@GypsyInChains
10 Years
Capricorn is pissed off...
but he said he wanted to focus on friendship first. So I just assumed.. and based on what's been happening and what our "dates" consisted of I didn't see any real interest beyond sex.
Well you are right in my opinion. Some caps men and my opinion is delusional. I think some can only accept the truth when it's only coming from there own mouth. Its like in relationships or some type of bond they come up with there own rules..like they do one thing but call it something else..Forexample I had a cap friend who said that he and this girl was just getting to know each other but turn around and move in with her..Then he told me noo they are just seeing eachother out..He give me all this logic bullshit but his action said something different. Then he told me months later that he like her but he taking it real slow because he don't no her that well ..A month later he bought her a ring..Then he came up with this logic that it wasn't a engagement ring it was a friendship ring because they got close..He give me a logic run down on that ..a month later he married. He told me that yes he married her because she's a great women but they still working on a friendship and closeness because he still don't know her..I told him to cut the bullshit...you are in love and you got married. I think they talk logic to make them feel safe..meanwhile the actions are the oposite. I seen this in afew caps. I have known.
Not that we dont mean what we say, sometimes we are too slow in realizing how we actually feel. But thats romantic, your friend acted on it despite not being able to verbalise that.
Posted by Foreverloveme
How long have you known him & how long ago did he say focus on friendship? What do dates consist of?
Over two months. All he wants to do is have sex basically. We don't go out anymore.
I guess he called wanting to go out with me but I assumed it was just another sex call from him as usual. So I told him no im not able to do anything. He said why? Told him it was my monthly time and he asked what that had to do with anything.
And I explained that thats what we do. Hang out, netflix and chill. Just friends with benefits. One actual date and since then he never asked to go anywhere
Later he asked if that's all I see him as a f#ck buddy. I said no. But of course he hasn't said anything since.
Cap men want what they want and dont want others to highlight it lol, esp if it sounds bad/makes them look bad. They like to hold up that traditional straight laced guy image.
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Posted by Foreverloveme
How long have you known him & how long ago did he say focus on friendship? What do dates consist of?
Over two months. All he wants to do is have sex basically. We don't go out anymore.
Doesn't sound good imo
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I mean I don't mind that. But I don't understand why he's upset?
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Cap men want what they want and dont want others to highlight it lol, esp if it sounds bad/makes them look bad. They like to hold up that traditional straight laced guy image.
You're probably right haha
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Posted by Foreverloveme
How long have you known him & how long ago did he say focus on friendship? What do dates consist of?
Over two months. All he wants to do is have sex basically. We don't go out anymore.
Doesn't sound good imo
I mean I don't mind that. But I don't understand why he's upset?
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Great manipulators, to keep you firmly focused on him. They dont like to share either, even if you are just fucking. Eyes on him only. It doesnt suit him to have a female that wanders.
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Posted by Foreverloveme
How long have you known him & how long ago did he say focus on friendship? What do dates consist of?
Over two months. All he wants to do is have sex basically. We don't go out anymore.
Doesn't sound good imo
I mean I don't mind that. But I don't understand why he's upset?
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Youve highlighted that youre just fwb's, in his mind that could mean whos to say you dont have other(s) NO BUENO!
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Posted by Foreverloveme
How long have you known him & how long ago did he say focus on friendship? What do dates consist of?
Over two months. All he wants to do is have sex basically. We don't go out anymore.
Doesn't sound good imo
I mean I don't mind that. But I don't understand why he's upset?
Youve highlighted that youre just fwb's, in his mind that could mean whos to say you dont have other(s) NO BUENO!
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True...normally I don't care for labels but that's the only way I see us. When I first met him in thought wow I want him all to myself. But I kinda felt friendzoned.. so I still like him and I guess I'm okay with that. How else am I supposed to think? No idea.
Looked at little at his chart it's Capricorn sun, Leo moon, Capricorn mercury and Aquarius venus
Mars in Sagittarius
Well, feels like too much drama already for me. But I am trying to apologize. I'll give him some space and let him cool down.
Posted by butterfly30
Well you are right in my opinion. Some caps men and my opinion is delusional. I think some can only accept the truth when it's only coming from there own mouth. Its like in relationships or some type of bond they come up with there own rules..like they do one thing but call it something else..Forexample I had a cap friend who said that he and this girl was just getting to know each other but turn around and move in with her..Then he told me noo they are just seeing eachother out..He give me all this logic bullshit but his action said something different. Then he told me months later that he like her but he taking it real slow because he don't no her that well ..A month later he bought her a ring..Then he came up with this logic that it wasn't a engagement ring it was a friendship ring because they got close..He give me a logic run down on that ..a month later he married. He told me that yes he married her because she's a great women but they still working on a friendship and closeness because he still don't know her..I told him to cut the bullshit...you are in love and you got married. I think they talk logic to make them feel safe..meanwhile the actions are the oposite. I seen this in afew caps. I have known.
