Please if anyone can help, this cap guy is driving me crazy!!!

Hello everyone,

my name is Kate (cancer) and I've been dating this Capricorn guy since 2015.

In between we broke up twice and we got back together after I looked up for him.

He always tells me that he really appreciates that I'm the one looking for him, because he needs to see that I really love him.

We got back last month because I was again the one trying to fix things even though I know that not everything has been my fault.

Everything seemed to be great and after 20 days of happiness he vanished again, I started calling and texting but he ignored me... after he replied that he has depression and needs to be alone... I gave him space but no news from him at all.

Today I text him and I told him that if he doesn't want to be with me, to be honest and simply say it and I won't bother him... but his reply is that he loves me and he needs to settle things with himself.

To be honest I'm going crazy, I don't know anymore how to behave and what to do?!

Can you understand what Is it going on? Because for me it's like a puzzle, I feel he doesn't care about me, having me or not in his life it's not important. But when I ask him to say yes or no he says "no, I love you".

Any advice will be appreciated!

Thank you

I've read that Cap men need space of their own and tend to disappear for long periods of time to think things through.

Not my experience though. My Cap (probably not anymore though) never needed this "time-out". Or rather, never asked for one.

Until he did. And this one "time-out" might be a definitive one.

But the difference between the "time-out" for thinking and definitive one is that: he said he loves you and wants to be with you. I believe he would never say anything like that if he didn't believe it. Caps are actually rather honest most of the time.

So my advice is "just give him time". Something I failed to do so and now my dreams of happy life are sooo gone.

Btw: If you are an active one in relationships, this "giving him time" is just a fucking torture..

Give him space to deal with his own issues

At least he has been direct with you about that

Focus on your life, interests, hobbies etc in this time to take your mind off the relationship

Keep in mind that both of you are opposites. It can work but may not be easy going

Don't now if this is a good advice but try this. https://www.quora.com/Why-do-Capricorns-pull-away