Aquaex keeps stirring the pot

OK, I have been on this blog about a year now. I orignally came here to figure out things between me & my aquaex. Long story short, we went through hell last spring & we didn't talk all summer. Kinda patched things up in fall so we could be civil. He's left so many phone messages over the year will him saying that I mean the world to him, yet he's hurt me so bad. Oh and a year ago when I was on here questioning things, he said he wanted to marry me, but when the time was right. A few months before that I told him I loved him for the first time, with no response back.

So today he calls me and says I am the only thing that matters to him, and all he wants for his birthday is to hear my voice and to tell me to be ready for something in spring. I asked what, he just said he couldn't tell me, he wanted it to be a surprise, but that he wanted me to prepare myself. I felt upset, like WHY is he stirring the pot?!! I have gotten so far from my pain last year. It is hard to keep going when you have been so hurt.

Oh, and right before I hung up, he had to FUKKING say I love you, for the first time. I hung up, cried and cursed. I am pouring myself a glass of wine now, I hate this game. WHY?!!! why why why....WHY?

Awww... how sweet!

Those weirdos. I find many aquas attracted to me and I find them to be sexy too but it's like day and night... My friend for example calls me at the most once a month to sweet talk me and hand me the stars and the moon and ask if I still have a bf lol but really you sexy aqua, does it matter?! Moves too slow when he's got the chance ... ha ha I just laugh at him... so cute

That guy doesn't sound sweet though, just confused and indecisive... give'm the finger

Don't we all miss an ex somewhere that we really screwed things up with? 😢

TG...GIRL, you must be a superguy magnet! 🙂 Course you are hot...but anyway I say if possible, let it play out. You never know! But don't get too emotionally involved and set yourself up for failure and another heartbreak although it sounds too late!

Good Luck!

What happened to the Scorp? Have I missed anything else? Red Red WINE!

CL/Cm2

Hey CL, the scorp and I were just on way too different wavelengths. He's a great guy, but just started irritating me and I think he's got some growing up to do - a little immature.

I have always loved the aqua, but he did break my heart BAD. I think TC is kinda right that he's indecisive and he should of respected me more than to dissappear when I really needed him. I'll see what happens over time, but if thinks he can just walk in and think everything is ok, he's got a LOT of learning to do about life, relationships & about me.

Haha CL, you miss the red wine? SOON the babies will be out! 🙂

How do I know if you evil aquas are for real?!!!

Holy, threw me in a circle with confusion, lol, I guess that answers my question!

Sounds like a lot of drama. I was in this situation before, not with an Aquarius though. Did the same exact stuff...i was hooked on the excitement and unpredictability of not knowing when he would call or pop back into my life. I got caught up in this "magical thinking" that i must be the one for him since he keeps coming back to me. i would be estactic whenever he called. Got pretty old after awhile in that his unpredicability became predictable if that makes any sense. I finally got over it---believe it or not, he still calls me, but i dont care anymore and i think it's kind of funny. I recently met an Aquarian guy who started behaving like this; i detected it immediately and told him that i couldnt be in a relationship like that and he understood..we talk occasionally, but i am not really into him except as friends. Good Luck with that Taurus Goddess.

Thanks guys. Somehow we haven't been able to totally let each other go. I think he does want a future with me, but when he is totally ready. He's not with other women either. He's just really confused, or scared, but at the same time, he doesn't communicate it right to me & leaves me hurt.

I think it's really about whether I want that in my life. Would he even change once he's decided? Why should he be the one pulling the strings anyways? I gotta move on, even if I love him to death. I wish I'd never met him.

That is what i am saying basically--it is up to you whether or not you want to stay in this situation. For me, it is simple. Either you are in my life, or you are not. I wont allow anyone to put me through the ringer. How do you know he doesnt see other women?

First he's not like that. He almost gets more amused by life than women. I also am close friends of guys that know him. That's just the way he is. He's a rare guy, I've never met anyone like him. It's almost odd that me & him hooked up. We both had heard of each other a lot before we first met about 4 years ago. When we finally did meet it was so deep and real, we inspired each other. Then, within half a year we BOTH got scared and BOTH left. We both are scared of commitment and being hurt. But I was ready for him, or to try again at what I thought I had screwed up with. And then he hurt me, I should've known. So I can understand, but I don't know, it's confusing. Not sure what I'm even saying. 😢

Yes, he is all jagged in expressing himself, but I do believe him to be a very real person. I just don't know what he'll be like next. I can't allow him back in again if he is only here for a little while. I think he will see that I can't take that either. I've come a long way since he hurt me.

