The Dark Side

Dark moods can be hard. Particularly of the capricorn variety. So let's talk about it.

They are amazingly hard to navigate, are they not? they deserve a lot of attention, introspection, assessment, psycho-analysis, etc...

BUT ...not to the point of glorification! I think we can all agree about that. It's one of our more obvious traits. Mysterious I suppose. It eludes even ourselves. But let's face... it sucks. REALLY. BAD.

what are some of the triggers you've pinpointed? something emotional? embarrassing? hurtful? something you did to yourself perhaps? a choice you made and regret? something completely out of your control?

how deep do you sink? what do you do to come back to the light? how much do you close yourself off? how hard has it been in some instances to snap out of it?

I'm not sure about the rest of the dxp cap community but this is something that happens on the regular with me. i always get this feeling that the perfect life is the only thing that would keep me from these moods... that honestly feel very destructive to me.

that said... if it's a part of me that will just keep happening... better ways of coping are in order...

P-Angel said the following in another thread on another forum. It always seems more profound coming from someone else and not just myself or a fellow cap...

Posted by P-Angel

The only thing that stands out to me in my limited experience with Cappies, is their uncontrollable sadness. They appear to fall into depths of depression, without much, if any, power to stop themselves.

Then I realized that in their despair is where they grow .... so, this State of Being is imperative for them, if they expect to grasp understandings of their life.

Do you guys feel that you grow in these moods?





In many of them, I feel I do grow. but some of them, I feel were just a complete waste of my damn time... in which case a feeling of self-loathing has become another emotion that I have to nip in the bud somehow.

I hear ya! I get like this too. Something hurtful, most likely imagined, will happen and my mind starts to overthink and think some more. It's like a virus of negative thoughts that just build off each other and multiply. Eventually, I analyze my way through it and am okay again.

I usually do grow from it. Mostly it is the realization that things are actually pretty good and life is not as bad as what my mind conjured up what it could be through that dark time. Without the dark thoughts, I don't think I would appreciate the good, positive and happy things.

I am continually trying to challenge myself to find the positive in everything as a preventative measure, but sometimes the negative wins and the process begins.

whoever said "you are your own worst enemy" HAD to have been a capricorn.

i try to analyze my way through negativity too, truecap, but as much as i try to come off positive and content... sometimes i'm fighting a battle. and sometimes i'm losing it.

very true... it's never AS bad as I'm making it out to be for myself. ever. and when i'm in the pits of one of these moods, i try to remind myself that.

what's been saving me lately is simply not caring, or caring much much less, about my own standards. caring is damn exhausting.

...or my standards are exhausting.

you are sharing to much!

Ive just come to accept that it will most likely always be a part of my nature. I never feel 100% and half the time I dont allow that for myself. The worst feeling is not being able to pinpoint it, but that lets me know its out of my control, so what can you do but ride the wave?

Even if i had everything i wanted, i dont see that making me feel much different. Life is too unpredictable. At any moment a rug can be pulled from under and completely alter your reality. Maybe thats where it stems from. The constant reminder that you can never ever get too comfortable...with anything or anyone. It all can be taken away at any moment. I think many of us almost prepare for it.

Posted by CreepyPants
P-Angel said the

following in another thread on another forum. It always seems more profound coming from someone else and not just

myself or a fellow cap...

Posted by P-Angel

The only thing that stands out to me in my limited experience with Cappies, is their uncontrollable sadness. They

appear to fall into depths of depression, without much, if any, power to stop themselves.

Then I realized that in their despair is where they grow .... so, this State of Being is imperative for them, if

they expect to grasp understandings of their life.

Do you guys feel that you grow in these moods?





In many of them, I feel I do grow. but some of them, I feel were just a complete waste of my damn time... in

which case a feeling of self-loathing has become another emotion that I have to nip in the bud

somehow.

