Shall I give up?

Have posted about this Cap before , he keeps confusing me and I'm really wondering whether I should just give up.
We're both divorced , in our early and late forties,I'm older, he has 3 children , I have 2. We're both teachers but I'm his line manager. We've met exactly a year ago ( with a "BAM eye contact..was scary) started carefully and cautiously seeing/dating each other since May. Over the summer holidays the contact became more frequent and personal and since then we're close ,we've talked, laughed, cried, went out, share interests, feelings, emotions and spent two weekends with all kids - his come to my house-we cook for each other, etc. etc. So, all the ingredients for a solid relationship BUT no sex...Last week was VERY intense, we spend almost each day and evening together including the whole weekend . To me ( I'm a Leo by the way) it was the perfect last phase towards the beginning of a "real" romantic relationship, including sex ( had this feeling before but he run to his cave) ....and he did it again...POOF...should I give up? i feel that I'm wasting my time by waiting for him . I do love him and I think he loves me...but isn't this taking too long?? How patient should I be—? It's been 5 months of gradual bonding....I'm attractive, so the only thing I can think of that I'm not his "type " and that he sees me as a good friend he can share his life with until he meets "the one"...

We do hug intensely , he does wrap his arm around me (sometimes..) , kiss on cheeks and one time we almost touched lips ..he didn't know how fast he had to dive in the car ( with his kids in it) ...I've never met a man so "scared" of physical contact..my male friends with no romantic feelings at all are more physical and consistent...

Oh, and his mars is in Pisces...would that make a differences? I would love some reactions from Cap males here!

So, he could be scared because he thinks he's a loser? Could be... We're both"difficult ". He might consider himself a loser. He left his marriage and wife with three kids ( so, he's 'the guilty" one) , he lives in a very very modest apartment , doesn't have money because he still supports his ex wife and kids and pays for their house. He can't really take me out ( either I pay or we share) . He is working very hard though to earn money with his art. He's attractive but I know he's insecure about his appearance - nonsense!- and he thinks I like tall, dark haired, blue eyed men ( my ex) and he's the opposite. I'm successful, live in a big house, attractive , money etc. etc. n the outside I have everything to scare men off but he knows that inside I'm not like that....Do you really think, he thinks he's not worthy of me??! But then again, I have my uncertainties ...what man would like to be romantically involved with his 6 years older line manager, who has everything in the material sense? I know he "admires" me, I can see that in his eyes...so why not a next step? Why the backing off every time as to avoid a next step?

Important question.


Why did he leave his wife and kids?

Hm. You might be right. Once, when he was rather depressed , I asked him how he felt he said: " how did I deserve this? I'm so grateful that I've met you!" I took that as being overly polite and appreciative and within myself I thought that he was exaggerating because I don't consider myself that special. I think that HE is special, creative, caring, sweet and touching people's ( and mine) souls. And why would you erase someone from your life when you feel happier with that person? When we were together with all our kids we had so much fun and he told me that it was a long time ago that he felt that way. The week after we were intensely close and happy , missed each other when we were not together ( so found an excuse to be together again...) and now he's withdrawing...I'm so confused ...
And..this one is for you; if someone loves you, they don't care how you look or how much you earn or what you do/did.. As long you have that "something" that makes them love you!!

Another woman....(I know!)

Posted by YS1
Another woman....(I know!)

Ok... Was it you?

Again, important...

Nope...this was 5years ago..

Is he hoping to reconcile with his wife? He's definitely holding back if he's truly single.

If all the chemistry is right, why haven't you asked him?

No, I don't think so. They both used to live in country A. She moved with kids to country B. He stayed with the other woman in country A. A year ago he moved to my country (C.) to be closer to his children. He still feels very responsible for his ex , feels guilty but (according to what he tells me) doesn't love her. I do think he's holding back , the only reason I can think of either he wants to be VERY sure, so not to make the same mistake or because I'm his line manager or because I'm older... For the rest we match perfectly! Even our children!!

Older?line manager? Capricorn moon... Wouldn't you be scared?

He's not gay....or he hid a very long time in the closet...I do think he's scared but don't know how to approach it, because I'm insecure too. As I said; I'm older but most and for all..I'm his line manager on top...( no pun intended!🙂... Imagine that I would make a move and he doesn't want to...that would be my biggest night mare!

So, if he's afraid that I think that he's not good enough for me or simply scared to make an obvious move...what do I do? Maybe I scare the hell out of him if I do ( I would scare the hell out of me!) . We again had a lovely weekend with our children, as if it should have been that way...I'm tired of the waiting for who is going to contact who? Would it be ok to ask him over? Although we manage to meet up very regularly it's always wishy-washy in between with a lot of beating around the bush...I've read up on men with mars in Pisces ...would that be the problem?

OMG! I am in the exact same situation!! Hes a capricorn, Im a pisces, we have never been married, but still, this is how my capricorn is behaving too! Saying he doesnt deserve me, and that hes no good for me, and that I deserve better, and that hes scared to hurt me, etc etc.

Ive seen a few threads on mars in pisces and initiating sex. Other people experienced this too.

My guy has mars in pisces. I have always been forward and he doesn't seem to mind. He's always been receptive to it. I think mars in pisces isn't going to initiate sex unless they know you want it. Like they don't want to push it on you. Once they know youre into it, the playtime is on. Mars in pisces are true gentlemen. So, my advice is just come out and initiate. Don't jump his bones, but reach out gently and touch it.

This is interesting because I do understand the capricorn traits of this man but something doesn't really "fit". He's very non-sexual, not only with me but also in the way he approaches other woman. I first thought he was rather fickle and flirted around. He's friendly, makes compliments but as it appeared NO sexual interest at all. How did you know HE was interested in YOU? I know he likes me as a friend a lot, he refers to us as "we" but I cant figure out whether I will make an utter fool of myself and scare him to death if I would initiate ....he's so wishy washy, so physically detached and polite..I know he loves me, he would do anything for me for better or for worse and loyal but....I get no clues whether he is IN love with me...it feels as if we skipped the "in love step" in our relationship and went straight to the "love".

I would give up YS1 and find someone that wants to rip your clothes off. This r/ship is too nicey nice, everybody needs passion.