Old love

I have been with my Capricorn husband for 5 1/2 years. He has a son with his ex who is now 13. I have always felt like I'm competing with his ex and that there is more respect there than with our relationship. Every time they have an activity together with their son, he comes back home frisky and in a hyper mood. He is not like that when his son comes over for a weekend. Seems like he has new life breathed into him. Its the only time it happens. So, it has made me think for a while that he still harbors feelings and wants to get back with her. Even in the beginning, I had to get him to stop getting ready for work over at her place every now and then. Am I crazy?

Any suggestions as to what I should do as I have brought up concerns before?

This doesn't sit right with me... Flags going up

Posted by Seraphlight
Why did he want to get ready for work over there?

I don't want to alarm you. But .. do you think they are having an affair?

My question as well. 😢

He doesn't do it anymore. It was a thing he used to do when we first started dating. He saw how odd it was and doesn't do it anymore. Its just the slapping my ass when he comes home when he hasn't done anything like that for a while.

He says that he realizes what he has and is grateful when he comes home.

You may be overthinking things...😢

I guess I just don't understand why he wouldn't do it consistently if he really appreciated me. Why does it take him being around his ex? And I don't think about it, I have two kids of my own that keep me busy and occupied lol. Just wish I could make him energetic like that whether she's makes him feel it in a good or bad way.

Honestly, I hope I am over thinking. Just really like it when he's frisky but it feels tainted when its only after being around her.

Lol maybe I need to show him how much I appreciate how he's appreciative

OK, thank you guys. You have made me feel better.

Posted by Dolphinlover4286
Honestly, I hope I am over thinking. Just really like it when he's frisky but it feels tainted when its only after being around her.

Yeah, I can understand that. Perhaps you just have a different (not lesser) effect on him than she does, and there's nothing wrong with that.

I think him being hyper and frisky is a dead give away. You are not reading too much into it at all, unfortunately.

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Posted by Dolphinlover4286
Honestly, I hope I am over thinking. Just really like it when he's frisky but it feels tainted when its only after being around her.

Yeah, I can understand that. Perhaps you just have a different (not lesser) effect on him than she does, and there's nothing wrong with that.

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Now this is true too.

Why don't you join him when he does activities with his ex. Also check his phone. Get the truth. Find your answers

Posted by Dolphinlover4286
Honestly, I hope I am over thinking. Just really like it when he's frisky but it feels tainted when its only after being around her.

well as well all know

caps get frisky around the woman they love (inlove passionately with)

so i dont see why u looking for answers elsewhere when its infront of u

remember ther are many types of love

friend love

pity love

and so on

but all signs only get hyper around the passionate love.common sense

Whether he still harbor feelings or not isn't really important. That woman gave him his son, and nothing will ever change that.

I think what matters is that, whatever his feelings are, he's taking them out on you.

If a man is arousef my another woman, that's something that isn't in your control. The fact that he intentionally chooses not to act on those feelings with another woman, and gets it out of his system with you, as unromantic as it sounds, is actually a testsament to his faithfulness.

The same reason anyone doesn't express themselves a certain way consistently. For example, is there something you haven't done for your husband that you know he loves?

Have you spoken to your husband about all of this? Your assumptions is causing you grief and I think an honest conversation with him will alleviate the monsters your imagination is creating.

Posted by Dolphinlover4286
He doesn't do it anymore. It was a thing he used to do when we first started dating. He saw how odd it was and doesn't do it anymore. Its just the slapping my ass when he comes home when he hasn't done anything like that for a while.

Sometimes when you spend a routine amount of time together, it feels good catching a break to actually get a chance to miss your partner. Which is why I assume he feels giddy coming back to you. But that's me