Quote from the astrology

Loneliness affects them dramatically

--
It's not bad that it's bad. It's bad that bad life is ok life for most of the people around.
So treat pplz like a **** They deserve it.

You don't want so much drama for anything. People want so much drama for everything coz that is the only thang

they can get.

So don't be dark. I can't stand it.

Posted by CreepyPants
whoever said "you are

your own worst enemy" HAD to have been a capricorn.

NO

Posted by CreepyPants
about my own standards.

caring is damn exhausting.

...or my standards are exhausting.

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F*** You are awesome.

Posted by Serginho
you are sharing to much!

it's cathartic! 😛

Posted by Serginho

Posted by CreepyPants
whoever said "you are

your own worst enemy" HAD to have been a capricorn.

NO

lol who then? scorpio prob would be another contender.

Posted by Serginho

Posted by CreepyPants
about my own standards.

caring is damn exhausting.

...or my standards are exhausting.

F*** You are awesome.

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besos. back atcha

In the words of Chumba wumba, "I get knocked down, but I get up again..." Lol.

The sadness does knock me down for a day or so. And I get mean, distant, and cold, so I'm told, but when I snap out if it, I'm ready to do something to change my situation, and I move into action and come out better than before.

Astrologers seem to be in general agreement that Saturn's children have the depths of despair thing locked up. 😛

Every moment is an opportunity; an opportunity to succeed, as much as it is to fail. How you choose to cope with the opportunities presented to you is how you prove your worth. No one or thing has any more power to cause your fall than it does the power to arrest it. If you feel some of these opportunities have been a waste, ask yourself what you missed. There was a lesson there for you. In fact, it's still there, waiting with Saturn's renowned patience for you to recognise it.

P-Angel was mostly right, but we have all the power we need to stop our fall and see our way back into the light. Self loathing is always self destructive, whereas self criticism can be self constructive. Make the conscious choice to follow the latter path. Until you have learned to respond positively to your own criticism, there is little point in listening to anyone else's.

Don't lower your standards. Accepting less than the best for you weakens you. Hold out for the best...and be aware that you likely won't recognise it when it first crosses your path.

Because you appear to be in your Mint Period, I got this lovely flying rabbit for you. I thought it would make the perfect compliment. 🙂

Posted by CreepyPants

Posted by Serginho

Posted by CreepyPants
whoever said "you are your own worst enemy" HAD to have been a capricorn.

NO

lol who then? scorpio prob would be another contender.

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They maybe.
They like to eat themselves.

/* ouh i'm tired of a bunch of topics following each other a day by day on cap and scorpio boards

Cap man saying 3trunk 3trunk 3trunk
and scorpio girl is asking
Dafuq?

Scorpions talking
stillness
and we
i want to hold it all in: words and emotions

There is even
Scorpio man and Virgo Woman
and
SOOO this love thing between a cappy and virgo??

*/

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ok my answer will be yes (it points to a capricorn) when
"you are your own worst enemy if you've agreed that it is you!"

Posted by capgirl69
Chumba wumba

🙂

Posted by Serginho

Posted by capgirl69
Chumba wumba

🙂

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That song applies to many areas of life and the scorp and I are always quoting it and then we laugh hysterically. Lol.

lmfao @ the chumba wumba reference

I thought my moments of despair were mine and mine alone untill i came to this forum and saw that virtually all caps have them. To answer the original post.

The trigger is always not understanding my situation, feeling that there is nothing to learn and that life is just being cruel for no reason. When im not able to understand or rationalize my situation i begin go question my existance and purpose. In these moments the tears flow nonestop, and at times i clench my fists in pure anger, then i release them and stare into nothingness when anger is replaced by despair, i begin to sob uncontrolably as the answers my self imposed questions give brutally honest replies ??the only thing in common in all your failed relationships is yourself??, ??No one will ever fill the void within you, or fully understand you.?? ??You??re a fraud, you say you want to help others but look at yourself now, you cant even open your eyes as you cry.?? Because of this brutal honesty i hate people who lie to themselves . There are people who avoid what i HAVE to go through almost every 3 months ( Its almost like clockwork, kinda like a capricorn menstruation Lol. )their whole life. I give in fully now, i smile and let it do what it does, almost always i find some area in which i need to better myself. I find something that i regret and work on trying to fix it. I see where i was lying to myself. Sometimes its just plain frustration and i learn nothing, but i feel alot lighter when its over.