I do believe there is a reason for everything, I just wonder if the reason I knew him was to learn & grow, and move on. Perhaps something else, but I will never know until I look back. The best thing I can do is live life great.

Are you living my life taurusgoddess? Wow my aqua man is the exact same way. It took a long time then he finally was ready. He also had a hard time expressing his feelings and wanted to keep me at an arms length. All I did was give him his space. I tried to figure out why he acted the way he did and as I began to understand it kinda brought me to a place where I could accept him even with his aloft behavior(I love him!). It has to be on his terms and it will never be right until he knows 100% that you wont put a strain on his individuality. Many people asked me did I think he was cheating too but there is something about Aqua men that speaks volumes about their integrity. Once you know they are a good guy it just feels right. Aww...im getting sad now. Just be sure that when he is ready that you dont mess it up like I did, who knows if i'll ever get mine back.

Okay...when people say "give me space"

What exactly does that mean? I've never really had anyone tell me that, but I want to know what it entails. Does that mean don't call me, I'll call you? Does it mean that they really want to break up and are just being nice about it?

Somebody help me understand this please! And how does being with a person put a strain on you individuality? I would think if you are strong enough within yourself, it is impossible to lose that. Does that mean if we have plans and you decide in the middle you want to do something else, so you stand me up...that I should just accept it without being irritated? That seems to be the attitude of the Aqua's I dated briefly and I know had I really liked those guys, that behavior would piss me off!

Just curious....

I think everyone is different about that one CL, I've used it and it's been used on me. I think with the aquas, they really just need to have their individuality and time to do their own thing. Me - I'm getting sick of someone. It's always different but ya.

I kind of understand my aqua ex as far as not settling until TOTALLY sure and READY. I understand because I've been the same way. He has a touch of the genious/insanity thing going on and I think he's scared that I won't want him, that he's too crazy. I think he's trying to work on himself and figure himself out, know himself before he can give to anyone. I respect that, BUT he should never have hurt me so bad last year - left me totally hanging. That part I don't understand. That part scares me.

I think my ex is a work in progress too. He has some issues from his past that he works really hard to leave in the past. I think he thinks if I knew what his life was really like, I wouldnt want him. I also think he needs time to figure me out in case I try to do something to hurt him. When we first started dating he needed space, only thing is he didnt say it he just disappeared. A month later I asked... we had a good thing, what happened? He says I just needed space. It was going too fast for him and wanted to take a step back and analyze the situation to better understand what was going on... this is my experience with him needing space. I am also an aquarius. I do it on purpose because I get scared that the person will propose or something and I dont know whether or not I really want to be with this person.

Are you sooooo scared of regrets? What is wrong with a mistake and learning a valuable lesson?

I get scared because I know deep down that I really dont want to be in a relationship with the person. When someone shows a lot of interest, its usually someone that I cant see myself with. As I write I am realizing that I tell them I need space because I dont want to hurt their feeling but I dont want to be with them. I dont think this is the case with CancerLady. I think that since you 2 live together, he probably just needs some alone time. I like to do things by myself as well as with others, I just dont want to feel obligated to do anything. I need to have options and feel trapped if someone imposes something on me, even if I decide to do something and change my mind later. My family says I have real problems with this. I dont think its a problem because everyone is entitled to being an individual. I decided to take someone to work a couple of times and these people assume that once I do something that I always have to do it(it was a favor). So I feel trapped. When I stop doing it im defiant(sorry about the rant). He might be feeling like this, that he HAS to do certain things that he doesnt want to do because he loves you but doesnt want to hurt your feeling if he doesnt do it. Anyway, with the guy that I posted about, I was scared he was doing it for the wrong reason... yeah mistakes are beneficial and you learn lessons but its hard for me to bounce back from heart break. I was just try to prevent it before it happens. I dont know if this makes ANY sense LOL.

you (aqua)ladies are useless 😛

Manchester/uk?

yeah, manchester/liverpool area is useless in that perspective. leeds and a few other cities, too. unless you live there and know the cool spots you should go to. otherwise, some really nice looking girls but no style at all. they're really not ugly at all, but their appearance... uh! and once they open their mouths: "fucchin' hell, mate!"

Primegen, did you get the number or address.....so you can write each other? I know you did. Remember my wish? About the girl from abroad sending you cards! It was an instant love connection wasnt it? I must be psychic! Just Kidding. 🙂

pleasing to the mind, too... to the heart, uhm, let's say not always 😛

🙂