Lack of self awareness is a common theme. Walk up to a Capricorn colleague and genuinely asked, "Hi! How are you feeling?" They'll look at you like a deer in headlights.
Lost in their thoughts? Hmmm, makes sense. It seems that every reply, every action and reaction is a logical and measured one, a non-feeling, non-engaging one?
Question: is the disregard for your own feelings and emotional needs, and sometimes of others, a conscious or subconscious one? Are feelings and emotions devalued and dismissed because they can be unpredictable, illogical, petty or pathetic in your eyes? Do you discard what you feel cannot be controlled?
Posted by Foreverloveme
He's upset because how you referred to him
Exactly
I dont know, why people can be so insenstive and label others with this deragotary FWB nonsense term...... it is because of self-defence?
why would you insult people? if you cannot say something nice, then just be quiet.....
I can imagine how his Leo moon would be offended by your insensitivity....
even if thats a situation from your point of view, why use this term? just dont label each other
I think i was in a similar situation, and I said no to a fwb situation. He commented all he wanted was to continue going on dates. And he has been making efforts to meet for dinner or drinks and not back at the apt.
I dunno if my situation will eventually work out, but maybe you should let him know you want more and see how he acts on it.
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Posted by Foreverloveme
He's upset because how you referred to him
Exactly
I dont know, why people can be so insenstive and label others with this deragotary FWB nonsense term...... it is because of self-defence?
why would you insult people? if you cannot say something nice, then just be quiet.....
I can imagine how his Leo moon would be offended by your insensitivity....
even if thats a situation from your point of view, why use this term? just dont label each other
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Yeah I guess. I wasn't trying to hurt him. I genuinely thought that's what he wanted us to be.
I don't like labels honestly but at this point I didn't want to fool myself and hope for more so I guess that's kind of a defense thing. Hmm.
Im tryin to fix it.. because I really like him.
Posted by Foreverloveme
What's wrong with him being a friend period without all the extra
Nothing at all, honestly. He's pretty good in the bedroom but itd be nice to start over and focus on being closer.
I don't know if he wants to do that.
Then again, I have been assuming things about him and have been totally wrong up until this point.
I don't actually know him. And that makes me sad..
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Cap men want what they want and dont want others to highlight it lol, esp if it sounds bad/makes them look bad. They like to hold up that traditional straight laced guy image.
EXACTLY. If his actions are demonstrating that he just wants sex and minimum effort and no meaning, then that is your truth. Dont let him try to deflect and pretend like it is something that it isnt.
He just wants to lead you on and keep you thinking he sees "potential" or more with you BUT if he isnt doing more than his words are meaningless.
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Posted by Foreverloveme
He's upset because how you referred to him
Exactly
I dont know, why people can be so insenstive and label others with this deragotary FWB nonsense term...... it is because of self-defence?
why would you insult people? if you cannot say something nice, then just be quiet.....
I can imagine how his Leo moon would be offended by your insensitivity....
even if thats a situation from your point of view, why use this term? just dont label each other
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Oh bullshit..what absolute shit..he would classify her the same..he's just mad she beat him to it. Its all ego.
Posted by Jalent99
I think i was in a similar situation, and I said no to a fwb situation. He commented all he wanted was to continue going on dates. And he has been making efforts to meet for dinner or drinks and not back at the apt.I dunno if my situation will eventually work out, but maybe you should let him know you want more and see how he acts on it.
How is your situation any similar if he said he just wanted to date and court you. Totally different circumstance here.
But OP you should say "hey, if you dont like being referred to this then what are we, because it seems like this is only sex and nothing more."
In my opinion, Capricorns are not good at sharing their feelings so it is possible he likes you more than he has said. I also read that sex and love are the same for a Capricorn, but I'm not sure how much truth there is to that. If you like him, tell him what you want and he might be more open to giving it to you than you think!
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Posted by Jalent99
I think i was in a similar situation, and I said no to a fwb situation. He commented all he wanted was to continue going on dates. And he has been making efforts to meet for dinner or drinks and not back at the apt.I dunno if my situation will eventually work out, but maybe you should let him know you want more and see how he acts on it.
How is your situation any similar if he said he just wanted to date and court you. Totally different circumstance here.
