Why are Capricorns so good at being silent?

Hi guys,

I just got to know a Cap last February who is younger than me (not much, only 2 years), Korean, immigrated I guess so; with his family to Saigon (Ho Chi Minh City also) of Vietnam. We got to know each others via Tinder because at that time around January-February I was devastated by my latest heart broken, so a friend of mine advised me that I should try using Tinder - not for hunting boys but as she told me, to talk to them and free my mind from the last heart broken I was going through (that heart broken was not serious as you guys might think because I only decided to quit building hope for a guy who is a close friend of mine, as he had told me that we had no future together, it broken me quite bad so i was in bad mood generally). Therefore i used Tinder - for fun purpose only, later i saw that Korean guy's profile, i wanted to swipe to the left after a long minutes looking at his pictures, well he is not bad looking at all in my opinion but didnt know why i wanted to swipe it to the left, but somehow, i accidentally swiped to the right, i didnt care much. Next morning, he started talking to me and i politely replied him.

I didn't keep in touch with him or felt like I needed to. After 1 week, as we finally used Whatsapp to chat, we finally communicate, not so often but once a week. Around last week of Feb, we chatted often but he talked dirty alot, I felt gross somehow but due to my last breakdown, I tried to go with the flow to see what would happen. He talked dirty to me 2 nights in a row but in 3rd night he apologized me, saying that he only fake dirty cuz "I was researching on how much morality we can destroy by ourselves" yeah...and asked me for a meet up. I agreed cuz at that point, i was curious at him, who talked dirty in such a funny way and then switched to philosophy stuffs. But we didn't meet as plan cuz he was busy for his friend's farewell party. it's ok for me. During 3 weeks of Mar, he really insisted on meeting me but at that time, I was so busy with my work. However we made it in the end of Mar, 26th. It was first time I met him but I was hit so hard by his charm, it's why we kissed and did have some intimate things even on first met (excluding having sex guys). After that I admit I'm quite into him. But it's when things started to happen, he began talking less to me. I'm fine with it cuz i'm not clingy one. We are both busy anw. And things ended as he didnt even bother replying me messages, he used to tell me that he was so busy and couldnt read them until the end of the day but i can sense he was lying. My intuition is always right. I pass it cuz we are not serious yet.

In May, he came back to Korea. Eversince, he never replied any of my messages. I felt so insecure and a bit hurt inside. Cuz at this point, I'm really into him for no reason. Lately he sent me a msg saying "hey", I replied "yeah?, thing is he never replied back. What's wrong with him—

Posted by Foreverloveme
From my understanding tinder is for hook ups so he probably stopped responding after you 2 didn't have sex, maybe he thought that's all you wanted since you were on tinder

I'm aware how tinder works and i did say straight to his face that i was not on tinder for hunting guys cuz i'm not that type of girl who only wants to get laid. but well shame on me, maybe i shouldn't get on tinder and fall for those guys because like you said, they all mistake.

Posted by starlover
Saturn

Limits them

I quite don't get much about planets and ruling, can you please tell me more?

Tinder is definitely not the best dating site. Try match. I liked that best.

As for the guy, he probably wanted sex and it's pretty easy to find someone a mile away using tinder. He's not really talking to you therefore he's not that interested. Sorry baby girl! You deserve better anyways! Keep looking!!

Posted by cheekyfaerie
So your actual question is, "why did *this* Cap stop talking to me?". In which case, I agree with FLM. He lost interest.

but then why he came back and poked me "hey" as i replied back he just ran away. dont get it.

Posted by Foreverloveme
I just think it's smart to continue as you have been, keeping your feelings guarded to protect yourself, getting to know him better, taking your time.

Nothing is wrong in getting to know him if he starts engaging in conversation. It just seems like sex is what he's after.

