Someone HELP! PLEASE!

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If a cappy is interested in a woman and wants to find out if she's going out or seeing anyone how would they go about finding out in a discreet way? We all know that cappies would NEVER come out and ask the question point blank soooo would they sneakly (I hate to use this term w/this particular guy but I need to know!) inquire about "your social life" to find out if you're "available"?

I can't figure this guy out to SAVE MY LIFE! He is the epitome of a cappy, both sun and moon. Very quiet, shy, reserved and cautious. It's what I love about him so much but emotionally (which I've come to understand) he gives out double messages. I also know that he's fearful as well.

Is he interested in me or is he just being socially nice by inquiring about "my social life"? We've known each other for a long time. Been intimate "as friends" in the past but he's presently unhappily married. Is he just afraid?

I'd love to hear from the guys as well on this one. I'll be posting this on all the other boards as well. What a mystery and puzzle this guy is.
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I do feel that all Cappies are different. They do have basic qualities about them but can vary in many ways. I have a Cappy male friend that I have known for many years. I think it takes them awhile to open themselves up but when they feel comfortable with you and trust you, they will. My cappy guy friend will ask me anything! However, if it is about really deep feelings he is scared but he does tell me that. I understand and in time, if he needs to he will express himself. I have learned the art of patience with my friend. He is who he is and I know I cannot change him. If I cannot handle his "quirky" ways, then I move on....he is too dear to me to ever move out of my life. We are friends and it is wonderful. Oh, we have our moments when we don't talk for a long time. At first this used to bother me and now, I just go on with my life as I know I can not get the days back by sulking. What is meant to be, will be. Trust this and let go of results of your relationship. Watch the magic unfold, the mystery of life, him and yourself. Life is about discovery. We "out here" can give you our suggestions but in all reality, you must follow YOUR heart and travel your specific path that is unique to you and what you need to learn. I wish you the best of luck with your Cappy...enjoy all your moments with him. 🙂

Aries...
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Wow this guy sounds like he has a couple of virgo traits because you got his description down to a "T".And you say that he's unhappily married.Well if he calls for a divorce from his wife, don't jump the gun on him.Give him time.If he needs someone to talk to when time progresses, then you might jump on him.Like virgos, cappy guys are secretive so go easy on him.