Virgo girl facing the typical dilemma with cappy (Page 2)

Posted by lnana04
LAWD, I now see why my Virgo sis and I are never on the same page. All these years I thought she being manipulative by trying to play sensitive so she could get her way. Who knew that Virgos are Really that sensitive—

Heck, I'm sensitive too but I avoid asking if I don't want to hear the answer.

Katie, you don't have to leave your thread. If someone misunderstood what you wrote then just correct them. You always have to be mindful though, that everybodys personality isn't the same as yours. I snap on folks when I know they are acting "brand new" with the harshness and tone, but this is kstarks everday all day, and really Katie, she wasn't harsh imho at all. Hopefully you cool down and take what's being said for what it is.

Posted by CappyyLuv30
@LV
I agree. I hate fake people.

I believe earth signs are FAR from fake though, especially us Caps. The thing is and this goes for every sign, if you are coming on a public board with a relationship issue, you have to understand that you will (a)have a plethora of personalities all together in one place offering advice from THEIR point of view and from what THEY understand from your issue and (b)you have to ignore tone, just like in emails and texts.

I'm the first one that hates to be vulnerable on here but the times I've had to be, I've pressed 'post message' with my hands on my eyes because I knew I was going to get raped and I had to put on my thick skin coat to take the beating. This is how we grow. This is life.

"The soul is placed in the body like a rough diamond, and must be polished, or the luster of it will never appear."
-Daniel Defoe

Posted by QuietSt0rm
The assurance won't come from him in the beginning, you have to be self-assured yourself. Once he sees that you are self-assured and that you have confidence in him, then the assurance comes from him later. Kind of backwards, I know.

If he ever disappears again, DON'T call/email/text him. Don't promise him that you'll be waiting on him either. He probably saw the texting/calling/emailing as pressuring when he was trying to get away to get his thoughts together. He probably would have came back a lot sooner if you hadn't been reaching out to him. Give him an opportunity to miss you. Not saying to play a game, but if a man disappears on you or withdraws, mirror his actions instead of trying to pull him back in. It's natural for a woman to "panic" and try to pull him back again, but try not to do that, as you see it only works against you.

4 months is really not a long time, and I assume he'll tell you the same thing. You guys are still getting to know each other and some caps take time to commit. Others commit quickly, it depends on the chart. But if it's important to you to have that assurance from him, let your intentions be known from the beginning and stand by them.

Posted by candy10
ooo look at everyone ganging up on the virgos..lol
I happen to agree with what katie said and I do agree with some of the comments everyone else has posted too

All we are saying is there is a way of saying something to someone...it doesn't have to be so ridiculously blunt..the word is tactful. i Always speak the truth but not in a way that will end up with the person being hurt.
Yes we are sensitive, but we can take the truth and face it but when someone is clearly already quite upset about their situation it doesn't help to be a little understanding that he/she might not want people to be aggressive in the way that their messages are conveyed.

Posted by tiki33

Posted by candy10
ooo look at everyone ganging up on the virgos..lol
I happen to agree with what katie said and I do agree with some of the comments everyone else has posted too

All we are saying is there is a way of saying something to someone...it doesn't have to be so ridiculously blunt..the word is tactful. i Always speak the truth but not in a way that will end up with the person being hurt.
Yes we are sensitive, but we can take the truth and face it but when someone is clearly already quite upset about their situation it doesn't help to be a little understanding that he/she might not want people to be aggressive in the way that their messages are conveyed.

Oh puhleeeeze....

That's a control tactic, (some) virgo's want to control there objects and if they can't then they get bent out of shape and go on this poor me campaing...People are going to say what they want, when they want and how they want to say it and you and all the other virgo's that come over to the cap board can't control any of us just like you and all the other virgo's that try to control there men CAN'T....And that is what hurts more than anything, that you can't completely have power and control over the people you want and rejection makes you all feel out of control. We just see through the bullshit and call it.

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Posted by tiki33

Posted by candy10
ooo look at everyone ganging up on the virgos..lol
I happen to agree with what katie said and I do agree with some of the comments everyone else has posted too

All we are saying is there is a way of saying something to someone...it doesn't have to be so ridiculously blunt..the word is tactful. i Always speak the truth but not in a way that will end up with the person being hurt.
Yes we are sensitive, but we can take the truth and face it but when someone is clearly already quite upset about their situation it doesn't help to be a little understanding that he/she might not want people to be aggressive in the way that their messages are conveyed.

Oh puhleeeeze....

That's a control tactic, (some) virgo's want to control there objects and if they can't then they get bent out of shape and go on this poor me campaing...People are going to say what they want, when they want and how they want to say it and you and all the other virgo's that come over to the cap board can't control any of us just like you and all the other virgo's that try to control there men CAN'T....And that is what hurts more than anything, that you can't completely have power and control over the people you want and rejection makes you all feel out of control. We just see through the bullshit and call it.

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Posted by tiki33

Posted by candy10
ooo look at everyone ganging up on the virgos..lol
I happen to agree with what katie said and I do agree with some of the comments everyone else has posted too

All we are saying is there is a way of saying something to someone...it doesn't have to be so ridiculously blunt..the word is tactful. i Always speak the truth but not in a way that will end up with the person being hurt.
Yes we are sensitive, but we can take the truth and face it but when someone is clearly already quite upset about their situation it doesn't help to be a little understanding that he/she might not want people to be aggressive in the way that their messages are conveyed.

Oh puhleeeeze....