I am quiet, shy, reserved especially around people I like until I feel comfortable around them, plus I'm a loner & introvert so I just don't talk much in general

i get it, thanks. but it's more like my feeling and pride were hurt than the fact that he's gone. cuz i'm a leo-virgo cusp and my moon sign is leo so u can tell, leo people are very prideful. i was born in asian culture, though i started engaging with western cultures at very young age as i studied at international school so basically i'm open minded about sex and thingy, but to be honest he stole my first kiss and some first things so more like my pride is hurt haha

Posted by pinkbird03
Tinder is definitely not the best dating site. Try match. I liked that best.

As for the guy, he probably wanted sex and it's pretty easy to find someone a mile away using tinder. He's not really talking to you therefore he's not that interested. Sorry baby girl! You deserve better anyways! Keep looking!!

thanks, well i can tell he is no longer interested in me but why did he needed to sneaked out and tried to started talking me and didnt repy back im so confused

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
So your actual question is, "why did *this* Cap stop talking to me?". In which case, I agree with FLM. He lost interest.

but then why he came back and poked me "hey" as i replied back he just ran away. dont get it.

Are you not experienced with socializing with guys? This is typical male behavior.

Him: I wonder if I can get easy pussy...*texts you*

You: yeah?

Him: dammit too much work.

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ok hahahaha get it.

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Posted by pinkbird03
Tinder is definitely not the best dating site. Try match. I liked that best.

As for the guy, he probably wanted sex and it's pretty easy to find someone a mile away using tinder. He's not really talking to you therefore he's not that interested. Sorry baby girl! You deserve better anyways! Keep looking!!

thanks, well i can tell he is no longer interested in me but why did he needed to sneaked out and tried to started talking me and didnt repy back im so confused

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I could think of a hundred reasons. He's lonely. It didn't work out with another girl. He likes attention. He wants to talk dirty. He's bored.

If he sincerely wanted to talk, he would have been sincere.

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Posted by pinkbird03
Tinder is definitely not the best dating site. Try match. I liked that best.

As for the guy, he probably wanted sex and it's pretty easy to find someone a mile away using tinder. He's not really talking to you therefore he's not that interested. Sorry baby girl! You deserve better anyways! Keep looking!!

thanks, well i can tell he is no longer interested in me but why did he needed to sneaked out and tried to started talking me and didnt repy back im so confused

I could think of a hundred reasons. He's lonely. It didn't work out with another girl. He likes attention. He wants to talk dirty. He's bored.

If he sincerely wanted to talk, he would have been sincere.

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i see. it's simple common sense, if a guy wants to be there, he will be there. he's just gone and i'm left hanging with my damaged pride. thank you.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
So your actual question is, "why did *this* Cap stop talking to me?". In which case, I agree with FLM. He lost interest.

but then why he came back and poked me "hey" as i replied back he just ran away. dont get it.

Keeping his options open for later.

He's not being straight with you. Personally, I'd leave it. Or just do the same back. Depends what you're looking for. This guy isn't serious tho.

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yeah at this point i have lost my patience for him completely, maybe he's hot but i deserve better.

Posted by Foreverloveme

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Posted by Foreverloveme
I just think it's smart to continue as you have been, keeping your feelings guarded to protect yourself, getting to know him better, taking your time.

Nothing is wrong in getting to know him if he starts engaging in conversation. It just seems like sex is what he's after.

I am quiet, shy, reserved especially around people I like until I feel comfortable around them, plus I'm a loner & introvert so I just don't talk much in general

i get it, thanks. but it's more like my feeling and pride were hurt than the fact that he's gone. cuz i'm a leo-virgo cusp and my moon sign is leo so u can tell, leo people are very prideful. i was born in asian culture, though i started engaging with western cultures at very young age as i studied at international school so basically i'm open minded about sex and thingy, but to be honest he stole my first kiss and some first things so more like my pride is hurt haha

I see, I'm sorry to hear that & I know the feeling

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it's like karma hits me in the face because at first i planned to play with him but now, see who is playing who.

