So I probably fucked up lol

OK so me and my Cap crush have gotten closer and he's been very sweet to me over the last I'd say month. You know like fussing over me when I'm sick cheering me on that kind of thing. Well he came to my show Saturday and before that he found out my parents are coming and he asked if they could sit with him and during intermission he went up to my dad and introduced him self and we hugged after the show he was very sweet tell me I was amazing and I looked amazing. He sent me a picture of us that we took that night the next day and he called me an angel *blush* then today he was stuck in the office and he came over and he did this thing he always does when he wants me to know something he says it casually and laughs about it but this time he was saying that for our company newsletter they sent all the 30+ people who are single a survey asking why they were single so basically I feel like you want to me to know he was single. So I asked him I said how's dating going and he said it was non existent and I asked why he changed the subject twice and I said you evaded the subject again and he. It his lip and tilted his head to the side and Blushingly soaps I don't know. Not even 10 minutes later he was like so where are we going to get lunch. I was taken aback and was like I don't know he was like well you got 15 minutes to decide, terrible thing to do to Libra by the way. I was like let's go to Wendy's and then go to the park. So we went set in the car listening music topped and watch the ducks it was really nice. So on the way back I was like so why are you single and he basically was saying that people play games and he hasn't been in a relationship for four years asked him if he was still in love with her he was like no it's been a while. He said I'm content for the most part but then again I'm not. If you would have asked me a couple years ago I would have said I would have would've been married with kids at 30. He said "I don't know what I want but does anyone really know what they want." then he said again people play games how hard is it to say I like you let's go out and if you don't like each other you say I'm not interested and go your separate ways. So in my head I'm thinking well you haven't done that with me so maybe that means you don't like me.

We get back to the office And I decided to write him a note. It was really stupid and it said something to the effect "OK I am asking you in all sincerity in old-school fourth grade form do you like me check yes or no. I know this is cowardly of me but you did say one should just ask." "It is OK if you don't like me, I am just tired of wondering how you feel about me."

So at the end of the day I gave it to him and said oh hey you have mail. And he said no I don't and starts laughing he's like wait this looks like it's from you and I said don't open until you get in the car he tried open it so I grabbed it back and he's laughing and I made him pinky promise that he would open it and he pinky promise and they ran off in the corner like he was going to open it and so I ran away LOL he then went To his car and I watched him sit there out of the window but I couldn't tell if he opened it and I haven't heard from him all night I'm afraid he's gonna tell me what he thinks face-to-face at work I hope I can handle it. Do you think he won't want to be friends anymore?

@dolluxe It's been almost a year of the flirts how long do y'all need damn it! I kind of hope he does reject me that way I can just move on . Maybe my Sag Venus was being self sabotaging in that way. Also I know I would've been obsessing over lunch trip for another month i'm just tired of the uncertainty,

You're fine. Just relax and see what tomorrow brings. You might be pleasantly surprised

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You're fine. Just relax and see what tomorrow brings. You might be pleasantly surprised

I'll try to stay positive but I'm not sure what I'm gonna do if he straight up ignores me.

Posted by tiziani
"It is OK if you don't like me"



Always made me wince when people throw in a line like that, but I'm not a Cap.

Ugh that mine does sound guilt trippy as hell I only meant and then I hope we can still be friends and that he doesn't the weird maybe I should've said that . Sigh

Posted by Capri-sun
Ok I will spell this out for you. HE LIKES YOU

Now I need you to put your big girl panties on and have some confidence in yourself and in his interest.

Believe in yourself 🙂

Hypothetically if he says he likes you, does that make you relax or more comfortable? Just curious

Yes if he said yes I like you I would chill the fuck out I will be completely calm but he starts being sweet to me in a different way and I lose my effing mind Lol

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You're fine. Just relax and see what tomorrow brings. You might be pleasantly surprised

I'll try to stay positive but I'm not sure what I'm gonna do if he straight up ignores me.

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If he does it's his loss! You're an amazing and beautiful person.

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@dolluxe It's been almost a year of the flirts how long do y'all need damn it! I kind of hope he does reject me that way I can just move on . Maybe my Sag Venus was being self sabotaging in that way. Also I know I would've been obsessing over lunch trip for another month i'm just tired of the uncertainty,

Maybe I'm just old fashioned but I always believed that if a man really wants to be with me, he WILL make it happen.

I would drop hints here and there that I like him but I guess I've always been too shy to make the first move. Fear of rejection 🙂

Technically she isn't making the first move. She's just looking for verbal confirmation rather than accepting his actions.

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Do you think maybe he hasn't responded because he is annoyed at me for not taking his actions as confirmation?

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@dolluxe It's been almost a year of the flirts how long do y'all need damn it! I kind of hope he does reject me that way I can just move on . Maybe my Sag Venus was being self sabotaging in that way. Also I know I would've been obsessing over lunch trip for another month i'm just tired of the uncertainty,

Maybe I'm just old fashioned but I always believed that if a man really wants to be with me, he WILL make it happen.

I would drop hints here and there that I like him but I guess I've always been too shy to make the first move. Fear of rejection 🙂

Some women prefer to do the choosing rather than wait to be chosen. I admire the boldness of a woman who goes for what she wants.

Like you I'm similarly passive natured. And what has that got me?

