When things get serious

Tell me. When a relationship gets serious. Do you ever kinda feel......uncomfortable? It's how I've been feeling lately, I feel if I get into a relationship today and it actually gets serious I might start feeling constricted with anxiety. I don't know why. As much as I'd want a relationship to jump off I feel that when it gets serious I feel uncomfortable? Have you ever experienced this before?

That's just your Venus in aqua talking lol

Actually no, but that's probably because when I've made up my mind, I've made up my mind and just go for it. If I have even the slightest bit of doubt about wanting to be in a relationship with someone, then it's a no go for me. If there is doubt, it's just not good enough. (yes, yes, yes, I know I'm weird 🙂)

Posted by nonchalant2you
That's just your Venus in aqua talking lol

You sure?

Idk I said that because I have Venus in aqua and I feel like that at times but then again it could be my rising in aqua and mars in sag too. I like to be free by all means when things start getting serious I tend to withdraw lol.

Posted by Sn1p3r187

Posted by nonchalant2you
That's just your Venus in aqua talking lol

You sure?

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Yes.

Posted by Sn1p3r187
Tell me. When a relationship gets serious. Do you ever kinda feel......uncomfortable? It's how I've been feeling lately, I feel if I get into a relationship today and it actually gets serious I might start feeling constricted with anxiety. I don't know why. As much as I'd want a relationship to jump off I feel that when it gets serious I feel uncomfortable? Have you ever experienced this before?

Methinks you think too much.

Stew on it and try to figure out exactly WHAT is making you uncomfortable. Once you figure it out, then you'll have more insight on whats going on.

^I guess that's a good plan. But that's something I actually have to think a lot about.

Posted by e11e
what do you think might happen?

Wait could you rephrase that because I didn't understand it. please

I never really want ish to get real.

You might be a commitment phobe. Always wanting a bit of freedom...keeping that one foot out just incase you want to run.

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what do you think might happen?

Wait could you rephrase that because I didn't understand it. please

well, you said you felt constricted, uncomfortable with anxiety.

usually that is felt because someone anticipates something bad or negative is going to happen.

do you think something bad might happen?

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Yeah, it's how I've been feeling for a long while. Maybe I'm just afraid someone's gonna fuck me over again and I might not take it too and end up going up side their head with a baseball, and then end it. That and there's others things that come into play here.

Posted by e11e
the reason I'm asking is.....

I think any time someone enters a relationship that has the potential of being serious, there are some kind of physical feelings involved.

I believe each person may *feel* something different. Like, my venus in libra gets a rock in my stomach, I can even feel physically ill (like nauseous). I get fidgety and embarrassed.

Because caps are inherently pessimistic when something is presented to them (not trying to offend)....you may interpret that initial feeling as *bad* and want to tend to move away from it not realising that it's perfectly normal and on the other side of it (the feeling of something new) things will be just fine.

That's actually how I feel, I get nauseous. Maybe it's a Air venus thing? And I might be a commitment phobe as well, but I do it because I'm afraid someone's only going to end up breaking me down again and I simply don't want that to happen again.

Posted by e11e
It could be the air venus.

Air doesn't process feelings very gracefully (regardless of which sign it is in).

I think your moon is also an influence.....as pisces moons take snapshots of the past and compare it to the present.

Don't label yourself as a commitment phobe, that's just a self-fulfilling prophecy.

....and don't let your current flame pay for the sins of the past. You are not dating Jesus 😄

If she screws up, she screws up...she's only human. You can't learn anything standing still.

So I wouldn't be better off if I had a Gemini Venus? And tell me about the Pisces moon and comparing past to present. What if they compared it to the future. I try not to, but something down there just gives me doubts that I'm going to see a repeat. Tbh I honestly hate my generation, bunch of bloody superficial dogs that endorse promiscuity and making a total dick or a complete of yourself online or in person. I know I'm making a bad judgement there but it's just true. I see way too many people doing it and it disgusts me. And what's more stupid about it is other people support it too. 😢

Correction- "Total dick or whore of themselves online and in person".