But OP you should say "hey, if you dont like being referred to this then what are we, because it seems like this is only sex and nothing more."
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Cause I said all we are seems like fwb, if thats the case I m walking away, thats when he said he wanted dates....
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Posted by Foreverloveme
How long have you known him & how long ago did he say focus on friendship? What do dates consist of?
Over two months. All he wants to do is have sex basically. We don't go out anymore.
Oh I missed this part. You had sex with him too soon. Nothing will fix his behavior he has you categorized but wont tell you to your face. He is keeping up his front to get laid again. If you want to land a cap man make him wait untilhe has taken you out of the friendzone.
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actually, there is something what could fix his behaviour...... sleep with him and only with him..... they take time to admit their feelings..... I am sure he is not sleeping with anyobdy else
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Posted by Pandora101
Posted by Foreverloveme
He's upset because how you referred to him
Exactly
I dont know, why people can be so insenstive and label others with this deragotary FWB nonsense term...... it is because of self-defence?
why would you insult people? if you cannot say something nice, then just be quiet.....
I can imagine how his Leo moon would be offended by your insensitivity....
even if thats a situation from your point of view, why use this term? just dont label each other
Oh bullshit..what absolute shit..he would classify her the same..he's just mad she beat him to it. Its all ego.
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or maybe not 🙂 mallory, you are now on a war-path.... not everybody is a scorp mars or aries moon.... and with leo pride.....
some people are just reserved.... like cappys.... nothing will help then then consistency... (yes, maybe sometimes its good to call them on their behavior)
U would say Cap men might fall in love with someone they slp with over time?
I always thought its just a women thing.....
OP - how old is the Cap in question? Does he have much dating experience? It's said that Caps age in reverse. In my (limited) experience with a young Cap male, they can date in reverse as well.
You read all over the Internet about how "if a guy knows he wants you, you won't have any doubt about where you stand" - especially with a Cap. This is true - however the key part of that phrase is if he knows. Most young and/or inexperienced people have no idea who they are or what they want. A better litmus test (again, just in my opinion), is whether they know what they *don't* want and whether they can articulate why.
From what you've written here, your Cap doesn't want to be labeled as a FWB. I'd ask some gentle follow up questions as to why. Present it as finding out what about that term and life style he objects to as opposed to asking him what he wants out of the relationship. Concentrate on what he *doesn't want* out of your interactions instead of what he *does want*.. because chances are, he's unsure at this point.
I had what I thought was a FWB with a younger male Cap, for much the same reasons you thought you were in a FWB with yours. He only ever invited me over, never out, etc. Come to find out, my Cap was singing my praises to everyone we knew and telling them we were dating. Imagine my surprise.
Or decide what you're okay with and then let him know that.
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Posted by Foreverloveme
How long have you known him & how long ago did he say focus on friendship? What do dates consist of?
Over two months. All he wants to do is have sex basically. We don't go out anymore.
Oh I missed this part. You had sex with him too soon. Nothing will fix his behavior he has you categorized but wont tell you to your face. He is keeping up his front to get laid again. If you want to land a cap man make him wait untilhe has taken you out of the friendzone.
actually, there is something what could fix his behaviour...... sleep with him and only with him..... they take time to admit their feelings..... I am sure he is not sleeping with anyobdy else
A woman would be fooling herself to continue sleeping with a man who doesn't take her out, spoil her and treated her like a woman should be treated. She can get sex anywhere but nothing is more satisfying than a man who wants the same thing you want and puts forth the effort without being pushed to.
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maybe the OP should suggest a date herself..... like not a date, but if they are prone to meet up, then go out and text him or call him, you just got to go out (some emergency) and now is sitting in a pub, with a drink, and he should meet you there
and maybe this Cap has no money for dates?
with some man, if you stick around, sleeping with them and only with them (and there is some other bonding, like ideas or anything), they will fall in love, but not over 2 months, it takes longer
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Posted by malloryor
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Posted by Foreverloveme
He's upset because how you referred to him
Exactly
I dont know, why people can be so insenstive and label others with this deragotary FWB nonsense term...... it is because of self-defence?
why would you insult people? if you cannot say something nice, then just be quiet.....