Posted by starlover

Posted by starlover
Saturn

Limits them

Saturn is a planet that can bring limitations

Capricorn can be cautious and reticent in the way they communicate

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i read that alot about them besides i have one capricorn guy friend so he told me some traits of capricorn himself lately, that friend is also a tarot reader so he did some prediction for me and that korean cap guy, which was about whether he would contact him again since he just deleted my fb account, and my guy friend said that he would come back and bring a message, which was correct cuz later he contacted me to ask me out, it leads to our first date in the end of March. My guy friend also read a very strong attraction and connection between me and him, we are drawn to each other but well, tarot can be wrong cuz if he is drawn to me, he wouldnt have left me hanging like that.

maybe i'm a virgo we are both earth signs so it is boring when it comes to "relationship"

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Posted by pinkbird03
Tinder is definitely not the best dating site. Try match. I liked that best.

As for the guy, he probably wanted sex and it's pretty easy to find someone a mile away using tinder. He's not really talking to you therefore he's not that interested. Sorry baby girl! You deserve better anyways! Keep looking!!

thanks, well i can tell he is no longer interested in me but why did he needed to sneaked out and tried to started talking me and didnt repy back im so confused

I could think of a hundred reasons. He's lonely. It didn't work out with another girl. He likes attention. He wants to talk dirty. He's bored.

If he sincerely wanted to talk, he would have been sincere.

i see. it's simple common sense, if a guy wants to be there, he will be there. he's just gone and i'm left hanging with my damaged pride. thank you.

You teach people how to treat you. With guys like this, you get what you tolerate. There *are* nice guys that are shy or trying to be respectful and don't come on as strong as others, but those guys are typically consistent with their behavior. It's still a positive experience. This guy is making you feel yuck. Negative experience.

Caps as very prideful as well.

Edit to say: I mention Cappy pride because I sympathize with you. Not anything to do with him. I've definitely felt that ego ding you mentioned and it sucks balls. No one wants to be made to feel a fool.

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Table is turned real quick because when he couldn't meet me up, he would do so hard to grab my attention, "generously" throwing compliments at me, "i like you", after the first meet up, he still stated that he did like me but maybe feeling changed, i get it because we are human.

First meet up was just a regular movie night and he walked me a long way to get back to the downtown so i could grab a cab to get home. The second date was just simply taking a walk in his apartment complex ( i also read that capricorn are very private people they won't let you dig into their life unless they have certain feelings for you), and lying by the swimming pool staring at the sky. Man, it was so intense to me because at that moment, i felt something really weird at him, it was like i had met him before cuz it was so familiar to me.

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Posted by Foreverloveme
I just think it's smart to continue as you have been, keeping your feelings guarded to protect yourself, getting to know him better, taking your time.

Nothing is wrong in getting to know him if he starts engaging in conversation. It just seems like sex is what he's after.

I am quiet, shy, reserved especially around people I like until I feel comfortable around them, plus I'm a loner & introvert so I just don't talk much in general

i get it, thanks. but it's more like my feeling and pride were hurt than the fact that he's gone. cuz i'm a leo-virgo cusp and my moon sign is leo so u can tell, leo people are very prideful. i was born in asian culture, though i started engaging with western cultures at very young age as i studied at international school so basically i'm open minded about sex and thingy, but to be honest he stole my first kiss and some first things so more like my pride is hurt haha

I see, I'm sorry to hear that & I know the feeling

it's like karma hits me in the face because at first i planned to play with him but now, see who is playing who.

Right. Take some time & decide what you want at this point in your life

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Thank you 🙂 i know what i want in life, maybe he came across and left for a temporary reason.

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Posted by Foreverloveme
I just think it's smart to continue as you have been, keeping your feelings guarded to protect yourself, getting to know him better, taking your time.

Nothing is wrong in getting to know him if he starts engaging in conversation. It just seems like sex is what he's after.