I also use to think I was the only one going through this dark side. It's so frustrating because I could be having a great couple of weeks then it just hits me out of no where. Then I start thinking of all the things that I wish I could take back and all the things I should've done. I do end up distancing myself and not answering my phone for days or even weeks. I can definitely agree that it does feel like a virus. I try to look at the good things that resulted from the things I'm not proud of then think of ways to fix whatever situation I'm currently in.

Could it be these dark moods are just your emotions, and you don't know what to do with them?

Posted by Draumstafir
Could it be these dark moods are just your emotions, and you don't know what to do with them?

What is this thing you speak of called emotions?


😛

i think you are missing the point noname... the point is that we are trying to figure out the reason for the mood swing. we are trying to solve the 'riddle'

...so that it doesnt happen again.

for myself, and it could easily be a pisces moon thing as well, the emotion is sooooo deep seated that it is *really* hard for me to understand it right away.

FUCK THE DARK MOODS
JUST GO OFF BY YOUR SELF TILL IT PASSES
SIMPLE SONER OR LATER IF YOU ARE A REAL CAP YOU WILL GO OFF TO THE WOODS OR IN HIDING AND DIE.

lol!

shoot, with me it could be any number of things!

pisces moon, cap sun, scorpio saturn in the 12 house

"When one really knows one self is when life really begins."

for sure, but i dont think we ever know ourselves fully and completely... and knowing that and testing it is when life sees its greatest potential.

Posted by StoicGoat
Astrologers seem to be in general agreement that Saturn's children have the depths of despair thing locked up. 😛

Every moment is an opportunity; an opportunity to succeed, as much as it is to fail. How you choose to cope with the opportunities presented to you is how you prove your worth. No one or thing has any more power to cause your fall than it does the power to arrest it. If you feel some of these opportunities have been a waste, ask yourself what you missed. There was a lesson there for you. In fact, it's still there, waiting with Saturn's renowned patience for you to recognise it.

P-Angel was mostly right, but we have all the power we need to stop our fall and see our way back into the light. Self loathing is always self destructive, whereas self criticism can be self constructive. Make the conscious choice to follow the latter path. Until you have learned to respond positively to your own criticism, there is little point in listening to anyone else's.

Don't lower your standards. Accepting less than the best for you weakens you. Hold out for the best...and be aware that you likely won't recognise it when it first crosses your path.

Because you appear to be in your Mint Period, I got this lovely flying rabbit for you. I thought it would make the perfect compliment. 🙂

i needed this 🙂

and the mint rabbit! thanks stoic xoxo

ooooh!!!! cupcake idea... mint chocolate chip!

Had a great few weeks with Ex Capi n then just suddenly it all ends n becomes a very dark place to be in duno if it's his bad mood or mine lol

YOU WILL KNOW HE IS IN A DARK PLACE WHEN YOU OFFER TO SET ON HIS FACE AND GIVE HIM A B/J AND HE JUST WALKS AWAY

Posted by james tate
YOU WILL KNOW HE IS IN A DARK PLACE WHEN YOU OFFER TO SET ON HIS FACE AND GIVE HIM A B/J AND HE JUST WALKS AWAY

I haven't offered but maybe he's not in as dark a place as I thought :p
He's just got in touch - sounds like he's been sulking

Perhaps the dark moods are a result from Caps reluctance to share emotion..talk it out.. If it stays bottled up, it makes sense to me that it will wear you down and eat you up.