That's a control tactic, (some) virgo's want to control there objects and if they can't then they get bent out of shape and go on this poor me campaing...People are going to say what they want, when they want and how they want to say it and you and all the other virgo's that come over to the cap board can't control any of us just like you and all the other virgo's that try to control there men CAN'T....And that is what hurts more than anything, that you can't completely have power and control over the people you want and rejection makes you all feel out of control. We just see through the bullshit and call it.

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Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

Posted by tiki33

Posted by candy10
ooo look at everyone ganging up on the virgos..lol
I happen to agree with what katie said and I do agree with some of the comments everyone else has posted too

All we are saying is there is a way of saying something to someone...it doesn't have to be so ridiculously blunt..the word is tactful. i Always speak the truth but not in a way that will end up with the person being hurt.
Yes we are sensitive, but we can take the truth and face it but when someone is clearly already quite upset about their situation it doesn't help to be a little understanding that he/she might not want people to be aggressive in the way that their messages are conveyed.

Oh puhleeeeze....

That's a control tactic, (some) virgo's want to control there objects and if they can't then they get bent out of shape and go on this poor me campaing...People are going to say what they want, when they want and how they want to say it and you and all the other virgo's that come over to the cap board can't control any of us just like you and all the other virgo's that try to control there men CAN'T....And that is what hurts more than anything, that you can't completely have power and control over the people you want and rejection makes you all feel out of control. We just see through the bullshit and call it.

u mean control like this lmao.

hahaha

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lmfaoooooooooooooo.

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Posted by tiki33
Katie no disrespect but why are you being so defensive? You are getting a wealth of help by people who have been in your shoes at one point, people who empathize and want to help you see another side of the situation so you can help your situation but instead you want to dictate to others how they should respond to you so you can feel better...that's very selfish and that's the same selfishness you used against your Cap and that's one reason why he's not responding to your bullying pushy 18 year old tactics to get your way...And you wonder why your Capricorn has went completely cold on you, your emotionally out of control, your demanding that others help you the way you want them to just like you demanded that your Cap introduce you to his friends only to be met with resistance because that is not how mature adults deal with issues....

You come off as very naive, emotionally desperate and entitled to have things your way, your never going to keep a man in your life if your more concerned about your own feelings more than the other persons feelings, show a little compassion and patience with your Cap and that could be a good start to mend the relationship. Right now your being ugly, your behavior is ugly and that is one of the main reasons why he's ignoring you. Get yourself together, focus on being positive and try being more objective and logical instead of emotional and pushy, stop defending your behavior because what you did turned him off and your turning us off and that's real,you can get him back but you have to change your attitude and behavior before anything positive comes out of this for you.

Posted by candy10
Not all virgos are going to be controlling... it's a MYTH.
I said people are entitled to their opinions and can say whatever they blooody well please BUT it is the WAY they say it that is important.

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

Posted by tiki33

Posted by candy10
ooo look at everyone ganging up on the virgos..lol
I happen to agree with what katie said and I do agree with some of the comments everyone else has posted too

All we are saying is there is a way of saying something to someone...it doesn't have to be so ridiculously blunt..the word is tactful. i Always speak the truth but not in a way that will end up with the person being hurt.
Yes we are sensitive, but we can take the truth and face it but when someone is clearly already quite upset about their situation it doesn't help to be a little understanding that he/she might not want people to be aggressive in the way that their messages are conveyed.

Oh puhleeeeze....

That's a control tactic, (some) virgo's want to control there objects and if they can't then they get bent out of shape and go on this poor me campaing...People are going to say what they want, when they want and how they want to say it and you and all the other virgo's that come over to the cap board can't control any of us just like you and all the other virgo's that try to control there men CAN'T....And that is what hurts more than anything, that you can't completely have power and control over the people you want and rejection makes you all feel out of control. We just see through the bullshit and call it.

u mean control like this lmao.


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lmfaoooooooooooooo.

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Posted by kstarks2
I see Candy10 is still stuck on stupid.

Posted by tiki33

Posted by candy10
Not all virgos are going to be controlling... it's a MYTH.
I said people are entitled to their opinions and can say whatever they blooody well please BUT it is the WAY they say it that is important.

It's important to YOU not us (least some of us) and b/c it's not important to (some) of us, (some) virgos get bent out of shape. If you and others want help focus on that help instead of focusing on delivery. If you and Katie had paid attention to your own deliveries towards the men in your life maybe you both wouldn't be here now having the issues your having...

Take the plank out your own eye before trying to tell others how to communicate...Your communication issues is part of the reason why your both here.

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Posted by candy10

Posted by tiki33

Posted by candy10
Not all virgos are going to be controlling... it's a MYTH.
I said people are entitled to their opinions and can say whatever they blooody well please BUT it is the WAY they say it that is important.

It's important to YOU not us (least some of us) and b/c it's not important to (some) of us, (some) virgos get bent out of shape. If you and others want help focus on that help instead of focusing on delivery. If you and Katie had paid attention to your own deliveries towards the men in your life maybe you both wouldn't be here now having the issues your having...

Take the plank out your own eye before trying to tell others how to communicate...Your communication issues is part of the reason why your both here.

yes thats fair enough, i'm not going to argue with the last bit but i'm trying to say sometimes people can be upset/emotionally drained when it comes to these problems and all i'm saying is that you can say what you want to say but with at least a little sensitivity and not totally belittling the person and pointing ouit a million and one of their faults.

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