Validation

why is this insignificant person making me feel shitty? I feel so immature and just completely ridiculous for feeling this way. My mother in law (ex) whatever is always telling my childrens father's ex girlfriend what a good mother she is and it really hurts because I've never received any positivity from her even though I've practically raised her grandchildren alone and do a damn good job at it .shes barely in their lives and when we have been close I have been there for a lot when she's been going through rough times. I sacrifice everything I have for my family and I'm happy doing so but there's no recognition from her .idk why I am jealous it just makes me feel like shit . Have u ever felt the need for validation from someone who shouldn't even matter to you?

I think that's basic human nature.

She's punishing you for some perceived slight to her or your ex,

AKA her baby boy.


Which technically means you're probably doing something right.

Mothers in law are not to be trusted 98% of the time... it's like in

the bible or something.


🙂

OP, give yourself a tap & ignore her. The relationship between mother-in-law & the son's spouse sometimes spark tension because well the mother in law might be jealous that the wife is hogging all the attention of her son. Next time when you are old & when your son gets married, you might be jealous too that your precious son does no longer give u that much attention. Emphatize her a little bit but kudos to u for doing a job.

I really had respect for woman like OP, it is rare for a woman to go all the way for the family. You are truly a rare gem.

I know caps are serious people, so u guys might not be good at words. When it comes to family relationships, tend to cause misunderstandings. I am an aqua, i can relate to that because well my mom favored my brother & sister because they are more vocal & can put in sweet words where i had trouble doing that. But really take it that the other person has a bad judge for character. Being sincere & earnest is better than just sweet words.

Thanks. For the advice and insight everyone !
I guess it is human nature but I think the cap in me doesn't want to feel real emotion at times.