I admire those kind of women too. I just can't see myself doing it. Like what if my crush rejects me? How am I supposed to face him or talk to him? If he rejects me I'd probably hide when I see him coming my way. Yes... I'm THAT crappy at this whole thing. Lol

I get it. My approach is similar to yours. But now that I'm in my 30s I am less shy about going for what I want.

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Same here, you get to a point like F it and take the bull by the horns ?

I'm sure He likes you! You sound very sweet & so does he. Keep us posted

Ugh so he did have to be out an hour away in the field this morning but 5 minutes after I came in he ran out the door and drove to the job site there was not note left behind :/.

don't despair - and don't show you are anxious

truly, if this isn't the one, then you know what you need to do and that is find that one ! I mean you want the one, right, not the wrong one ...

Posted by tcta
don't despair - and don't show you are anxious

truly, if this isn't the one, then you know what you need to do and that is find that one ! I mean you want the one, right, not the wrong one ...

You are right there is someone for everyone!

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Posted by tcta
don't despair - and don't show you are anxious

truly, if this isn't the one, then you know what you need to do and that is find that one ! I mean you want the one, right, not the wrong one ...

You are right there is someone for everyone!

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so no matter which way this turns, you know that it does need to turn - you need an answer - no more pussyfooting around (did I just say that old word?lol)

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don't despair - and don't show you are anxious

truly, if this isn't the one, then you know what you need to do and that is find that one ! I mean you want the one, right, not the wrong one ...

You are right there is someone for everyone!

so no matter which way this turns, you know that it does need to turn - you need an answer - no more pussyfooting around (did I just say that old word?lol)

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Lmao yes you did I actually have a dance for that word

Posted by Capri-sun
I have no intention of giving you false hope. I get awkward around the one I like. When I'm normal is when the feeling isn't mutual. You have to keep in mind:

-don't like verbal expression

-don't like feelings

-he was already trying to sort himself yesterday on what he wanted when you kept asking him why he's single.

If he reacted any way except awkward I would say be concerned. I often see the world backgrounds from everyone else so keep that in mind as reading my post. Seriously hope I'm not wrong on this one.

Like tcta said at the very least you'll be done with this dance either way. I applaud you for asking for clarity and going after who & what you want.

+1

Awkward is a good word for them! It can be kinda cute when it's not confusing!

Ok so he still hasn't said yes or no but he brought me cannolis in for my birthday and gave me a big hug❤️❤️❤️. Earlier in the week a friend tag me in a post saying it's amazing what Sam will do for a cannoli" so he must have seen it lol

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Anything new happen yet? Someone text me a yes, no, or maybe note yesterday and it made me think of you. I answered mine. Did he answer his?

Oo did you say yes no or maybe?!

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Ok so he still hasn't said yes or no but he brought me cannolis in for my birthday and gave me a big hug❤️❤️❤️. Earlier in the week a friend tag me in a post saying it's amazing what Sam will do for a cannoli" so he must have seen it lol

I'm on my mobile for the rest of the day so I can't make you a proper thread. Hopefully someone will. Happy Birthday! Enjoy the food 😉

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Aww thanks Tiz!!

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Anything new happen yet? Someone text me a yes, no, or maybe note yesterday and it made me think of you. I answered mine. Did he answer his?

Oo did you say yes no or maybe?!

I said yes lol. Only thing is yes I like him. I just don't want to be with him. We work together 😢

He's only seperated from his wife, and he's a major flirt, lots of ladies at work like him and they can get messy & catty sometimes.

When he was 1st pursuing me a couple years ago, I was talking with a friend of mine when he drove by and she tells me "oh he wants me so bad, and I would have him if I wasn't married" so that turned me off from taking him seriously.

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Aww yeah he fucked that up it's sad because he probably really likes you now and it would take a lot to fix the perception you have of him.so did you tell him the reasons why or just let it go?

Omg I just thought what if they are pity cannolis! ?

@ladylibra21

I have been following this and it seems to me that both of you want give it a shot but neither wants to go first. He appears to analyzing the hell out of the situation (I'm projecting here because I used to do this) and you seem to be anxiously waiting for him to figure the answer he has already alluded to. Hopefully, your patience will be massively rewarded. I just hope one of you takes a leap of faith before resentment rears its ugly head.

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@ladylibra21

I have been following this and it seems to me that both of you want give it a shot but neither wants to go first. He appears to analyzing the hell out of the situation (I'm projecting here because I used to do this) and you seem to be anxiously waiting for him to figure the answer he has already alluded to. Hopefully, your patience will be massively rewarded. I just hope one of you takes a leap of faith before resentment rears its ugly head.

I'm basically saying oh me big daddy and he ain't budging LOL

As a fellow Libra trying to reel in a Capricorn, I am right there with ya sister!

In general, when I like someone and they seem to be receiving my energy but there hasn't been verbal communication confirming their feelings, I feel so antsy and frustrated. I am so chill once I KNOW what the deal is.

With this one Capricorn, I told him I liked him through text one night and digs about how he doesn't make as much time for me. After seeing no response the next morning, I just played it off and said it was a drunk text 😢 his response was cool as a cucumber, ugh. Such love/hate feelings towards these guys, my goodness. Am hanging with him tomm in his 5-7 time slot that he gave me...such a capricorn, lmao.