Posted by e11e
gemini, libra, aqua....all have the same problems "expressing feelings". they are not the same with other things....don't wish yourself a gemini venus 😛

I'm only speculating with the pisces moon because I have personal experience....but you have to be careful not holding your new love interest to higher standards because of what an ex might have done or a past experience you might have had with someone else.

You especially don't want to share that with them because they could start trying to compare themselves and not think they are good enough or could never meet those standards.

We all have issues with our generations.....but you know how unique you are? Well, there are others out there just as unique. You are not a rainbow butterfly with unicorn 🙂 You just have to give them the benefit of the doubt until they don't deserve it anymore. Otherwise you'll just isolate yourself and that's not healthy.

We have something in common, but in a different way. My moon in aries is the beginning of the zodiac, your pisces moon is the end.

I see everything as brand new. The baby.
You see everything as it 'will be'. The old man.

We both have to be careful with that in some respects.....I can jump in and make mistakes over and over and over again.....you can not even try to jump in because you envision what will already be.

hmmm I see. Well I'll try to change that aspect. As what one of my friends would say. I'm probably acting salty. I've kinda isolates myself before. It feels strangely comfortable and uncomfortable. I can be alone with my thoughts and at peace but with that comes me seeing everything for what it is and then very very evil thoughts from my Aqua Venus and Mars. I have to be around people on a daily basis but at home is where I just want to be alone with my thoughts and that leads to isolation. But you're right. I have to give everything a chance. Especially relationships and learn to stops fearing them

I think you're worried about getting hurt and that's what is making you anxious.

My advice, take your time and get to know her. Take it slow. Eventually, you'll be able to see more of her character. If the more you see, the more you like, then let those walls down one by one.

Time, sweetie, time!

Posted by truecap
I think you're worried about getting hurt and that's what is making you anxious.

My advice, take your time and get to know her. Take it slow. Eventually, you'll be able to see more of her character. If the more you see, the more you like, then let those walls down one by one.

Time, sweetie, time!

Spoken like a true capricorn, and I agree. The more you get to know her the closer you will get to the answer of if she's for you or not.

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Posted by truecap
I think you're worried about getting hurt and that's what is making you anxious.

My advice, take your time and get to know her. Take it slow. Eventually, you'll be able to see more of her character. If the more you see, the more you like, then let those walls down one by one.

Time, sweetie, time!

Spoken like a true capricorn, and I agree. The more you get to know her the closer you will get to the answer of if she's for you or not.

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And we get criticized for being so slow. 😢

Been there, sniper.

Might still be for all I know?

I've poured gas on, and lit the match, on a few relationships.

One in particular was an epic mistake on my part.

Hopefully, I learned my lesson.

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Posted by truecap
I think you're worried about getting hurt and that's what is making you anxious.

My advice, take your time and get to know her. Take it slow. Eventually, you'll be able to see more of her character. If the more you see, the more you like, then let those walls down one by one.

Time, sweetie, time!

Spoken like a true capricorn, and I agree. The more you get to know her the closer you will get to the answer of if she's for you or not.

And we get criticized for being so slow. 😢

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Exactly. If only everyone was like us. 😉

Posted by CapTenn
Been there, sniper.

Might still be for all I know?

I've poured gas on, and lit the match, on a few relationships.

One in particular was an epic mistake on my part.

Hopefully, I learned my lesson.

Same, then in the case of the future. There might be mistake waiting to happen.

Posted by Sn1p3r187

Posted by CapTenn
Been there, sniper.

Might still be for all I know?

I've poured gas on, and lit the match, on a few relationships.

One in particular was an epic mistake on my part.

Hopefully, I learned my lesson.

Same, then in the case of the future. There might be mistake waiting to happen.

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If there's something I've learned in life it's: bullbutter happens.

And you know what, that's how we learn. Yes, there will be mistakes and yes, you will be sad and angry and it will hurt like h**l, but I dare promise you that it will be so much worse if you don't go for what you believe in even if that means that sometime down the road, you may get hurt.

Go with your gut. If you feel uncomfortable it may be because it's just not right. Again, go with your guts, but don't back down because you're afraid. Yes, you may get hurt, but if that happens, you can handle it and worst case scenario: you learned something.