cap is a not for you, let him sleep with a cold marble.

my leo placements understand why you did what you did, but that's the stuff that makes one go crazy.

don't let a man make you go crazy. Let the Motherfuker go.

I shared in an earlier reply that they met dating but within a month moved it to business, so she said.

Careful, you're going to get the other to call me unhinged again. As I said, I'm not, but yes, his behavior drives me batshit.

I think more time will lead me in the direction you suggest - he's not for me.

Posted by tiziani
Just sounds like revenge to me. He played the long game.

Could be. He's had lots of practice at how to play this game...I have not.

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Posted by 1742taylor

It feels like he's a user ... that he seems to be looking for the potential business value of the ladies he meets? 😢

I hope I'm wrong. 😢

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I'd like to think not. You could have a point though.

Posted by noname
"it's only business, nothing personal" *click"

lol. sorry. can't help it.

I'm taking that as funny. Thanks as I needed that 🙂

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Why did you meet her? Like seriously, you sound unhinged. He should be the one you're dealing with, it has nothing to do with her. Yeah, he won't be forgiving this, not because it's not doable.... Because it's absurd!

I'm not unhinged. He wouldn't provide the information so I shifted to another source.

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If the person you are interested in doesn't provide you with the information you are asking, it's because he doesn't want you to know, he doesn't want to share with you and he doesn't take you seriously. You can FBI it all you want, he's still not going to give a damn.

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