Trustworthiness?

Hello!

I have a question about my Capricorn boyfriend. (Leo here)

We've been together over a year now and been friends for five years before getting together.

However, only after a few months of the romantic relationship I've noticed something. My dear boyfriend is utterly unable to keep his word. Whether it's "I'll call you in the evening" or "I'll come by tomorrow and we'll have some fun" or "I'll cut down on drinking" or something as significant as "I'll try my best to not flip out when you're not all happy-go-lucky" he just never keeps his promise. Frankly, it pisses me off sometimes. Especially when I finally get him to understand what's bothering me, get him to acknowledge that he could be handling the situation better, he promises to try and then.. silence. Often it's "I didn't say that." or "I meant something else" or even "Yes, I said that. But now it's different."

And I'm wondering. Is this common for a Capricorn?

PS:

Also. He never talks about his emotions. It's always me yapping about my insecurities and fears, trying to get him to open up. Usually to no avail. (He says "I don't know" to everything feelings-related)Do you have any advice on how to handle this? (I might be ignorant a bit but in all the astrology webs I read that Caps open up in long-term relationships..?)

There are some Caps that do what they say they will, but for all the Caps I know, myself included...you can't pay too close attention to what we say.

For example, I talked to my friend yesterday. She asked me how long will I be up. I told her, and she said she'd call me on her break. Did she ever call? No.

Every time I talk to her I tell her I'll call her later. Do I ever call? No.

My other Cap friend is the same. He's said before that he'll stop by, etc. Does he always do it? No. My Cap father is the same.

Basically we just say what sounds good at the moment. Like saying "I'll call you after work" sounds better to me than just saying bye, so I say it. Doesn't mean I'll do it though.

You can't take all of us seriously on things like that. Our minds are too preoccupied with other silly things.

As far as emotions. They are usually too complex to share.

My mother would always joke that her Cap ex would go in the restroom laughing and come out pissed. She's like what happened that fast??

We can be some moody individuals. You dont want to open up that can of worms, and sometimes its hard to pinpoint what we feel and why we are feeling that way.

Posted by lnana04
There are some Caps that do what they say they will, but for all the Caps I know, myself included...you can't pay too close attention to what we say.

For example, I talked to my friend yesterday. She asked me how long will I be up. I told her, and she said she'd call me on her break. Did she ever call? No.

Every time I talk to her I tell her I'll call her later. Do I ever call? No.

My other Cap friend is the same. He's said before that he'll stop by, etc. Does he always do it? No. My Cap father is the same.

Basically we just say what sounds good at the moment. Like saying "I'll call you after work" sounds better to me than just saying bye, so I say it. Doesn't mean I'll do it though.

You can't take all of us seriously on things like that. Our minds are too preoccupied with other silly things.

Thank you. I admit this is a tough one to understand.

Just wanted to tell you that even though there's this saying "actions speak louder than words," words can hurt people way more than actions. This is something my dear boy doesn't understand.. or refuses to understand.

Many people (including me) doesn't trust easily and this sort of behaviour doesn't help at all. It just seems like Caps are unreliable.

Hmm.. this makes me a bit depressed but at least now I understand that there's no ill intent. Just ignorance.

Btw. Did you see the Iron Man 3 movie? Not the best one but the example is clear. Tony promises to meet up with the villain on the roof of some building and never shows up. The stood-up man is heartbroken, betrayed and becomes a super-villain. Scary what a broken silly promise can do with human psyche, right? 😄