I can imagine how his Leo moon would be offended by your insensitivity....
even if thats a situation from your point of view, why use this term? just dont label each other
Oh bullshit..what absolute shit..he would classify her the same..he's just mad she beat him to it. Its all ego.
or maybe not 🙂 mallory, you are now on a war-path.... not everybody is a scorp mars or aries moon.... and with leo pride.....
some people are just reserved.... like cappys.... nothing will help then then consistency... (yes, maybe sometimes its good to call them on their behavior)
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There is no warpath and this has nothing to do with Leo pride or Aries Moondom. This is illusion vs reality and the reality is that this cappy has not made any effort to see the OP out of the bedroom. If he wanted more, he would of exemplified that through action, but instead he has shown through his action where his intentions rest.
It's absolute bs to then feel sorry for him, when the OP called it like it was. He's playing games instead of being clear. If he wants more he should do more, dont say one thing but then lead with a different action, especially when sex is involved. It's just plain cruel..
I applaud the OP for doing the exact opposite of what most females do on here, which is follow the approach of giving the man the benefit of doubt despite his actions showing them all.they need to know.
The guy is full of shit. And he cant stand that she beat him to the point of defining them so now he feels cheap. It's ego.
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Posted by Foreverloveme
He's upset because how you referred to him
Exactly
I dont know, why people can be so insenstive and label others with this deragotary FWB nonsense term...... it is because of self-defence?
why would you insult people? if you cannot say something nice, then just be quiet.....
I can imagine how his Leo moon would be offended by your insensitivity....
even if thats a situation from your point of view, why use this term? just dont label each other
Oh bullshit..what absolute shit..he would classify her the same..he's just mad she beat him to it. Its all ego.
or maybe not 🙂 mallory, you are now on a war-path.... not everybody is a scorp mars or aries moon.... and with leo pride.....
some people are just reserved.... like cappys.... nothing will help then then consistency... (yes, maybe sometimes its good to call them on their behavior)
There is no warpath and this has nothing to do with Leo pride or Aries Moondom. This is illusion vs reality and the reality is that this cappy has not made any effort to see the OP out of the bedroom. If he wanted more, he would of exemplified that through action, but instead he has shown through his action where his intentions rest.
It's absolute bs to then feel sorry for him, when the OP called it like it was. He's playing games instead of being clear. If he wants more he should do more, dont say one thing but then lead with a different action, especially when sex is involved. It's just plain cruel..
I applaud the OP for doing the exact opposite of what most females do on here, which is follow the approach of giving the man the benefit of doubt despite his actions showing them all.they need to know.
The guy is full of shit. And he cant stand that she beat him to the point of defining them so now he feels cheap. It's ego.
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I agree with mallor. It's all ego and he doesn't like being reduced to fwb, even if it's what it is. YOU reduced him and his ego is crushed.
When they are serious about someone this is not the behavior.
People already said this but he is full of shit. this is a guy that don't like the titles bullshit because it's not comin from his own mouth. It goes back to me talking about how i seen cap men say one thing but do the opposite. I think he don't want to label fwb because he don't want you looking anywhere else but he can still act that way. Action not lining up to what he actually doing. I going to be honest it all have to do with control. Like when I spoke about my friend he was still getting deep in a relationship but calling it a friendship. .or getting to know her. I have another cap homeboy that's married ..Told me he is not in love anymore with his wife but in September they are moving in a new house. When I ask him why are you buying a house when he been talking about planning for a divorce he told me it's because she want a house and how he tired of paying rent. In my opinion he is just too lonely to leave her but complain about being unhappy. He will never admit to it..but he sware down that he is unhappy ..planning a divorce..but buying him and he's wife a house. And he will give me a great speech on where his marriage stand now ..talking great logic by doing something totally different.
Posted by butterfly30
People already said this but he is full of shit. this is a guy that don't like the titles bullshit because it's not comin from his own mouth. It goes back to me talking about how i seen cap men say one thing but do the opposite. I think he don't want to label fwb because he don't want you looking anywhere else but he can still act that way. Action not lining up to what he actually doing. I going to be honest it all have to do with control. Like when I spoke about my friend he was still getting deep in a relationship but calling it a friendship. .or getting to know her. I have another cap homeboy that's married ..Told me he is not in love anymore with his wife but in September they are moving in a new house. When I ask him why are you buying a house when he been talking about planning for a divorce he told me it's because she want a house and how he tired of paying rent. In my opinion he is just too lonely to leave her but complain about being unhappy. He will never admit to it..but he sware down that he is unhappy ..planning a divorce..but buying him and he's wife a house. And he will give me a great speech on where his marriage stand now ..talking great logic by doing something totally different.
do we know, if he (the OP´s cap) is sleeping with anybody else? if he has money for dates?