I am quiet, shy, reserved especially around people I like until I feel comfortable around them, plus I'm a loner & introvert so I just don't talk much in general

i get it, thanks. but it's more like my feeling and pride were hurt than the fact that he's gone. cuz i'm a leo-virgo cusp and my moon sign is leo so u can tell, leo people are very prideful. i was born in asian culture, though i started engaging with western cultures at very young age as i studied at international school so basically i'm open minded about sex and thingy, but to be honest he stole my first kiss and some first things so more like my pride is hurt haha

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I understand how it'd hurt, sweetheart, 'coz my story is kinda similar (but we didn't meet on tinder). I suggest that you just confront him once - "did you come to me only for sex?" And then totally ignore him. If he wanted anything more, he'll come back. And the watch his actions carefully to make out if he's telling the truth or lying. If he doesn't respond, then you must get over him, dear. You deserve better! Good luck!

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Posted by Foreverloveme
I just think it's smart to continue as you have been, keeping your feelings guarded to protect yourself, getting to know him better, taking your time.

Nothing is wrong in getting to know him if he starts engaging in conversation. It just seems like sex is what he's after.

I am quiet, shy, reserved especially around people I like until I feel comfortable around them, plus I'm a loner & introvert so I just don't talk much in general

i get it, thanks. but it's more like my feeling and pride were hurt than the fact that he's gone. cuz i'm a leo-virgo cusp and my moon sign is leo so u can tell, leo people are very prideful. i was born in asian culture, though i started engaging with western cultures at very young age as i studied at international school so basically i'm open minded about sex and thingy, but to be honest he stole my first kiss and some first things so more like my pride is hurt haha

I understand how it'd hurt, sweetheart, 'coz my story is kinda similar (but we didn't meet on tinder). I suggest that you just confront him once - "did you come to me only for sex?" And then totally ignore him. If he wanted anything more, he'll come back. And the watch his actions carefully to make out if he's telling the truth or lying. If he doesn't respond, then you must get over him, dear. You deserve better! Good luck!

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we actually talked about sex issue before, i asked him "are you asking for sex?" and he told me he was not asking for it. who knows.

because on our first meet up, we went for a movie. during movie time he was really concerned about me who wasnt interested in the movie, if i wanted to go out he would take me out, and if my chair was comfy enough. he tried to kiss me but i didn't approve cuz im not type of girl who would go all out for a guy on first date (i'm a virgo so u can tell, i have my own moral tho), later he tricked me to kiss him as i turned left to whisper in his ears that i didn't get that part of the movie (ugh i hate that movie: divergent!) and he told me to repeat cuz he hadnt heard it clearly, as i turned left he kissed me instantly, just a smooch, not french kiss.

after that date we also talked about our feeling and thought i accused him of being a player cuz he was quick and rushed at everything, he was like "if i was player i would have managed better cuz you didn't even want me to grab either kiss you". that's all.

it's just i have a very weird yet strong attraction towards him. i sent him 2,3 messages and none of them were answered. he replied me once for my latest message, after-2-weeks!

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Posted by Foreverloveme
I just think it's smart to continue as you have been, keeping your feelings guarded to protect yourself, getting to know him better, taking your time.

Nothing is wrong in getting to know him if he starts engaging in conversation. It just seems like sex is what he's after.

I am quiet, shy, reserved especially around people I like until I feel comfortable around them, plus I'm a loner & introvert so I just don't talk much in general

i get it, thanks. but it's more like my feeling and pride were hurt than the fact that he's gone. cuz i'm a leo-virgo cusp and my moon sign is leo so u can tell, leo people are very prideful. i was born in asian culture, though i started engaging with western cultures at very young age as i studied at international school so basically i'm open minded about sex and thingy, but to be honest he stole my first kiss and some first things so more like my pride is hurt haha

I see, I'm sorry to hear that & I know the feeling

it's like karma hits me in the face because at first i planned to play with him but now, see who is playing who.

Yeah, we can't play games with this sign. It always backfires lol. I think that's why we like them so much. But I think Cheekyfaerie's advice is solid. 😎

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LOL i know, i got what i deserve for planning to play him at the beginning though haha, games are no longer fun when hearts come its own ways.