OP, come back and update please 🙂
Posted by butterfly30
Well you are right in my opinion. Some caps men and my opinion is delusional. I think some can only accept the truth when it's only coming from there own mouth. Its like in relationships or some type of bond they come up with there own rules..like they do one thing but call it something else..Forexample I had a cap friend who said that he and this girl was just getting to know each other but turn around and move in with her..Then he told me noo they are just seeing eachother out..He give me all this logic bullshit but his action said something different. Then he told me months later that he like her but he taking it real slow because he don't no her that well ..A month later he bought her a ring..Then he came up with this logic that it wasn't a engagement ring it was a friendship ring because they got close..He give me a logic run down on that ..a month later he married. He told me that yes he married her because she's a great women but they still working on a friendship and closeness because he still don't know her..I told him to cut the bullshit...you are in love and you got married. I think they talk logic to make them feel safe..meanwhile the actions are the oposite. I seen this in afew caps. I have known.
Oh, Butterfly30! That's kinda crazy! But you've given me some a new perspective now. So they should call it 'A', till then it's not 'A', even if they feel so? OK... I understand this, but I don't know if this applies to the Cap I'm dealing with, or should I say frustrated with!?
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Posted by butterfly30
People already said this but he is full of shit. this is a guy that don't like the titles bullshit because it's not comin from his own mouth. It goes back to me talking about how i seen cap men say one thing but do the opposite. I think he don't want to label fwb because he don't want you looking anywhere else but he can still act that way. Action not lining up to what he actually doing. I going to be honest it all have to do with control. Like when I spoke about my friend he was still getting deep in a relationship but calling it a friendship. .or getting to know her. I have another cap homeboy that's married ..Told me he is not in love anymore with his wife but in September they are moving in a new house. When I ask him why are you buying a house when he been talking about planning for a divorce he told me it's because she want a house and how he tired of paying rent. In my opinion he is just too lonely to leave her but complain about being unhappy. He will never admit to it..but he sware down that he is unhappy ..planning a divorce..but buying him and he's wife a house. And he will give me a great speech on where his marriage stand now ..talking great logic by doing something totally different.do we know, if he (the OP´s cap) is sleeping with anybody else? if he has money for dates?
OP, come back and update please 🙂
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No idea if he slept with someone else rather than just me.
Most likely yes.
He paid for everything wasn't cheap or stingy let me get whatever I'd like. If I offered to pay for something or even tip he got offended.
Anyways, I'm pretty sure this is done with. It was interesting while it lasted.
I mean. I only assumed and I assumed wrong I guess.
I admit I made an error but I actually liked him alot.. And since I hurt his feelings we are not talking anymore.
I wasn't going to get my hopes up and think he wanted more. He truly had me confused. On what we were doing.
But I get what you're saying
Its a defense mechanism. I tried beat him to the punch and it backfired.
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Posted by butterfly30
Well you are right in my opinion. Some caps men and my opinion is delusional. I think some can only accept the truth when it's only coming from there own mouth. Its like in relationships or some type of bond they come up with there own rules..like they do one thing but call it something else..Forexample I had a cap friend who said that he and this girl was just getting to know each other but turn around and move in with her..Then he told me noo they are just seeing eachother out..He give me all this logic bullshit but his action said something different. Then he told me months later that he like her but he taking it real slow because he don't no her that well ..A month later he bought her a ring..Then he came up with this logic that it wasn't a engagement ring it was a friendship ring because they got close..He give me a logic run down on that ..a month later he married. He told me that yes he married her because she's a great women but they still working on a friendship and closeness because he still don't know her..I told him to cut the bullshit...you are in love and you got married. I think they talk logic to make them feel safe..meanwhile the actions are the oposite. I seen this in afew caps. I have known.
OMG THAT IS SO FUNNY!!! LOL!! I'M DEAD!!!
Next thing you know: *has a baby with her*
"I decided to impregnate her because we got super, duper close and I thought we could raise a child together."
LOL!!!
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Lmao..it's his logic..imagine me tellin him how none of this shit doesn't make sense...he still come up with more excuses.
Posted by CAPLOCKISBACK
I swear alot of these threads about FWB Capricorn is a lie. Its almost never the Capricorn guy chasing but being chased. True story. Look at the thread history.You claim that we want what we can't have. Trust me, when Capricorns really want something...they will certainly get it.
Also That's why a few of you girls are so pissed off here. You're pissed because Capricorns leave and don't look back.
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...and I'm very confused at the moment?
Apparently this man is offended because I referred to him as a fwb? But that's what we are though... not once did we ever talk relationships or possibilities but he said he wants to be friends first. So I assumed that's what he meant? We had one actual date everything else has been "chill".